Issue of lowering standards of the opposite sex during NoFap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by atak, Mar 2, 2017.

  1. atak

    atak Fapstronaut

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    Usually I'm somebody who has very high standards. Especially few years back I remember friends telling me I have very high standards. Probably they were trying to say too high of a standard but nowadays it has dropped immensely. Probably because I restricted my use of porn.

    At the moment I'm a couple of weeks in and even the most vanilla girl seems very sexually attractive to me. With vanilla girl I mean a girl with an okey body and normal symmetric face. Probably nothing wrong with this right? I want to ask this to other guys too. What are your experiences with this? I don't regard my standards of women going down as something bad. I still uphold my standards of women in the non-physical realm (their attitude, intelligence, etc) but in terms of flesh it has changed.

    Probably this is the healthy way how a man should be. I'm not sure. A guy shouldn't focus on a women's appearance too much since it fades away anyway. Even if you find a top model her features will fade away because of aging and you end up with her personality. Also from my personal experience when you have been with a highly attractive lady you get use to her beauty and it becomes something that is a given. This has probably has to do with how the male brain works. You get the woman you desire and once you have been with her you desire another woman and it doesn't matter she is a notch down. You just want something different.
     
  2. FreshMint

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    It doesn't sound like an issue to me. It sounds like you're recognizing that women have flaws just like men and there is much more to life than hooking up with someone who has super model looks (you could be a bit horny from the NoFap too lol). We will all get old, lose our hair, gain weight, lose muscle and have less energy. It's inevitable. The sooner we alll become okay with that and recognize that the opposite sex will face the same issues the better.
     
  3. Steve Sancteria

    Steve Sancteria Fapstronaut

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    yeah, I can agree with you.
    watching porn itself, not regarding masturbation and orgasm, does objectify women and being able to watch any porn star you want, you most probably go for the most beautiful ones, that have like hundreds of dollars of make up on their entire body.
    Once you get used to the unusual super hot modified chics, less attractive girls become uninteresting and thanks to porn, you can feed your sex drive, so no reason to notice the "okish" girls on the street.

    BUT, I´ve experienced that natural girls became super attractive sometimes because they were different...it kind of felt like a "girl from next door" - fetish, but this was during my PMO time where I did PMO every single day like brushing my teeth every morning and evening.

    Thanks to NoFap I kind of developted more respect to the women that I talk to and focus more th way she moves and talks, as well as her mindset etc.
    Ofc we all have our desires, I mean if you don´t like fat girls just like me, you will never ever find them attractive even if you and her are the last 2 people on the planet.
    Women just become more attractive in different perspectives I would say, but keeping a certain standard for yourself is also part of healthy ego and respect for yourself.
    You don´t have to date girls you don´t like, I´ve heard some people during lunch break saying, that they have rather sex with an ugly girl than with none and that they even had sex with fat girls they actually didn´t like, only to have sex.
    Don´t disrespect yourself.
     
  4. atak

    atak Fapstronaut

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    That is my position too. I still want a girl with good genes, who is healthy, not fat, fit and good personality, etc so I don't aim for the ultra hot top 5% girls of the flesh market. Because let's be honest, you get what you are or you have to compensate with something else like personality, status, money, etc. For example in the past I couldn't accept a girl with average looks but a lot of other great aspects than her looks. Today I would accept that. Probably it will stay like that if I don't start PMOing again. If my brain get's spoiled again I could go back to the old self. Currently I have a different brain. I'm literally fearless in social interactions. My first approach if I see a girl I like is smiling while back in the day I would look away. It is really amazing how your body chemistry can change human behavior. Fapping definitely has an effect on human behavior. We have been told a big lie when they said masturbation doesn't do harm.
     
  5. Steve Sancteria

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    But psssht, don´t tell the government :)
     

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