Friends unsupportive of my journey

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by DOWN2SUCCEED, Sep 12, 2022.

What should I do?

  1. Trust friends

  2. Trust the process

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  1. DOWN2SUCCEED

    DOWN2SUCCEED Fapstronaut

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    Posting this here since I don't know where else to put it.

    I'll keep it brief: today, I talked to my friends about how I recently started my NoFap journey, and while one of them was somewhat interested, the rest… not so much.

    One of them, in particular, argued that the benefits in the long-run aren't really worth the hassle - "they're minuscule", in his own words. He also said that, due to a lack of "performance" or whatever, my muscle mass will see a substancial decrease.

    I don't know what to think, honestly. He did say something along the lines of "but if it makes you happy, keep going, I guess", yet it sounded as if he was just trying to avoid conflict with me.

    What do you all think? Should I trust them and bail on my journey; or should I ignore them and soldier on? I'm entirely new to this, so I'd love to hear what you have to say.

    TL;DR: friends don't really think I'll get anything out of NoFap, now unsure whether to keep going or not.
     
  2. tawwab85

    tawwab85 Fapstronaut

    Follow your nose. Read some stories and info here and on other communities. If it speaks to your experience, hang around and give it a shot. If not, move along.

    What have you got to lose?
     
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  3. InappropriateUsername

    InappropriateUsername Fapstronaut

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    This is your journey. Why you care what everyone else thinks? While it is nice to have support, only those who walk the walk understand
     
  4. Clearminded_1234

    Clearminded_1234 Fapstronaut

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    If you feel like it will benefit you, start your journey. Its not for everyone. Its ok if your friends are lukewarm about it. Let them be. You do you!

    This community is here for you to feel supported if you ever need it. Good luck and God bless.
     
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  5. Cirilla

    Cirilla Badass Mod
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    From the poll only, it's pretty obvious friend. You know your worth and at the end of the day you should only do this for yourself. Trust the process and trust yourself :)
     
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  6. IntenselyOrdinary

    IntenselyOrdinary Fapstronaut

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    In my experience, talking about making important changes to your own life with other people said changes have no real impact on either way is best avoided. Unless they're exceptionally emotionally intelligent you'll often receive the kind of responses you got. That's always going to sow the seeds of doubt.

    Keep it to yourself or seek support amongst a group of like-minded people.
     
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  7. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    welcome here! i don't have any good friendship advice... to their credit it might take time before you see longterm "benefits"... and it also depends on what you are expecting... what are you expecting from nofap by the way?
     
  8. Clearminded_1234

    Clearminded_1234 Fapstronaut

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    Well said. Also, your friends might be going through some things too in the moment so thats why they weren't so supportive. They say how people react to certain things is a reflection of themselves. Dont worry about what others think and follow what you think is best for you.
     
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  9. DOWN2SUCCEED

    DOWN2SUCCEED Fapstronaut

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    Yo! At the moment, I'm aiming for a full 90-day reboot, and my primary goal is to have a higher sperm count, since the last time I M'd I could only muster a mere drop of it. Confidence, higher energy and all that stuff is good, too, but I already had plenty of both in the past, even back when I was crankin' three a day.
     
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  10. Remember that people have different relationships with porn. For some people, like all of us here, it's a major problem. For others it's not. Or they may just be eggs in denial. Whatever the case, it's okay that they have a hard time relating to you. That doesn't mean you should quit. That just means they don't understand what you're going through. If they had a chance to see life through your eyes, they'd probably start porn recovery too.
     
  11. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    eggs? what is that?
     
  12. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    yeah it takes around 60 days for a spermatozoon to grow... so sounds reasonable for the physiological aspect. ok. good luck on your journey!
     
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  13. Oh. Eggs is slang among trans people for someone who doesn't know they are trans yet but shows a lot of signs of being trans. I guess I was using it in a similar way, as a person who is a porn addict but hasn't admitted to being addicted to porn yet.
     
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  14. DOWN2SUCCEED

    DOWN2SUCCEED Fapstronaut

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    That's good to know. Thanks a lot, you!
     
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  15. OhWhenThe

    OhWhenThe Fapstronaut

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    Man, I shoot like a fire hydrant but I'd swap that any day to feel drive and confidence.
     
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  16. DOWN2SUCCEED

    DOWN2SUCCEED Fapstronaut

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    We oughtta switch sides once in a while, then lol. I suppose it comes down to different factors other than how much or how often you do it.
     

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