Is this the answer?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Hugh Jampton, Mar 19, 2019.

  1. Hugh Jampton

    Hugh Jampton New Fapstronaut

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    Hi, yeah, I'm new to all this.
    I'm on day 5 PMO, and never tried this before. Though always thought that abstinence might be the doorway to enlightenment and happiness. Well, maybe. I'm married for over 15 years, and I think, in retrospect, that porn has probably always been a barrier to decent love-making, though would never have admitted it before now.

    I've got the blue balls thing, fairly regular urges, already considering karezza, and yet to flat line.

    I'm interested in getting rid of the brain fog and killing the interminable procrastination. But also perhaps breaking through some kind of spiritual barrier. Meditation has never really delivered its promise, will it now? Thanks to NoFap for the site, and everyone in advance who responds to this.
     
  2. Judas Johnson

    Judas Johnson Fapstronaut

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    I've gotto day 23 of no P and day 9 of no MO. Urges in the first few days, and a couple days of being erect most of the day.
    I've got the ache of blue balls, but woke up with no erection this morning and have not had one all day, despite some intrusive thoughts, so I guess I've started to flatline.
    As the brain fog and breaking through a spiritual barrier, I guess it's too early for me to tell.
     
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  3. Hugh Jampton

    Hugh Jampton New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Judas. Nice strapline btw! It would be interesting to see a graph of what is happening to people over the days. Thanks - HJ
     
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  4. Judas Johnson

    Judas Johnson Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, a graph would be great, might start making one for myself next time I get urges to keep my mind busy!
     
  5. Hugh Jampton

    Hugh Jampton New Fapstronaut

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    Right now I cautiously think I might be okay to go the full 90 days, but I can't imagine it working full time, especially as I'm married. I realise it's not mandatory, but I can't help wondering if would help to 'self-actualize'. Good to aim high whilst at the foothills! I'd be fascinated if any long-termers feel they are in that mental state/spiritual place.
     
  6. Welcome to the community.
     
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  7. Hugh Jampton

    Hugh Jampton New Fapstronaut

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  8. Judas Johnson

    Judas Johnson Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I imagine it being a lot harder being married or in a relationship. I'm single, and going to remain so while in hard mode.
    I really want to get to 90 days too
     
  9. It ends up being a barrier to love making and to the entire relationship. It steals your attention and part of your desires and funnels that energy towards.......no one really. It leaves wives and girlfriends blaming themselves because they know something is not right and assume it is them.
    Opening up, to her as well, and getting yourself back to normal will gain you more than thought possible.
     

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