Is Girlfriend/Wife Cheating Automatically a Breakup, or Can Things Be "Evened Out"?

Since we are talking more generally about cheating now, and kind of moving away from the specific ideas posed in the first post, I will just say that I'm not sure I could ever continue to be in a relationship with someone who cheated on me. I'm really not sure, because it would probably depend on a number of factors, and I'm not in that position at the moment. But I would find that incredibly difficult to work past. Not necessarily impossible to forgive, but forgiveness doesn't mean you have to continue to be in a relationship with someone.

I'm also speaking from my own perspective as a married person. If I was merely dating someone and they cheated on me, I don't think there would even be a question in my mind. I would break up with them, for sure. But in marriage, it's a bit more difficult than that.

I believe, based on Biblical principles, that when someone commits adultery, they have broken the marriage covenant. It is, Biblically, a valid justification for divorce. So I have no shame toward married people who chose to get divorced if someone cheats. I think that's a perfectly acceptable choice, and depending on the situation, probably what I would end up doing as well.

But I also think... or scratch that, I should say I know that it's possible for people to work past infidelity and reconcile the marriage. It's happened many times. And it definitely depends on the situation. I've had some situations happen in my marriage, both on my part and on my husband's, that might have lead many other people to divorce. But we chose to work through those things and figure them out together, and I'm very, very happily married to my best friend in the world. So for me, I can't say cheating is 100% an automatic break-up thing for me, but I will say that so much as I love my husband, I'm really not sure i would ever be able to feel comfortable and loved and safe and trusting of him if he cheated on me. So even if it devastated me to end the relationship, I'm not sure I would have any other choice.

 

Depends how long the marriage or relationship is but individual physical integrity is your priority what someone else does is their own business. If you do the same to get back at the person this can make matters worse and confuse the hell out of you physically and emotionally. End the relationship if want or stay your choice but just realize that doing the same will only make you feel good for awhile but your self integrity will be damaged forsure. Most people think with their heads most of the time but there is allot more to us as humans than our mind so much information is past between each other when we have sex with another person and it is better not to tangle your memories up with another person just to make it even.

 

Yeah, sorry, but I'm gonna have to say this is ignorance on your part. Cheating in retaliation isn't going to take away the pain of being cheated on. And to day that someone isn't even a man anymore if they don't respond to infidelity in such a childish way is really ridiculous.

 

Dude just came right out and told you his soon to be wife was in an interracial gangbang? and i presume she told that for whatever reasons?
Wouldn't so sure who is the wolf in the relationship, guy has the moral high ground here, men don't have legal right to punish their partners anymore but will always be able to and he chose instead to take her back, forgiving her in the christian tradition and making sure everybody he knows is aware of that fact.

 

Long story short: No!

 

Gandalf has spoken. Thread over.

 

What my porn viewing has taught me is to be humble. I used to laugh at people who looked at porn and thought they were all losers. I thought there was no way I would ever look it but that's what I ended up doing. I've learnt that life is messy and unpredictable. The thing you say you will never do might be the thing you end up doing. So it's best to be compassionate and not judge people. I mean what if you're the guy who cheats? How would you want to be treated? You may say I would never do it but how do you know?

 

One spouse cheats on the other, so the other cheats as well to even it out.

Let's ask a better question. Is such a relationship worth saving?

 

Cheating has no excuse, no matter the reason it's a complete betrayal and it's always wiser to end the relationship at that point.

 

At the first confirmed cheating she is history in your life. Also denying sex is also a reason for a break up. If you agree to stay with her after she has cheated on you you are worthless in her opinion, and she can do anything she wants, and you will do anything to be with her and accept any kind of treatment, since you accepted cheating. From the moment you accepted her cheating you are a cuck. Many betas accept this and become p*ssy whipped soyboys, which is trying to be popularised in mainstream media by feminists.

 

This is quite detailed , you sure this didn’t happen to you?

 

the same can be said for a woman who accepts cheating from her partner. Anyone who lowers their standards to such a level becomes worthless and loses respect for themselves. But what have feminists to do with it anyway ?

 

But let's not forget all the malicious traits infidelity reveals about the person committing it. It's never a simple, accidental process like many like to downplay it. It involves a lot of manipulation, lies, and scheming. Infidelity would never be possible, without the persistent involvement of those deeply harmful traits.

People should always remember that when dealing with an unfaithful partner, they don't have to be swayed by false apologies or any drama they might be exposed to.

 

I think that very greatly depends on the situation. But obviously it's not accidental. Of course reconciliation requires a lot of hard work from both parties in the relationship. There is a lot of work to be done.

 

Cheating for me would be an instant dealbreaker. There is no way in hell I would accept that and keep going. Unless otherwise agreed upon by both parties (which I personally could never do), loyalty is the most fundamental basis of a relationship and if it gets ignored, that's a violation of the agreement, which is unrepairable in my eyes. Goes without saying, that I believe this is the rule for both parties alike.