I wank off about once a week. I want to make it stop.

[Meff]

I am new to this online forum. I need assistance with quitting porn altogether. I am thinking maybe getting hooked on video games versus porn. I got this urge to wank off, and cannot resist it. I already wanked off today FYI. I wish I could quit it completely. Should I dedicate my focus on another addiction like video games? Or would that exascerbate it?

What would be the best way to kill my porn addiction? I do make music, and have an idea to making it big.

The longest I quit porn and wanking off was about 30 days. One was I was at school, and the other was spending a great deal making music.

Thoughts?

These temptations are greatest during nighttime.

I also work at a gas station 5 days a week.

 

[Blade25]

Yes man, these urges are terrible, and unfortunately, they will continue appearing, but you need to try the approaches from the site to prepare yourself for them. In my case I try to stand up and change what I'm doing, the mindful technique also works for me, I use the laptop in the living room, and just like you in the evening/night when my urges appear more, I didn't stay alone in my room with my laptop.

And the part to change from P addiction to the game isn't a good idea, because the main goal is for you to overcome the addiction with good activities, the music part that you said is way better than spending your time with games, of course, you can play games, but spending all the time that you used to spend in P on games, will not be good for you too.
If you find activities to spend your time with that make you feel better, give you more knowledge, and ability, and that you are proud of yourself to do, this will do great benefits to your mind. So think about it. Give yourself a chance to do new things, and rewire yourself with music. Is worth trying.

 

[Deleted Account]

Well, at least you are only doing it once a week. So you are at a good start. I am similar to you.. I usually relapse about 4-5 days per month on average.

The best thing to do is to not fantasize. If you are taking a shower or laying in bed thinking about sex or porn or women in a sexual way, its only a matter of time before you relapse.

Cut out fantasizing, and if you realize you are fantasizing, then recognize it and stop thinking about it. If you want to play video games, then that's fine if you really enjoy playing video games. I'd say the best thing to do would be to do something you really enjoy doing, because this way you won't be thinking about sex because you are already having fun doing your new activity

 

[Jefe Rojo]

Hi @Meff, welcome to NoFap! The messages above have already given you great advice. I recommend all of the things previously mentioned.

I used to masturbate about once a week when I started NoFap. I have been working hard over the past few years and I usually make it about 40 - 45 days now before it happens. This is a huge deal for me. I wish I could leave it completely behind more than anything. I’m determined to eventually succeed. There are several layers / issues I’ve had to work through. I’ve learned a lot about myself and I still have more to learn.

Success lies in mindfulness. Your thoughts will lead to actions if you focus on them for too long. This is why porn is so damning. Those images get burned into your brain and it’s hard to forget those scenes. And the scenes as well as the memories of the scenes trigger a physiological response that eventually leads to more PMO. And the addiction cycle continues.
The key is to recognize when those thoughts come into our minds, and then let them pass without focusing on them. Recognize them and then let them come and go. Learning how to meditate can help you become more aware of your thoughts.

So when we find something else that we enjoy other than PMO, our mind is occupied with other things and we don’t even think of PMO. So staying busy or keeping our minds distracted keeps us safe. It’s when we’re sitting there, doing nothing, and just thinking about how much we don’t want to fall to PMO, unfortunately we will eventually fall because of exhaustion. We can only survive on willpower for so long before it’s too much.
And then there are triggers that cause our minds to want to escape reality through PMO. We use PMO for temporary relief from stressful situations. I heard someone say once that the main triggers can be summarized with the “BLASTED”.

B = Bored
L = Lonely
A = Angry or Anxious
S = Sad or Stressed
T = Tired
E = Empty
D = Detached or disconnected

Read about it here:

https://www.frontrangecounselingcenter.com/blasted-triggers/

For many of us, one of these triggers makes us want to escape through PMO. So learning how to deal with these triggers in a healthier way is key to recovery.

Just wanted to let you know what has helped me most. As I discover my triggers, I find ways to make small adjustments so that after I fall, I try to never fall again in the same way.

Best of luck to you here! Feel free to message me if you need any additional ideas or support.

 

[Dr.J_76ers]

I am new to this online forum. I need assistance with quitting porn altogether. I am thinking maybe getting hooked on video games versus porn. I got this urge to wank off, and cannot resist it. I already wanked off today FYI. I wish I could quit it completely. Should I dedicate my focus on another addiction like video games? Or would that exascerbate it?

What would be the best way to kill my porn addiction? I do make music, and have an idea to making it big.

The longest I quit porn and wanking off was about 30 days. One was I was at school, and the other was spending a great deal making music.

Thoughts?

These temptations are greatest during nighttime.

I also work at a gas station 5 days a week.

I think you should focus on a hobby that you are interested in. In my limited experience, I've found that hobbies that allow you to create things like music and woodworking can make you feel really good.

In the case of gaming, I think it's going to exacerbate your porn urges primarily because you're on your laptop. I really think you should focus on your music - that's an expression of your individuality. "Everybody" watches porn and plays games. How do you want to differentiate yourself?

 

[Deleted Account]

I am new to this online forum. I need assistance with quitting porn altogether. I am thinking maybe getting hooked on video games versus porn. I got this urge to wank off, and cannot resist it. I already wanked off today FYI. I wish I could quit it completely. Should I dedicate my focus on another addiction like video games? Or would that exascerbate it?

What would be the best way to kill my porn addiction? I do make music, and have an idea to making it big.

The longest I quit porn and wanking off was about 30 days. One was I was at school, and the other was spending a great deal making music.

Thoughts?

These temptations are greatest during nighttime.

I also work at a gas station 5 days a week.

Cut out music and don't look at women, not even in real life.

Disrespect women who reveal part of their bodies, like their legs. Don't talk to women unless it's important. Don't chit chat with them. If you accidentally look at a woman anywhere, loook elsewhere.