I need a woman but the right one

can you pick up any woman?

 

Get yourself into good recovery from PMO, cut the booze, smoking, get yourself in good shape physically and mentally, now you're ready to go get the girl.
Be where women are, and at your age prepare for women who are divorced or broken up with other women, many of them already have children, but they have a lot of love to give.

Where are women?
- Attend church.
- Hit grocery stores, strike up conversations.
- Get a part time job, cook or waiter at a restaurant.
- Try a dating site.
- Accept any chance to go out, be with friends and people. Great love stories often begin with chance meetings.


She's out there, good luck to you.

 

Bro, best advice i can give you is get your money up, not your funny up. Hit the gym everyday, eat fruits, good meats and eggs, get a haircut every 3-4 weeks, brush your crusty brown teeth, get your style up, become taller, get your instagram followers up because women love status, so when they see a man with a lot of followers, they automatically think ‘’he got status’’ and money, so it will end up with them hitting you up. Or else, go to church and tell the priest to find you a woman.

 

I live in arkansas so the church option doesn't work for me lmao- then again, my parents are of the pentacostal denomination, so that explains itself. Every revival my dad would go to had nothing but crusty old women (no offense to them or anything lol)

 

Start by typing properly. Women like men who are capable.'I need a woman bu'.

 

you can always edit the title of the thread and messages!

 

I have no idea how to get a woman. It seems incredibly stupid and unfair that I still haven't figured out how to have an engaging friendship and conversation with any girl I like.

Or else, I don't even know if I like her and she'd be a regret. I regretted all three of the girls I've ever dated, wishing I could just not have gotten into anything in the first place.

And the last girl I asked out, who I was really certain about, ended up rejecting me immediately, then knowingly joining the same 4 month program as me and going gaga for some other guy in the program. She lost me many many hours of sleep and cost me a lot of heartache during the program. Then she ended up acting like my good friend near the end of it, only to shaft me the next time I saw her, later telling me she meant to make me upset.

It's all punishment, zero reward to this day. It's hard not to hate women at this point, as far as dating is concerned.

 

@randomname3 its not “unfair” that you can’t have a conversation. Each woman is an individual sentient entity, if they are not interested in what you have to say they are under no obligation to give you their time. That is their right. You have the same right and it sounds like you might want to exercise it if you regret every relationship you’ve had. What are you actually looking for? What are your deal-breakers? Do you have standards or are you being desperate and latching on to anyone who will pay attention to you? This may sound harsh but that’s not my intention. I’ve made these mistakes myself, so I know how easy it is to blame the other person, but ultimately it’s your responsibility. If you compromise who you are for the sake of a relationship you will just end up resenting them.

If you want rewarding relationships, get your shit together. Take care of yourself. Take care of your responsibilities. Become self sufficient. Learn how to identify and deal with your emotions. Learn how to communicate. Stop getting so invested in women who are not interested in you because no one owes you anything. And if you’re loosing sleep over it, that’s on you because you were idealising a relationship that didn’t exist.

You’ve got some serious incel energy going on here. Being bitter and resentful towards all women based on your experience with four of them is childish. If you take one piece of advice from this, stop that behaviour because I guarantee no woman will put up with it.

 

Totally agree with @new socks .

If you go around feeling sorry for yourself, women aren’t going to find you attractive. She went for some other dude? Drop her. Don’t let her come back and be a shoulder to cry on—that’s not fair to you. Sounds to me like you were friendzoned at the start and didn’t realize it.

At any rate: stopping acting mopey. Get it together. Be confident. If you’re not confident, pretend you are. Stuff you can control—max it out. Get in shape, dress nice, learn to conversate, learn shit so you’re interesting.

 

The first step to finding a good woman is becoming a good man.

A good start would be respecting people. You know, like not telling women they must look like Shrek because they declined sending you a picture of themselves. That would be a start.

