Did I relapse?

This a few paragraphs long but also my most important post so far so I'd very much appreciate anyone looking through it and giving me feedback.

So far I've been going decently strong. Going about 3 weeks, a few urges and bumps in the road, and even a couple of hellish days but I always got through and kept going. My original goal was no PMO: so I can't deliberately look at porn (images/videos that I would use as masturbation material) and I can't masturbate to orgasm (with or without porn). But something grey just happened to my black and white commitment.

Since rebooting I've had a couple of wet dreams, which is fine, I personally don't consider this a relapse, they don't seem to effect my motivation, libido, confidence, etc. plus I can't control them. But lately these little occurrences have given me some minor problems. See, one night I woke up from a dream, and I couldn't remember what it was but I know that I almost came in my sleep, but didn't, and I while still half asleep I touched myself for a few seconds before falling back asleep. No big deal. Another time, while touching myself, I fully woke up and simply stopped. This gave me blue balls, which gave me urges, but I simply shrugged it off the shoulder and moved on. Last night it happened again. I woke up from a dream I couldn't remember, but it must have been sexual as I was really hard. While still half-asleep I reached down there and touched myself, and I actually came. As soon as this happened I fully woke up, realized what I'd done, and felt regret about it.

The thing is, I have sleeping problems in general. I have insomnia. I also have dreams within dreams (like in the movie Inception) where I wake up from a dream within my dream, and then wake up in real life. I also have dreams where I realize it's not reality but can't wake up (which allows me to do certain things like flying). I also have dreams where I fully realize I'm asleep but can't wake up no matter how hard I try, like being trapped in a movie. Or the opposite, where I'm awake but can't control any of my motor movements and get out of bed, like being frozen in ice (this is the scariest sensation). What happened was more along the lines of the last thing I described. I was awake, realized I was awake, but had just woken up and was still half asleep and not really in control of my motor movements and I didn't have any inhibitions.

So now the ultimate question: should I reset my timer? I feel like maybe I should see the long-term effects of this before I do. Or should I just have no mercy and no excuses and call this what it simply was: I jerked off, I fucked up, I relapsed. I feel like maybe I'm making excuses and should just accept this for what it is, a relapse. Then again, if I start over again and consider this day 0, it would honestly tempt me to have a "why bother since I'm at zero anyway" mentality. I almost feel like someone who got really drunk and had sex and then asked themselves if it counted lol. Ugh. So anyway, I want to know, what's your opinion?

Edit: I'd also like to add really quick that mentally, I wasn't fantasizing about anything at all, it was purely physical, even autosexual ... like I was turned on by my own self, which is kind of weird as I don't identify as being autosexual ... but that's what happened. Just saying, in case what was happening in my head matters to the question. I mean, I think it does.