How do you build the mindset to stop fantasizing?

I have this issue as well. I would get these thoughts that invaded and it was as if I didn't notice it for what it was till it took hold and got out of control and ultimately led to PMO. Years of that terrible addiction makes us almost go on auto pilot and let these thoughts take over.
We have to recognize it as soon as it enters and drive it out immediately. Also, do you peek? Peeking is a huge cause of this. For me it is as simple as scrolling through yahoo or some other garbage site and seeing stories of women in bikinis etc. You have to stay away from any sites that contain triggers. When I was riding high on the wagon of recovery, I did not surf the net. I had what I called "goal oriented internet access." That meant I only got on the net for a purpose, like this site or to Google something for work or school and got off immediately. Also avoiding garbage sites that encourage mindless surfing.

 

Hell yeah!!!!
My maiden century

 

This is the very reason why my counter doesn't count no PMO, it counts the number of days for my own goal - goal written in signature. Basically, it's okay that any crazy sexual thought pops into the mind but it's a relapse if you pursue that thought.

 

Three second rule. I give myself 3 seconds, once I realize I'm fantasizing, to change my focus to something else. The score of last night's game, what's on TV tonight, etc. Sometimes I have to use this technique over and over, but I'm getting better with it.

 

I have been on this journey for a while now and what I have learned is to just wait 5-10 minutes when you get these fantasies before you start to fap. What happens is the feeling and the urge to fap subsides by itself after a few minutes dont battle it just feel the urge and wait for a few minutes trust me it gets really easy after a few times.

 

Your imagination is the tv screen in your mind. A very power ful tool to create life.

I have fantasized a very lot, but today my screen is clean

We learn to "see" our thoughts.
I'm a man of faith and have learned to make captive every thought and bring them to God.
Whenever a dirty thought came into my mind I practice this little prince and then fall asleep.

And don't forget, yóú was the one who let in all these pictures...

 

Day 3 , facing a rejection. Need help and support for my motivation. I am feeling like it will be better to do fapping for some time and enjoy some p*rn*gr*phic content.

 

Bro..I have understood. I didn't fap today. I felt rejection because of a girl but I managed to control my emotions using CBT Skills I have learnt. It helped me .
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I am over a year with no P. and those fantasies are still with me. There is a change in that I have longer breaks, when I am not interested in sex and this way also in fantasizes. I quite like those periods of lower libido, maybe they will get longer. Its not like I am not able to have sex during those times, I am just not interested in it like in primary activity.

Lately I try to not think about things I would not tell about to my relatives. If you would constantly think only about P. and the problems you have with it, with time you will probably will start having problems in social situations, because you would not talk about things you think about. So the solution is to focus on healthy thoughts, keep them clean - at least try to.

 

My friend please dont get depressed over a rejection be strong there are soo many females in the world. for sure many of them will be into you. the thing is if you are on nofap after some time you will be able to deal with womens feminine energy and you can get girls even without trying. Before when i used to fap I was scared to even talk to girls their presence made me uncofortable but now after a few months of nofap I deal with girls so easily they feel like children if I can put it like that, not very intimidating and they are easy to deal with. Just today suddenly a really good looking girl came to me giggling flirting and talking to me out of nowhere asking my number and this never happened to me before I started nofap. be strong stop watching porn and masturbating completely and girls will come to you. You just have to focus on building yourself right now work on yourself and improve yourself and trust me girls will come to you and you dont even have to give them the opportunity to reject you. Girls will usually reject men even just to feel better about themselves dont worry there will be some girls who wont like you or your energy but there will be many who love to be around you and like you for who you are dont get down brother just because some girl rejected you she didnt probably even deserve you anyway she just wasnt the right fit for you there is many billion still left that can like you.

 

Wow. I never thought about treating it like that, but you're right!

 

I will try nofap for 180 Days for sure.