Keep relapsing so new approach

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Wanttosucceed, Jun 28, 2020.

  1. Hi all

    I have been using nofap for some time now and have had success in getting to 63 days not using porn but recently I have been really struggling and cannot seem to go for more than few days. Yesterday I PMO'd twice and felt so low and awful so now I am here to make a new commitment...normally I am just stopping from porn but I've realised that masturbation tends to just make me more likely to look at porn so I am going to wholeheartedly try PMO for one month! I am going to post on this thread every night to help with keeping my commitment. I want a girlfriend and more real sex and I know that have to get away from porn for good. I am making progress but need to do more and need more support.

    Thanks for listening
     
  2. NaniOmaeDel

    NaniOmaeDel Fapstronaut

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    Good luck man, But if you may pmo when you had a 2+mnhs streak you would lose motivation and would pmo as you will say "oh well I am already in the hole", So I suggest to add 20 days (yes sounds dumb and kinda cheating) but It will help you with it and staying on tracknso lets say you're on day 1 add 20 and you willl change this once you reach 14~15dys then you remove 20 so you would be not cheatin and that will help you keep yourself not relapsing, also chang your enviroment So it will become sutiable for you and no relapsing or hardly any relapsing will occur.
     
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  3. Thanks brother...ok yes I will go for a 20 day streak and I'll update each day on here to say how I am doing.

    Day 1 - new commitment made and I want to make it to day 20. Feel that I need NoFap site for support and posting daily will help keep me on track. Also need to keep active and busy
     
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  4. Ok this is the end of Day 1 and success! One day down...next target is to get to 10 days and then 20 days. I'm really serious about it this time and I want to beat my record of 63 days...one day at a time.

    I think if I get urges I will try getting straight out and going for a long walk...I'm also going to stop masturbating and edging like I normally do
     
  5. Peepaltree

    Peepaltree Fapstronaut

    I am with you dude
     
  6. Atlas Gherbe

    Atlas Gherbe Fapstronaut

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    edging and masturbate is a stupid thing to do with nofap, if you want to do nofap, try to never touch your dick for like 5 days, then other 5 days, etc....if you give your brain the excitment with edging and masturbation the relapse is probable. And i tall because i know it, i'm a crazy guy and i tried a lot of masturbation test and now i know if you really want to stop you have to not touch your dick....
     
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  7. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    You might also want to just start looking at self improvement stuff, you don't have to make a huge commitment but aside from just quitting things try thinking about healthy stuff you're going to take on.
     
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  8. Theoneking08

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    I kept relapsing over and over again and one day I just realized what truly my triggers were so I concentrated on those and cold showers help out a lot they are amazing keep going dude we can win this war
     
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  9. Thanks brother!!
     
  10. Hi there yes I agree with this...I often will lie watching TV in bed and start touching my dick and then get a boner then masturbate for a while whilst edging and usually not looking at porn...but sometimes I do think about porn and then before you know it I've got the computer open and I'm looking at porn again...despite vowing 5 mins earlier that I'm not going to do it! It can happen so easily so I agree not touching your dick is so necessary
     
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  11. Thanks..I already do a lot of this kind of stuff like yoga, exercise, bare foot walking, meditation...lots of stuff but I appreciate your comment and agree that doing good wholesome things makes us feel so much better. Just got to work out how not to go back to porn when I'm feeling low and need distraction
     
  12. Thanks so much for the encouragement! It's such a long battle but I am going in the right direction and good to know the support is out there
     
  13. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    You mentioned more support, the most obvious thing would be to look into APs but also APs that are keen on these kinds of practices. Also it's another thing to do some introspection and figure out how not to act out and catch our feelings before that happens, to have APs that are sensitive to that may be a good goal though probably harder to find.
     
  14. What's an AP? Thanks
     
  15. StarRider

    StarRider Fapstronaut

    My journey started similarly, but I made it to half a year without P. There were only mild benefits as a reduced O frequency. On the social front nothing happened. The next try a few years later I did cut out MO as well and made it to more than two months, that changed a lot in my life.

    Opportunities arise quickly once you get some retention going. Took less than a month for me. However I found out that seeking "real sex" during my reboot got me back into P just as MO did previously.

    So just be warned to not run into the same mistake. Don't do Nofap for a girlfriend or you will fall right back once something goes wrong. Do it to reboot your life!
     
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  16. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    Accountability Partner. You can see there's a forum section dedicated to finding partners, but of course ideally it's about more than accountability but also support, which means getting to know each other a bit. There are also official NoFap plans that involves weekly calls online, there's a link on the upper right when you're accessing the forum on your computer.
     
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  17. That's amazing that you manage half a year without P. Thing is I just want to meet someone and have intimacy...I'm really craving it badly as it's been so many years now of waking up alone in my bed. I am doing Nofap to reboot my life I think...I don't know. Thanks for the input I'm grateful
     
  18. StarRider

    StarRider Fapstronaut

    It wasn't to hard as I just did go MO when the urges came. However while it reduced O frequency, I didn't get any reboot benefits and after that half year I returned to PMO for multiple years. After my first much shorter PMO-free streak last year OTOH I kept on it due to the fact, that my social life improved tremendously.

    You are susceptible to PMO, because you use it as a cope for your cravings for intimacy. You should let go of these, which will make your recovery much easier and in the end might lead right into the thing you now don't "need" anymore. (As any human can enjoy intimacy even without craving it.)
     
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  19. I am I think on Day 5 or possibly 6 of my current streak and going well and feeling strong! I am resisting any urges to touch my dick at all (thanks for that advice) and I am looking into getting an Accountability Partner....I am realising that masturbating without P only seems to eventually lead to using P again so it's time to ditch any touching and just go 'hard mode'

    Can anyone explain what a rebooting means please?

    My aim is to get to 20 days then increase to 30 and keep building from there. I know I need a lot of support so an AP will be a good move for me.
     
  20. I am I think on Day 5 or possibly 6 of my current streak and going well and feeling strong! I am resisting any urges to touch my dick at all (thanks for that advice) and I am looking into getting an Accountability Partner....I am realising that masturbating without P only seems to eventually lead to using P again so it's time to ditch any touching and just go 'hard mode'

    Can anyone explain what a rebooting means please?

    My aim is to get to 20 days then increase to 30 and keep building from there. I know I need a lot of support so an AP will be a good move for me.
     

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