 

At first, your comment confused me, but I looked at his post history and lo and behold... I admit, I laughed aloud a bit, but ooof. His behavior... that's just embarrassing.

 

Yes.

 

The fellas above gave you/us some valid tips.

I would add some others.

Starting from the assumption you are a ok looking guys - which means you are not a model but you take care of your look, you shape, your hair cut, your skin, your smell using a good perfume, and so on - begin going to activities you enjoy and there you will find some good girls to talk, to unwind and maybe there you can find a partner.

Well, sometimes we put a lot of rules to date woman, how to start a conversation, how to make the first approach, and a host of other rules that make it seem like to get at a woman you also need to know how to defuse a bomb or how to hack into the capitol system.

As a fellow said before, girls are like us. Even to find new man friends, how does it work? Would every new dude you meet in a soccer match be your friend? Probably not. Probably 4 in 20 would be your close ones friends, and 1 out of those 4 would be your real friend, with whom you could really count. That's how it works.

With dating women - grosso modo - works the same way. You will meet some girls, talk to them, some will enjoy talking to you, others will not. Some will like to chat with you, some will bring up a subject with you, others not. Some will like to chat with you only because they are kind, others because they are attracted to you, others only because they are seeking man attention. It is up to you to recognize which case fits the kindness of the girl.

A girl who is interested on you will show you somehow. Either she will approach you - if she is more advanced - or she will show you some hidden signs as if to say "talk to me".

 

Wow. What an interesting interpretation of those events.

Sounds to me like a girl was your friend and when you expressed romantic interest, she said no, I'm just interested in being friends. And then you let yourself become obsessive about it and started blaming everything going wrong in your life on her.

Geez louise, this is the problem with the stupid "friendzone" ideology. She was literally just being a friend and doing what friends do. She did absolutely nothing wrong at all. But since you had romantic feelings for feeling her, suddenly she is supposed to feel guilty and horrible about just being a normal person living her life? If she was leading you on, I could understand, but given that she already made it clear she wasn't interested, that is 100% not her fault and she did nothing wrong.

I'm so glad that I see this kind of crap clearly now, because as a teenager, I was a girl in this exact kind of situation, and that guy constantly made me feel like crap and feel terrible about everything I did, when I was literally just living my life like a normal person. And I actually thought he was a really good guy, and I felt terrible about not liking him in a romantic way. I felt like I was being mean or something, just by not reciprocating his feelings. I don't take that crap from anyone anymore, and it makes me sad and a bit sickened to see guys doing that to other girls. Because I know how much it can psychologically damage them.

It's not her fault that she doesn't have romantic feelings for you. If she is direct and kindly rejects your interest, she has done her part and is perfectly allowed to continue living her life and acting friendly or being your friend. If you don't want that, freaking leave her alone. Don't continue to be in her life if you're going to make her need to apologize to you for things she hasn't done wrong. She doesn't deserve that. She is just a regular person being a regular friend to you, and probably treating you exactly the same way she treats all of her other friends. It's you that has the issue, not her. So if you can't handle that without being bitter and angry toward her and apparently allowing this to make you hate women, then for Pete's sake, just leave her alone and go deal with your own issues, far away from her, because she has nothing to do with them.

 

About to lay down some truths for you mate.

No, you don't. You want a woman. She'll be another addition to your life. If you feel you need one, consider working on your life so a woman will be an addition to the life you feel happy about.

It isn't hard. It may feel hard, and I can understand that because I too felt it was difficult, but it's not as difficult as you may think. There are plenty of single women around your age. Put yourself out there and you will find them. By saying it's hard to find one, I feel there's more to the statement. Could you elaborate?

There's no tips. Just be yourself completely. This will weed out all the women who don't want you, leaving only the ones who do. If you're thinking that being yourself isn't good enough, then work on the first point. You NEED to get to the point in life where you believe being yourself is actually fine, meaning you've stripped away distortions about yourself. From that point, you won't need tips. You'll need nothing actually. And that's the point.