Femdom addiction...

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Cantshowname

Fapstronaut
I don't know how to begin... I'm a 17 year old and I can't stop watching femdom/sissy/humiliation porn and it's getting harder to quit.
I had heard about nofap from a Tedtalk, and started trying to quit. But I realised, I couldn't even go about a single day without watching it.

Unlike other people in these forums, I wasn't bullied, or traumatized by anything at all.. I have a pretty normal life, nice parents and a sis. I started watching when I was 12 and quickly turned to femdom.. I seem to have always had a kink for being dominated by females... I had, and still have a foot and ass fetish..

I used to masturbate about once a day, but about a week ago, I was introduced to sissy hypnosis, which seemed gross but I don't know how I got pulled into it. I've been acting weird lately and started masturbating 3-4 times a day..

I understand wholely that I need to stop and give it my everything but I just can't.. I feel so ashamed of myself after every fap and swear to myself I'm never going to watch this gross shit ever again but I'm turned on after 4-5 hours again...

I'm fairly smart, got good grades in school, but now, 12th grade (which I'm in right now) is considered the most important exam ever in my country.. And I've completely given up studying.. whenever I sit down to study, my mind starts wondering about these fetishes..
Please help.. you guys are my only hope :(
Thank you for reading such a long post.. I never told about these fetishes to anyone, so I had to throw everything out there. Thank you once again.
 
Hi... You are a young person and my advice to you would be to leave porn from this day as in the long run it fucks your whole brain quite badly and the addiction level gets similar to a drug kinda. It would be difficult to control at this age but engage in some physical activity or engage yourself mentally somewhere.
 
Warrior124 said:
Hi... You are a young person and my advice to you would be to leave porn from this day as in the long run it fucks your whole brain quite badly and the addiction level gets similar to a drug kinda. It would be difficult to control at this age but engage in some physical activity or engage yourself mentally somewhere.
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I know man.. that's why I'm asking for help.. I feel like I'm ahead of everyone my age (In a very wrong way).
Sometimes I don't even think of myself as someone young.. I just see myself as an addict...
Thank you so much for replying. Really feels like someone is with you
 
Hello man.
It's nice that you decided to told about your situation here. I know it's an uneasy thing to fight urges that you have. That kind of addiction can be extremely troubling... Let's start with basics. If you want to eliminate that fetish and excessive masturbation from your life you need to literally change your lifestyle. It's hard to stop, because when you do so, you quickly become bored and you start thinking about fapping and so on... So you need to fill that blank hole with some new, healthy activities. Study a little, do some basic physical excersises to release tension, take a cold shower, read some book, try meditation. It's plenty of things you can try to get yourself busy from looking at porn. That quarantine situation it's definitely not helping, but with enough willpower you can do this! I feel you man, I ended up watching some animal stuff at one point, that because of my brain was seeking more and more dopamine boost every time... You can get out of this filthy stuff.
I believe in you!
Cantshowname said:
I just see myself as an addict...
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It's a good thing, look at all that people in your age that are blowing away they energy and don't even see anything bad at this. You know that you have a problem, it's first step towards change. Dedicate yourself and go all in.
 
Hey man :) Thanks for sharing your story! As Grimes said, it is very good that you face your porn lifestyle/addiction this early, because it can get you in a lot of trouble later. Use your time here on NoFap to read through the Instruction Texts and/or other websites and read through stories of others and how the usage of porn effected their lifes (i actually honestly do not know femdom or sissy porn, but there will be probably some other Fapstronauts here, who have the same Problem as you). If can see similarities and see how the consumption of it is ruining every edge of your life, then you can get the motivation to quit it.
My story in short is, that I consumed a lot of porn in my last two school years. And I think that I was actually not superaddicted, because I fapped most of the time one or two time a day. But I developed a voyeur fetisch and even filmed other people. Moreover through less friends, my social life broke completly together. I really couldnt enjoy conversations anymore and I was ashamed and socially anxious. Now that I am studying, I see that can not built a normal social life and I was so often sad and depressed, that finally I saw, what that porn did to me. After my 90 day circle ( I had a lot of attemps of just abstaining from porn or masturbation a moth or so) I finally experienced myself sometimes in a way, I never used before or I almost forget. I was able to talk more freely to women and was in a action mood. I was not thinking of negative things anymore! I was just thinking of things I could to with my time and did it. I was not afraid to speak to others, I was confident and I felt actually positive and that I could do anything!
You see. It is really worth it and that is just the beginning of my journey! Of course it was not that pleasurable during the no PMO time, but that is normal.

