90-Day Challenge

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happy1life said:
I failed again after 8 days.
Now i realized that i am an ordinary person
i cannot help doing that
i feel regret
but i must be honest, i dont want to tell a lie, i dont want to cheat myself.
today is day 0.
May god have mercy on me, i really really need help.
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It might help if you write down in detail what happened and how you're spending your day. Also what you learned from what happened and how you will prevent it from happening.

Writing the details down might help enforce the commitment and also reveal something about yourself you didn't realize earlier. These triggers are not failures; it's an opportunity to learn about ourselves to be more rooted and grounded, which is ultimately what attracts a woman. My two cents.
 
Carmo said:
It might help if you write down in detail what happened and how you're spending your day. Also what you learned from what happened and how you will prevent it from happening.

Writing the details down might help enforce the commitment and also reveal something about yourself you didn't realize earlier. These triggers are not failures; it's an opportunity to learn about ourselves to be more rooted and grounded, which is ultimately what attracts a woman. My two cents.
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Thanks for your suggestion, i think find triggers is a very good suggestion.
I will write it down, and find the reason instead of doing it without reason.
 
DAY 1
When I was studying, I encountered difficult content that I didn’t want to see; when I was bored in bed, when I was doing nothing in an unsuitable environment; when I was under pressure at work, I told myself that I could find some way to vent When I was upset with my wife's quarrel, etc...
I found that in these cases I would pick up my mobile phone and then logged into the porn site even not even realizing it, and then I couldn't help or unconsciously masturbate when I saw pornographic content.

In these two failures (each time can only last for a week), I found that there are two factors that lead to my failure -
1. External reasons Mobile phones and computers (especially mobile phones, I almost never leave)
2. Subjective reasons: I always don't want to solve the problem, delay the problem, and have no courage to face and solve the problem. The existence of the mobile phone has led me to have an easy channel to defeat my willpower.
So, I want to do something first: stay away from my phone and break my network.
I can't guarantee that I can improve my willpower right away, so I can't give myself any channel to find online pornography.
I will report my practice in this area every day.
 
Day 12/90
it has been a tough day. The urges kept coming, they didn't give me a chance to breathe, but i managed to deal with them. I kept reminding myself that i should not try to demolish the urges, just learn to live with them. I am still at the beginning phase but after that, i will be much easier
 
I have so much energy today. The journey worth it man. It makes you feel shit at first through withdrawn, but people told me that I look happy today. I even had a courage today to approach a girl for a number. She did not give the number, but it is fine. It was a great experience. I learned how to overcome my uncomfortable. Need to refine my strategy. Picking up is not bad. Be proactive. Girl never come naturally. Get out there and practice. Man date a girl is an art. You have to keep refining it. For every 100 swing, you may hit one. Never know. Next time, for a new strategy. I will talk to her first. Just a small talk- hi, how are you,... Let her think over. If I have a second chance to talk to her again, I will ask for her number, if not ask for facebook profile. This is more likely she is going to give it to you.
 
Day 20/90
Woo-hoo!
I'm doing good. But don't want to let my guard down so easily. No place right now for over confidence. I'm not being as productive with my extra time, resorting to Netflix -- but I'm slowly switching to reading.

On another note, I started chatting with this girl and she's quite flirtatious. I will probably go on a date with her this Sunday. My aim is to tell her about my PIED issue. I want to do this to get over any possible shame. I'm also wondering if she'd be interested in helping me out with rewiring later through a practice of karezza. Let's see how it goes.
 
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