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I'm considering starting a challenge

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Konnerklu, Jan 14, 2018.

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  1. Jan 14, 2018 #1
    Konnerklu

    Konnerklu New Fapstronaut

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    Hello, I just signed up to this site because I'm thinking of abstaining (of course). First a bit about myself; I'm a 21yo student living in the Netherlands. I'd say I have a steady life, I'm enjoying my study and have enough friends. One thing I've been struggling with for a long time is girls and then more specifically engaging in sensual contact with a girl. I don't mean having sex but just kissing a girl; I've been mortified to do it to be honest. I can talk to girls quite normally but I can never become more than just friends. That is my own fault because as I said, I don't engage anything myself or even make the girl feel wanted, or something. I just don't have enough 'drive', I'd say, to overcome the fear of rejection.
    So I thought maybe abstaining myself from masturbation would make me 'want' girls more. Right now I'm usually listening to my body when I want to masturbate but sometimes I also do it with an emotional motive. I also always watch porn when I do it.

    Now the reason of this post is to ask two question I'm hoping you can answer for me:

    - Will abstaining compeletely from PMO increase my sex drive?
    - Is there a 'middle ground' of abstaining, so would doing it once a week or without porn also have a similar effect?


    These questions are from a physiological perspective because I'm rarely using an emotional motive to masturbate.
     
    Konnerklu, Jan 14, 2018
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  2. Jan 14, 2018 #2
    diogo431509

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    I started wanting more real girls after I got on NoFap, specially girls I know, or have some contact with. But still it didn't change the fact that I want to be alone, so, yes NoFap makes you want girls more but not too much.
     
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  3. Jan 14, 2018 #3
    Konnerklu

    Konnerklu New Fapstronaut

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    Okay, thanks for the response. Did you only want then if you didn't fap at all, or also after you've relapsed(I'm guessing you have relapsed)? I want to moderate the amount of times I pmo because I don't think completely abstaining is natural.
     
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  4. Jan 14, 2018 #4
    diogo431509

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    No matter how you look at it, fapping at any frequence will make you want girls less, unless you have some sort of problem, which I think I do :). I relapsed after a streak of 30, then 50 days.
     
    diogo431509, Jan 14, 2018
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  5. Jan 15, 2018 #5
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    Hey ,

    I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

    Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

    What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

    First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

    Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

    Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

    That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

    - L
     
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