Is it possible to go from submissive to dominant?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by kriss93, Jul 26, 2016.

  1. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    What do you think?

    I feel my dominant self is inside me, but this submissive sissy shit "pushes down" this side of me. I want to be a full time dominant.

    Any advice?
     
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  2. KiKopowa

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    Mans nature is to be dominant but practising PMO makes us submisive. It will take some time to reclaim our manhood back.
    I would advise you not to think that u are"lesser of a man", that ll make it worse., trust yourself 100%.
    Dont beat yourself up becoase u feel a certain way, this PMO journey is a rollercoaster.
    I was into PMO half my life and i couldnt look a woman in the eye.
    Now i look at them like its nothing and sometimes i can feel the nice vibes they give me back(that became my P-Sub).
     
  3. Randall

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    Im new to this, ive lost all my confidence through p I cant even hold a conversation with a woman without getting really nervous. Iv been watchin subs for about a year since I split with my gf, they are destroying me yet I keep going back to them. I really want my life back.. any advice ?
     
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  4. kriss93

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    @KiKopowa Do you think that PMO can make you a "feminist"? (I don't know if you got the point, I mean thoughts like this: "Men are living to serve woman", "Only a woman can drive you, and your destiny is just to protect her" and etc.)
     
  5. KiKopowa

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    @kriss93, In my own opinion i dont bother with any ideology that is to devide US HUMANS. Well i find it funny someone who PMOs Is a feminist.
    @Randall, you should post your story into a diffrent thread. U are on the right place.
    I would advise u to stop PMO as long as u can.
     
  6. kriss93

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    OK...then I am hoping that the sissy/tg porn generated these thoughts in my head and I am not really a transgender...
     
  7. Now that I stopped being a slave to porn. BDSM porn actually, I used to be submissive. Now I have days where I'm dominant and other days where I'm a submissive little bitch.
     
  8. Sleeping_Beauty

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    Masturbation makes you weak, fatigued, numb, anxious, and incoherent. I think it makes us all seem more submissive than we are at our core. Only you know who you really are and what you want to be.
     
  9. Themadfapper

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    Sounds like femdom porn. It's a perverse sick fantasy and a sick way of getting off. You start getting off on the guilt and sick twisted feelings and get a bit of a rush from it, but like everything else you start needing more and more and start doing ever more depraved acts.

    Stay away from it, stop wanking, stop watching porn, stop fantasizing about it, stop idolizing women, and with time you will see that what you thought was pleasure was actually pain and that you hate what you thought you liked.


    The women who take advantage of these damaged men who suffer from this are disgusting pigs! Like any other disgusting human being, they will lie, cheat and do any act no matter how disgusting to separate you from your money.

    Women are people too. Meaning they are greedy selfish and not to be trusted. You give an inch and they will take a mile and walk all over you. Not really any different than getting jumped by some assholes in the park beaten up and having your wallet stolen. The difference is you are aware that you don't like being beaten up or robbed. That is unless you have become extremely depraved and deep into masochism.


    You only need to look at feminists and you can see that the whole " men exist only to serve women" [ interestingly enough these cognitive dissonant people claim to oppose slavery and think black slavery was a horrible wrong] is bullshit! That ideology if lived out would lead to extinction.

    Another crazy thing about this Femdom[women worship] is that the fetish eventually leads to sissification or homosexuality. However, if your gay why would you give two fucks about women?

    Transexual identity is a mental disorder! Science can't turn you into a woman it's just not there. They will just butcher you! Testosterone is what repairs your body give you energy. With less testosterone you will have less energy you will be a less capable person, your body won't recover as quickly and your mind will not work as efficiently. Low testosterone can give you a clouded mind, while high testosterone makes you sharp. Why get old and weak prematurely?
     
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  10. recoome

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    I wouldnt want to be either dom or sub. rather be in a relation of mutual friends.
     
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  11. NoBrainer

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    Hmm, these statements have nothing to do with feminism though. o_O
    And neither does this. My advice would be not to judge the basis of feminism from the opinions you read in the back alleys of Tumblr. :eek:
     
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  12. ivanhoe

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    great post, and inspiring to hear!
     
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  13. kriss93

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    Your counter just shows only 6 days... Do you think if time goes by, you will be more dominant and less submissive?
     
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  14. kriss93

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    First, thanks for your answer man.
    I don't really want to be transsexual but I have periods in my life when I am depressed about it. Maybe if I can earn a body with I am fully satisfied (male body ofc...) and remember myself why is it good to be a man, these periods will lasts shorter and the feelings will be weaker... what do you think?
     
  15. NoBrainer

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    On a more helpful note, I think you are confusing gender identity with a fetish for sissy and transgender porn. First of all is your assumption that men are wholly dominant and women are wholly submissive (or to that effect). I think you may have jumped the gun slightly (based on that assumption) to extend the way you feel based off of your porn consumption, to think that because you enjoy the sissy porn stuff, that you are somehow less of a man (and by your logic, more of a woman).

    It is true that we have characteristic traits as part of our personalities that can be considered 'more female oriented' or 'more male oriented'. However, we know from this addiction that porn can sometimes warp our perceptions of sexuality and even gender, especially if we are addicted to it. I think that you feel depressed every time you relapse, and your guilt to what your sexual fetish is is making you guilty, leading to your paranoia that you may have gender dysphoria. It is a similar case with HOCD (homosexual OCD). Lead by an escalation of porn use and the Coolidge effect, guys who are otherwise straight turn to gay porn for more excitement and a bigger kick (due to the shock factor). When they find that they are turned on by it (possibly only because it's new and they are no longer turned on sufficiently by anything else), they become terrified that they may be gay, even though in many cases they are straight.

    I believe your TOCD (transgender OCD) follows the same process as HOCD. The answer, of course- is to get off the porn. Purge yourself of all sissy and transgender porn (at least), and you will likely find that your TOCD simmers down. It is unlikely that a relatively minor trait such as body image would have a lasting positive effect on your state of mind if you are continuing to guilt trip yourself down this path of masturbation to sissy porn. Hope this helps. What do you think?
     
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  16. kriss93

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    Yes it helps, thanks a lot!

    I really hoping that you're right... but the fact is my "autogynephilia" was in me even before porn, but it was on a "manageable" degree... (maybe 10-20% autogynephilic feelings), but now my mind tells me that this is the ONLY thing if I want to be happy... but I DON'T leave behind manly things, I know how cool they're!

    And maybe I could accept the fact that I'm 10-20% transgender (autogynephilic) but I CANNOT accept that it is 80-90%.... I really hope that porn does this percentage...if you want to know more about my "story" I am glad to tell you in private...
     
  17. overclocked

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    Exactly what I thought. I didn't have many sexual encounters but during every single one the question dominant or submissive never came up.
    At the end of the day you want to be with your partner and not in some weird dynamic. Porn cannot teach what a realistic conection feels like. Are you a virgin?

    Edit: I'm asking kriss93 of course
     
  18. kriss93

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    Yes I've got two gfs but still a virgin.

    I don't get the point what would you like to say with your first sentence...
     
  19. overclocked

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    Well that's because you are a virgin :p
     
  20. I was at 27 days and I felt in charge, a lot more dominant.Then you know what happened.
     
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