Welcome on this site and I am happy you doing something about your problem :)
 
Grimes_27 said:
Hello man.
It's nice that you decided to told about your situation here. I know it's an uneasy thing to fight urges that you have. That kind of addiction can be extremely troubling... Let's start with basics. If you want to eliminate that fetish and excessive masturbation from your life you need to literally change your lifestyle. It's hard to stop, because when you do so, you quickly become bored and you start thinking about fapping and so on... So you need to fill that blank hole with some new, healthy activities. Study a little, do some basic physical excersises to release tension, take a cold shower, read some book, try meditation. It's plenty of things you can try to get yourself busy from looking at porn. That quarantine situation it's definitely not helping, but with enough willpower you can do this! I feel you man, I ended up watching some animal stuff at one point, that because of my brain was seeking more and more dopamine boost every time... You can get out of this filthy stuff.
I believe in you!

It's a good thing, look at all that people in your age that are blowing away they energy and don't even see anything bad at this. You know that you have a problem, it's first step towards change. Dedicate yourself and go all in.
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Thank you so much man.. I'll start exercising and meditating.. Thanks for the help :)
 
Maximus2020 said:
Hey man :) Thanks for sharing your story! As Grimes said, it is very good that you face your porn lifestyle/addiction this early, because it can get you in a lot of trouble later. Use your time here on NoFap to read through the Instruction Texts and/or other websites and read through stories of others and how the usage of porn effected their lifes (i actually honestly do not know femdom or sissy porn, but there will be probably some other Fapstronauts here, who have the same Problem as you). If can see similarities and see how the consumption of it is ruining every edge of your life, then you can get the motivation to quit it.
My story in short is, that I consumed a lot of porn in my last two school years. And I think that I was actually not superaddicted, because I fapped most of the time one or two time a day. But I developed a voyeur fetisch and even filmed other people. Moreover through less friends, my social life broke completly together. I really couldnt enjoy conversations anymore and I was ashamed and socially anxious. Now that I am studying, I see that can not built a normal social life and I was so often sad and depressed, that finally I saw, what that porn did to me. After my 90 day circle ( I had a lot of attemps of just abstaining from porn or masturbation a moth or so) I finally experienced myself sometimes in a way, I never used before or I almost forget. I was able to talk more freely to women and was in a action mood. I was not thinking of negative things anymore! I was just thinking of things I could to with my time and did it. I was not afraid to speak to others, I was confident and I felt actually positive and that I could do anything!
You see. It is really worth it and that is just the beginning of my journey! Of course it was not that pleasurable during the no PMO time, but that is normal.

Welcome on this site and I am happy you doing something about your problem :)
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Thank you.. It really feels motivating listening to people who got out of this mess.. I'm going to give it my best :)
 
nico2211 said:
Hey buddy i can totally relate to your story even had the same fetishes as you do and i can tell you nofap works and will help you so best of luck and never give up :)
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No it's never going to go away by stopping masturbating. Masochism is very dangerous and if you stop masturbating for long periods you can put yourself at increased risk of doing it for real.
 
Cantshowname said:
I don't know how to begin... I'm a 17 year old and I can't stop watching femdom/sissy/humiliation porn and it's getting harder to quit.
I had heard about nofap from a Tedtalk, and started trying to quit. But I realised, I couldn't even go about a single day without watching it.

Unlike other people in these forums, I wasn't bullied, or traumatized by anything at all.. I have a pretty normal life, nice parents and a sis. I started watching when I was 12 and quickly turned to femdom.. I seem to have always had a kink for being dominated by females... I had, and still have a foot and ass fetish..

I used to masturbate about once a day, but about a week ago, I was introduced to sissy hypnosis, which seemed gross but I don't know how I got pulled into it. I've been acting weird lately and started masturbating 3-4 times a day..

I understand wholely that I need to stop and give it my everything but I just can't.. I feel so ashamed of myself after every fap and swear to myself I'm never going to watch this gross shit ever again but I'm turned on after 4-5 hours again...

I'm fairly smart, got good grades in school, but now, 12th grade (which I'm in right now) is considered the most important exam ever in my country.. And I've completely given up studying.. whenever I sit down to study, my mind starts wondering about these fetishes..
Please help.. you guys are my only hope :(
Thank you for reading such a long post.. I never told about these fetishes to anyone, so I had to throw everything out there. Thank you once again.
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Hey bud, welcome to the forum.

As someone much older, all I can say is that you have shown a great deal of awareness and maturity by recognising that you have an addiction at such a young age.

One of the main reasons why I would encourage you to continue this process is to ensure that you are able to enjoy a healthy sex life with a real life physical partner.

Porn has destroyed the ability for so many of us to enjoy a healthy sex life with our SO. But I was fortunate that I was able to enjoy a very active and healthy sex life till i was 30 thanks to the fact that I was in my late teens before I was exposed to porn and high speed Internet.

Your generation doesn’t have that luxury so please learn about how porn can affect other parts of your life and relationships by reading and watching as many videos as you can.

This will help you understand why you need to try and rid yourself of this addiction. Your fetishes are nothing to be ashamed of. That’s what porn does to our brain. Over time we become numb to traditional stimuli like ordinary porn thus making our brains seek out something even more stimulating or arousing thus leading us all down a deep dark path.
 
Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
: )
It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button /
Set up your day counter /
Rebooting Resources/
Accountability groups (new!) /
About NoFap/ Support Nofap
Here is just some advice:

First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.
Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
People will find your profile and give you support.

There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
 
Hi, welcome to the community

I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.

This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

֍ You got this my friend ֍​
 
If I were 17 y.o. and tried so hard as I try now. :( YOU HAVE BIG CHANCES TO BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF THIS SHIT! Just don't give up, never. Remember that you are a beautiful person, representative of the most dignified species who can achieve whatever it wants (but not everything, so choose carefully), so it will be up to you if you decide to break the bottom or rise above the stars. You can do whatever you want. But that pathetic shit called sexual desire, it is not you. You are what you decide.
I remember when I after 6 years addiction had 36 days nofap streak and I almost felt like a saint and almost cured my depression. I believe that this streak will surpass my record... Don't forget to think, always think, especially speaking about your feelings and desires. Let's destroy that stupid fetish. I wish you good luck!
 
Cantshowname said:
I don't know how to begin... I'm a 17 year old and I can't stop watching femdom/sissy/humiliation porn and it's getting harder to quit.
I had heard about nofap from a Tedtalk, and started trying to quit. But I realised, I couldn't even go about a single day without watching it.

Unlike other people in these forums, I wasn't bullied, or traumatized by anything at all.. I have a pretty normal life, nice parents and a sis. I started watching when I was 12 and quickly turned to femdom.. I seem to have always had a kink for being dominated by females... I had, and still have a foot and ass fetish..

I used to masturbate about once a day, but about a week ago, I was introduced to sissy hypnosis, which seemed gross but I don't know how I got pulled into it. I've been acting weird lately and started masturbating 3-4 times a day..

I understand wholely that I need to stop and give it my everything but I just can't.. I feel so ashamed of myself after every fap and swear to myself I'm never going to watch this gross shit ever again but I'm turned on after 4-5 hours again...

I'm fairly smart, got good grades in school, but now, 12th grade (which I'm in right now) is considered the most important exam ever in my country.. And I've completely given up studying.. whenever I sit down to study, my mind starts wondering about these fetishes..
Please help.. you guys are my only hope :(
Thank you for reading such a long post.. I never told about these fetishes to anyone, so I had to throw everything out there. Thank you once again.
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Let me just say how brave I think you are right now to even be stepping out and recognizing the serious things that are going on with you. For you to want to stop doing that early on is super awesome.

Here is my story, it might encourage you:
My Story

And here is some scientific research that confirms what you are mentioning about the negative side effects:
10 Ways Porn Damages The Brain

Reaching out on here is a great first step into breaking this cycle. There are soo many good tips of things that you can do. Hope is never lost!

Next time you start getting the urge, try taking a cold shower immediately.
 
tyrone.11235 said:
Hey bud, welcome to the forum.

As someone much older, all I can say is that you have shown a great deal of awareness and maturity by recognising that you have an addiction at such a young age.

One of the main reasons why I would encourage you to continue this process is to ensure that you are able to enjoy a healthy sex life with a real life physical partner.

Porn has destroyed the ability for so many of us to enjoy a healthy sex life with our SO. But I was fortunate that I was able to enjoy a very active and healthy sex life till i was 30 thanks to the fact that I was in my late teens before I was exposed to porn and high speed Internet.

Your generation doesn’t have that luxury so please learn about how porn can affect other parts of your life and relationships by reading and watching as many videos as you can.

This will help you understand why you need to try and rid yourself of this addiction. Your fetishes are nothing to be ashamed of. That’s what porn does to our brain. Over time we become numb to traditional stimuli like ordinary porn thus making our brains seek out something even more stimulating or arousing thus leading us all down a deep dark path.
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Thank you mate... I hope I've not ruined something permanent already :( I admire how you were able to quit porn.. respect :)
 
Coffee Candy said:
Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
: )
It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!
First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button /
Set up your day counter /
Rebooting Resources/
Accountability groups (new!) /
About NoFap/ Support Nofap
Here is just some advice:

First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.
Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
People will find your profile and give you support.

There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
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Thank you for this nice welcome.. I'll be sure to be active :)
 
OrpheusOdyssey said:
If I were 17 y.o. and tried so hard as I try now. :( YOU HAVE BIG CHANCES TO BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF THIS SHIT! Just don't give up, never. Remember that you are a beautiful person, representative of the most dignified species who can achieve whatever it wants (but not everything, so choose carefully), so it will be up to you if you decide to break the bottom or rise above the stars. You can do whatever you want. But that pathetic shit called sexual desire, it is not you. You are what you decide.
I remember when I after 6 years addiction had 36 days nofap streak and I almost felt like a saint and almost cured my depression. I believe that this streak will surpass my record... Don't forget to think, always think, especially speaking about your feelings and desires. Let's destroy that stupid fetish. I wish you good luck!
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Thank you.. But I just keep relapsing :( I try to control so hard.. but this quarantine is not helping.. I have no choice but to be in my room
 
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