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Leaving the Hive

Discussion in 'Significant Other Journals' started by Queenie%Bee, Sep 24, 2018.

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  1. Do you think he anticipates that you'll just let this whole thing slide by after a bit and everything will get back to "normal" like it was before you found the laptop? Maybe he's so far in denial that he actually believes that's what will happen?
     
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  2. Faceplanter

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    Maybe just jealous you went camping?
     
  3. Queenie%Bee

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    No , he was looking at the same ones that we looked at last year to upgrade . He is not a camper , I introduced him to the life last year . He could take it or leave it lol
     
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    I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT HES THINKING LOL
    I mean I don’t know . The convo ended terrible Thurs . I left Fri without a word and no contact since . Mental gymnastics. I have given him no reason to be THAT delusional lol
     
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  5. You don't have to give him a reason to be delusional. His addiction does plenty of it already. I think it's possible that he's so used to having you and his PA at the same time that he can't even consider that it won't always be that way. He thinks he just has to let you have your time to "get over it" and things can get back to the way they were. I know it's ridiculous...truly ridiculous. But, sometimes they can really be that far in denial.
     
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  6. Psalm27:1my light

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    This, right here! My husband thought our marriage was great! Seriously? I didn’t say I-love you for 17 years ( I said it all the freaking time for our first 10 years). I took off my wedding ring-I still dont wear it. When he would tell me how much he liked me I’d say “ I don’t like you”. It was so bad he would walk in a room and I would walk out. I hadn’t done one single thing for him in 17 years! He thought I was finally ok with him “ just looking at porn”. It wasn’t until we were sitting in a counselors office and my husband said “ I think we are good, our marriage is good, so I don’t think we need to come anymore” The counselor looked at him and said “ she is going to leave you!” My husband was dumbfounded. To him, everything was fine. He was blind to everything going on around him. They believe what is easiest for them to believe. Even when all other evidence is showing it’s a lie.
     
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  7. Faceplanter

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    Sigh,

    This just reminded me of when my wife removed her wedding ring (or didn't put it back on after it was damaged and fixed if I recall). That bothered me when I noticed.

    I haven't even looked recently but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest now, it would be agreeing with me that we have no functional marriage anymore.
     
  8. Queenie%Bee

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    Lol nope . More of the same . Crazy town over here . Not addict this time
     
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    Literally the same conversation AGAIN ! I didn’t start the convo he did . He pushed it . Still “ we just see things opposite “ . Hmmmm I wonder why . I’m not “irrational with this “ . I am completely valid in my thoughts . Sorry you fucked me over so many times with this . Im sorry you robbed me of my independence.absolutely not the other way around . We had a lot of porn in this house up to 2008 he still hid his shit spending tens of thousands of dollars on his fetish . But I’m supposed to trust “it’s just a little porn “ lolol
     
  10. Psalm27:1my light

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    I’m sorry. For me it wasn’t just the porn. He refused to be honest, refused to discuss how unhappy I was with our relationship, refused to see anything wrong with our marriage. It didn’t matter how many times I tried to talk to him. It takes two to make a marriage work, but only one to destroy it.
     
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    “ I’m sure you want to put a tracker on me , a camera in every room “
    Dummy . He doesn’t get it . He’ll never wear my shoes
     
  12. Psalm27:1my light

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    Lol, I’d say “no why would I, you’ve proven masturbation is worth more than anything else in the world, I know what you’re doing without cameras, I sure don’t need to see that!”
     
  13. Faceplanter

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    That sounds insane. Who chooses that over leaving?
     
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    “It’s not like that for me , there’s not really any action with it , I just like the freedom to know as an adult man if I wanted to it’s there , I’ve taken away his essence of a man “ so I said “ ACTUALLY YOU STOLE THE ESSENCE OF MY WOMANHOOD AND HAVE NEVER APPRECIATED MY SEXUALITY, you never gave time and space for all I am “ crickets lol I CAN NOT WITH THIS DELUSIONAL DUMMY .
     
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    Meaning what ?
     
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    He says again “ You didn’t know I had it , I was in a great place , we were in a good place !!” :emoji_blush:
     
  17. Faceplanter

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    Who chooses having 24/7 surveillance over leaving? Either of you, really. Why would you want to have to be that vigilant. Why would he want to be subjected to such surveillance?
     
  18. Queenie%Bee

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    Noooooo that’s him deflecting ! I don’t . Just like most SO , there’s a pin on some channels . He thinks there’s accountability software on PC , there’s not there hasn’t been since 2017 . He gets this magazine that used to be all fitness , fine great , well all of a sudden it changed into 4 pages of fitness and about 12 pages of full page spreads of women wearing basically nothing lol ( PSUB ) . Look all he’s doing is grasping at straws because he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar AGAIN and sees ZERO wrong with it .
     
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    THIS IS INSANITY , his text this morning lol
    “I am Sorry and I do love you. I never want to hurt you or feel bad about anything. I just don't feel right about certain things either. I don't need Therapy. I hope we can back to where we just were and keep on moving forward. I Love You very much”
     
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    My response : do you have a time machine back to 1998 before it became a thing for you /us ?
    Respond : no time machine sorry
     

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