Coming out of my Porn Coma (Day 365)

[Psalm27:1my light]

Great story man, it inspires me but I have a question: how do you feel free if you consider yourself an addict in recovery? I mean, is it an everlasting condition? I thought that once rebooted you just change your life and porn is not anymore a part of it cause even if you find yourself in a condition where you absently look at some pictures you’ll have methods to cope with them and your brain is gonna be different from the previous one that indulged in those things
when you tell me you’re still not healed what do you mean? Do I also have to keep living with a sense of void, anxiety and insomnia for all of my life if one year still isn’t enough?

Have you watched the backwards bicycle? It basically shows how your neuropathways work and how you must overwrite old ones with new, but the old ones are always there. Do you really think in one year you will change 10, 15,20 years of addiction?

 

[i_wanna_get_better1]

This is an old post. I'm now 7 years PM, MO, and PMO-free. I don't think addictive behavior disappears even if you replace your coping skills with healthy ones. In times of stress or boredom your brain still suggests it. But I worry about transferring my addictive behavior to something else like gaming. I have to be forever vigilant.

 

[Psalm27:1my light]

This is an old post. I'm now 7 years PM, MO, and PMO-free. I don't think addictive behavior disappears even if you replace your coping skills with healthy ones. In times of stress or boredom your brain still suggests it. But I worry about transferring my addictive behavior to something else like gaming. I have to be forever vigilant.

Yeah, my husband had to give up gaming. He just couldn’t do it in moderation. He started new hobbies like golf lol, that he can do once or twice a week and it’s with friends so “ connection” rather than isolating on a computer.

 

[hokipa]

This is an old post. I'm now 7 years PM, MO, and PMO-free. I don't think addictive behavior disappears even if you replace your coping skills with healthy ones. In times of stress or boredom your brain still suggests it. But I worry about transferring my addictive behavior to something else like gaming. I have to be forever vigilant.

Well actually, if you manage to cope with stress and other difficult stuff in your life without indulgin in P anymore it actually means you’re healed
The fact that sometimes your brain suggests it doesn’t mean you’re gonna do it, it’s literally a thought, doesn’t have to become an action

If someone considers himself an “Addict in recovery” for life how should heavy drugs addicted live like? In a sempiternal fear that they could fall again in that trap? I don’t think someone should always have that fear, once healed you know what you experienced, what a hell you’ve been into and you also learned new healthy ways of dealing with life challenges, and if that happens for more than 5 years you’re a whole new person that simply doesn’t watch P, not an addict under vigilance, obviously that’s my thought

 

[hokipa]

Have you watched the backwards bicycle? It basically shows how your neuropathways work and how you must overwrite old ones with new, but the old ones are always there. Do you really think in one year you will change 10, 15,20 years of addiction?

Well, maybe you won’t in one year, but in 7 years you literally become another person, I think you can consider yourself healed (neuroscientist actually give a span of 1 to 3 years for most severe cases)
maybe those who had a 25/30+ years of addiction will need 3 years, maybe you will need 1 year for a lighter addiction, but in 7 years you should totally be out of the woods, if you keep remembering why P is wrong, even during stressful times

 

[hokipa]

This is an old post. I'm now 7 years PM, MO, and PMO-free. I don't think addictive behavior disappears even if you replace your coping skills with healthy ones. In times of stress or boredom your brain still suggests it. But I worry about transferring my addictive behavior to something else like gaming. I have to be forever vigilant.

And after how long did your withdrawals completely disappear? (Anxiety, depression, insomnia, void) Not decreased, I mean when did they totally disappear