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Dead to Sin and Alive in Christ

For Fapstronauts who are disciples of Christ

  1. Sometimes we have to let sin run its course. It is a tragedy. Just know that the Father awaits to receive you back home with arms open wide whenever you come to your senses, just as the prodigal did one fateful day while rooting around in the pigs' slop.

    Do not wait too long, though! We are not promised tomorrow. The very best day to draw near to God is always the same: TODAY.

    I have been where you are, many, many times. I am praying for you. May you feel the warmth of God's love in whatever cold, dark place you find yourself today!
     
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  2. We only change when the pain is greater than the fear of change.
     
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  3. Kemar935

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    When do you know you reached that point?
     
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  4. CPilot

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    Its a good question and no doubt MyFortress can answer it better than I. I can only relate my own experience. I hid from myself the extent of the pain that I was in. I found ways to delude myself about the damage I was doing and I deluded myself about the seriousness of my sin. I built up a public persona to hide my private one and I kept it up all of my waking hours. It was only when confessing my sins to God that the true pain and the true damage came to the forefront of my mind.
     
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  5. When you finally determine that your new life with God is worth giving up what does not satisfy. For me personally, it was the times I quit PMO for more than a month and the closeness of fellowship and confidence in the Lord would return. I finally got to the point where I did not want to lose my close fellowship and assurance in the Lord. Now that closeness is continually increasing and now the Lord has revealed to me my purpose and completely transformed me into a new person, heart mind, soul, body. There is still constant temptations but they have no power over me because I am living what is better.
     
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  6. Part of God giving you over to your sinful desires is he lets you find enough satisfaction in it to never stop doing it. You keep living in your sins without repentance always questioning your assurance or not even caring about it. You never realize the life God has for you. Your never find your purpose. Never use your talents for his glory. Never experienced blessing or approval.

    'For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. ' Romans 1:21-25 https://my.bible.com/bible/59/ROM.1.21-25
     
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  7. A terrible prospect! May our awareness of our deprivation grow daily and drive us each day to his provision! Apart from him, we can do nothing!
     
  8. Kemar935

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    Thanks for your answer! And also CPilots! I really long for this day to come were I'm close enough to God that my urges don't have control over me anymore. The longest streak I've ever had, was about 6 weeks. During that time I felt so happy, like true happiness that didn't seem to depend on what situation or day you were in. But at that time I also had a girlfriend (that's why I was insistent on not watching PM, because I knew this would be very wrong) so I've always thought the reason I felt so happy in that period of time was because I was in a relationship with her. Maybe I got it all wrong, and it was because I was close to God during that time?
     
  9. Good day fellows.
    This is what's happening right now in my life. I feel the purity inside of me, a pure and wonderful power that feeds my will to go closer and closer to the Father. After years of pmo, trial and error. In Christs name, let this be the time I'm only going forwards not backwards.
    There still are some ropes bound to me. I give everything to Jesus. Then let's see what's coming.
    Sadly I know this is true.
    I'm still struggling in own power. My life isn't blessed. My finances are not blessed.
    How do I rediscover Gods plan with my life?
    How did you guys discover Gods plan with your life?
     
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    It is an interesting observation but perhaps there is a third explanation for what you experienced? Could it be that by virtue of the fact you were having a relationship with your girlfriend that wasn't diverted by the false promises of P, that you were not only closer to God but also closer to your girlfriend? I think we need to acknowledge that P has several insidious effects on us. As you know, it not only distances us from God because it is against His will, but it also distances us from other people. In the case of men, it perverts our thoughts about women and makes it difficult for us to relate to them as friends rather than mere sex objects.
     
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  11. Give everything to God. Hold back nothing for yourself. Your entire life is his.
    Then, follow him each day, as he leads.
    Voila! You are living out his plan for your life. Easy! :)
    (Easier said than done, of course, but I don't think it's much more complicated than that.)
     
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  12. That does sound like what freedom feels like. Or, perhaps as you suggest, you were putting your hope in the new relationship and that’s where the carefree happy feelings were coming from?
     
  13. Staying pure, practicing spiritual disciplines, spending time with the Lord, becoming an active church member, and looking for ways to serve that fit with your God given talents and abilities. Doing this will help you tune into the Lord. He will start prompting your heart. He will encourage you to have healthy relationships with other believers. He can also use others to disciple us and point out our gifts, work on our weaknesses, and point out opportunities. Trying different opportunities to serve. Everyone on Nofap has a ministry to to help others escape porn by sharing their pain, successes, and holding others accountable. If you are faithful, God will bring you to the next level. Porn keeps us stuck in a rut, of o growth, no opportunity.
     
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  14. Kemar935

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    It think this is very likely the case yes. It hurts to admit, but yes P definitelly distances us from other people, I've experienced this too.
     
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    I recently read this. I think someone posted this article on Nofap, maybe Tao, I forgot. It's not directly answering any of your questions, but I thought I'd share it anyway

    "There is no such thing as the right place, the right job, the right calling or ministry. I can be happy or unhappy in all situations. I am sure of it, because I have been. I have felt distraught and joyful in situations of abundance as well as poverty, in situations of popularity and anonymity, in situations of success and failure. The difference was never based on the situation itself, but always on my state of mind and heart. When I knew I was walking with God, I always felt happy and at peace. When I was entangled in my own complaints and emotional needs, I always felt restless and divided. "

    Henri Nouwen
     
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    It's difficult to say really, it's been quite a while a go :)
     
  17. Thank you for the replies guys! That's really appreciated!
    I take the responses into my own journal to work them out there!
    Have a great day!
     
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  18. Good idea! I do the same thing. Most of the things I post are from my journal.
     
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  19. 'As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. ' Genesis 50:20
    Evil>God>Good
    What the enemy has to do to be successful in his schemes is to keep God out so the good doesn’t come about. If Satan can keep God out of the middle, he can keep evil in control as the dominant influence in that situation. But the moment you allow God into the situation and put your focus on Him, God turns evil into good. Throughout Scripture we can see the pain and suffering of this present life transformed into life and purpose when God is brought to bear on it.
    [LifeWay Adults (2021). (p. 88). MasterWork Personal Study Guide - Fall 2021. LifeWay Press. Retrieved from https://read.lifeway.com] Dr. Tony Evans "Detours"
     
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  20. When I was mired in PMO, I was selfish, self absorbed, hurting, and not addressing my pain. I would escape from reality instead of facing my reality, I was dead, numb, and my life was mostly joyless. I was not at all connected to God or other people, by my own choosing.

    After I quit PMO, I started enjoying the simple pleasures of life that I was missing, in my work, relationships, and especially my relationship with the Lord. Now my life has purpose, meaning and Joy, regardless of the circumstances. Now I see pain as a chance to learn, grow, and get closer to my father. I no longer run to the escape I run to Him.
     
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