Can you even "reboot" really?

Deleted Account · Aug 14, 2020

thinking_differently said: ↑

Do you agree that the problem is LUST?
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Depends on your priorities. It can be troublesome, but if you can manage it according to your priorities, then there's no problem whatsoever. Like Deysonn I don't think it's unnatural, hence you can't get rid of it completely.

thinking_differently · Aug 14, 2020

7Tails said: ↑

Depends on your priorities. It can be troublesome, but if you can manage it according to your priorities, then there's no problem whatsoever. Like Deysonn I don't think it's unnatural, hence you can't get rid of it completely.
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Yes. I believe its existence can’t be controlled, but its consequences can be regulated and handled.
You learn how to Handle, not Control, HANDLE lust, sexual addiction can be fought efficiently.

Deleted Account · Aug 14, 2020

7Tails said: ↑

So I've been abstaining from porn and masturbation for over half a year at this point. And due to my relationship status (404) that means I've been in the "monk mode" for all this time. I must say that so far I haven't noticed a lot of benefits for myself. Same thoughts come to my head from time to time and in many ways I am still the same old me. I have no intention of stopping tho, I just have a thing or two to say about the concept of "rebooting".

First, I've seen multiple "success stories" here and on YouTube where through just quitting porn the author becomes a much happier person. Confidence goes through the roof and they become the hero of their own lives. If it is so in your case then good for you, but what kind of message these stories convey to many people. Something to remember is that a reboot is not a panacea. If you're lonely, depressed, anxious and/or generally unhappy with your current state of affairs, chances are porn is not the main culprit. You'll have to address each issue on it's own.

Second, about the effectiveness of the rebooting process. Will you stop wanting to look at porn after 90 days? Eh, probably not. From my experience not even after 180 days. And as evidence of people relapsing after years-long streaks shows not even after those amazing streaks. I bet if I would rely on just reaching 90 days to quit porn I would still be watching it every other day. Here's a recipe to quit porn:

Maybe someone already said all of this, but oh well..
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I suppose that’s why an addict is ALWAYS an addict. So the true task is managing the relapse. Not the cure. Although I am aware there are instances when some people reach the goal of clean for a lifetime. However the human condition is such that it is exotic. No one is perfect. There is merit and truth in trying and hoping. Not punishing. Everyone’s approach is different right or wrong. Loving your brothers and sisters along the way is the great commission. It’s all we have. I wish you well. Thanks for being a voice. Peace.

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Can you even "reboot" really?

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