Femdom Addiction Huge

Hi and welcome to NoFap. You say you want to quit femdom. That's a good starting point. Unfortunately there is no trick to end it, no shortcut, no quickfix. Depends on how compulsive it has become for you, how addicted you are. Pretty much it sounds. If you want to stop be prepared for some rough moments. Physically and mentally. How willing are you to go through with it? As there is no way around you need to go through. It is possible. Depends on how ready you are to accept, surrender, have a clear vision, a plan, a strategy, some tools and then do the work. How does that sound?

 

Yea I’m into that stuff, slightly gone off the transwomen which is good. But do get turned on by a posh Bitch in pvc etc. There’s a side of me that wants to f her brains out for being such a bitch but there’s also a side that wants to surrender. Do we just accept that is how we are! Is there underline issues that push us into these fetishes or do we have to go for massive periods of no orgasm to put us off it? I find the longer a abstain from sex the more kinky I want it. And if I’ve messed up my stint what better way of punishing myself sexually than femdom transwoman crap!

 

Yeah man. I sometimes still get like that tbh. But I’m getting over it quite a bit. And honestly i owe a lot to my girlfriend. I was working on it myself. And doing pretty good. It’s going away with no thoughts, than randomly come back. Usually triggered by some kind of brainwashing like small p. When I found my gf though. She got me going a lot. Just thought of being with her got me going and made me forget all about it. But it has come back from time because I worry about my p being too small. But. Here’s the thing. I told her about what happened before and all that. And it really helps having someone completely there for you. She’ll sometimes randomly be like you’re so manly and a real man, and you have a big p. My favourite one I’ve ever seen . It really does help having a good supportive partner that is actually there for you. But before she came around. I was making pretty good progress by just deciding randomly I’m done with it. It comes back randomly but if you fight it. Or keep deciding that isn’t you it will go away. I think fighting and working out will actually help. Because it will pump you up, like ya I’m a mans man! And get your blood pumping. Think about hating femdom and beating the shit out of it while hitting the bag or whatever

 

And honestly if you are going to fap. Just make sure you look at maybe just a picture of a female. And think about her really enjoying you.

 

be busy all the time. ALL THE TIME. then whenever your mind tries to roam thinking about femdom, you will know you have better things to do, and think about. be constantly active in an activity and go with the flow of it. your mind will be distracted from these bad thoughts.

 

Think about hating femdom and beating the shit out of it while hitting the bag or whatever[/QUOTE]
I like that! and generate even more power!
Would I be right thinking that we are made of both masculine and feminine energies the Yin and Yang and perhaps tapping into our feminine side through femdom is arousing? I know I’m not gay and am turned on by femininity a lot. But I just wonder where this side that pops up from time to time comes from. Why do I want to surrender to a powerful woman to use me. I guess it’s venturing out the norm which feels forbidden!

 

I would like to stop it, but maybe knowing why it’s there would help

 

Try to figure out WHY it appeals to you so much.
In my case, I do have a small penis. I am attracted to dominant and/or promiscuous women. I have been cuckolded. So, part of my attraction is that it feels appropriate for me. My life experience suggests that it might be my destiny.
Or, it could be that it's simply an unhealthy coping mechanism for dealing with my fears and with the pain of past experiences.
Or, if I dig even deeper . . . I see that I have a deeply held shame about my heterosexuality and about desiring women for sex. Since I am not at peace with my God given sexual desires for women . . . I am attracted to dominant women because then I can experience sex (all the better if the woman is smoking hot) and have zero responsibility for it.

Doesn't mean its the same for you. But there is something about you that is responding so strongly to this particular fantasy.

 

I was always shy around girls, ( I still am, if they’re really hot and not paid for) I get big social anxiety approaching or talking to a girl around others and it would feel very nerve racking not wanting to be rejected and feel not good enough. My dad bless him, has struggled to praise me probably down to having high functioning autism. I felt criticised as a teenager and rebelled!
I have a wild imagination and guess wanted to escape into fantasy. I remember wanting to be tied up by 2 vampire chicks as a teenager and my virginity stolen from me ( which I didn’t loose till I was 21 not to vampires)
I had the a rumour go round about me being small, but isn’t true! This has effected my self esteem.
Maybe the penis obsession is linked to transwomen! The pvc and darker side linked to my adventurous imagination. But wanting to be a bitch is maybe from the jives made about my manhood when I was younger and paranoid. It’s hard digging up a this crap but important.

 

I’ve been told it could be self sabotage because deep down I don’t believe I’m worthy. The tiredness and crappy feeling I get from resisting is slowing me down though and sometimes just want to get on with stuff.