I’ll never be enough because of porn

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by djdcgc4, Jun 5, 2019.

  1. TheMaster101

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    i didn't mess up anything darling, i am not addicted to anything, i have no interest in porn whatsoever or to jerk off i'm actually doing really fucking awesome on so many levels.. have a good day to you!
     
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  2. IamOlive

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    I’ll add my name to the list of SOs that do not have fantasies about other men much less ripped ones that can last for days. I have fantasies of my husband and how I want our life to be physically, mentally and spiritually.
     
  3. TheMaster101

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    kuddos to you miss. i salute you
     
  4. I do adore watching a narcissist in action that demeans women and thinks calling them names of endearment with that hint of sarcasm is going to make them the "bigger man".

    If I read correctly, and please accept my apology if, as a woman, I'm not processing your own words, you gave yourself a handjob yesterday? Didnt enjoy it as much as you thought but...ya fucked yourself, regardless.

    You're doing awesome on trying to justify your handjob and those of other addicts. Take a bow, old chap. :)
     
  5. TheMaster101

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    No i mean i'm doing great in the sense that i made a fuckload of money this year in a business venture and that i bought a porsche panamera gt.. and yes i guess you could say i fucked myself, not too proud of that no.. owell.
     
  6. Yea but...you're materialism doesn't mean much when you're at the end of the cycle in guilt and shame, alone with your hand and a fancy car. o_O
     
  7. John Oldman

    John Oldman Fapstronaut

    Waow, what an amazing reply ! And thanks to @Susannah, @hope4healing, @Liina and @Numb for supporting this and adding your thoughts and sharing your point of view. This is really precious, explaining your point of view through love and comprehension. I feel energized and motivated just by reading your posts !

    And @TheMaster101, please try to calm your ego down. I know form personal experience how hard it is. Don't believe your pride when it points the finger to a so-called enemy. All the humans here are trying to help one another, and to help themselves along the way. Don't make the mistake of taking things too personally.
    All of us are suffering on different level. You are too, unless why would you be here ? Please take a moment to appreciate the luck you have to encounter such bright spirits that are trying to make you see there point of view as a porn addict's significant other. No attitude or mask is needed here. Please let go.
     
  8. fuzzywaz

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    I am an SO that DOES occasionally fantasize about sex with people other than my SO. I also fantasy about my SO. I think that it is completely natural to occasionally entertain attraction to others, even in a committed relationship. The problem with PA's and SA's is that this fantasy is something that is part and parcel of the wider addiction. Like MO to a PA or SA, fantasy is not used in moderation. When fantasy is used with MO as a coping mechanism and to avoid dealing with feelings, it is abused. And it is my belief that it will always escalate because the nature of addiction is so. A PA will cross boundaries about who is an appropriate target of fantasies and will often escalate to things that are just creepy and weird. For the PA fantasy becomes the main focus and not just a tool that is used on occasion when sex with a partner isn't possible.
     
  9. fuzzywaz

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    Personally, i don't believe it's possible for PA's and SA's to have a healthy, balanced relationship with fantasy and MO
     

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