Masturbation with a fleshlight in comparison with sex

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by lick958, Jan 16, 2019.

  1. lick958

    lick958 New Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    I've been wondering something.
    Well, first, I have to mention that I never had sex.

    So I bought a fleshlight and I tried to masturbate, since it was supposed to be the closest way to feel what sex feels like. And well, at first, I struggled to put it in, it was too slippery. Once I put it in, it was like I was aroused anymore so I got a "derection" until I put it out.
    Just that makes me a little bit anxious but what's makes me very anxious is that, once I was hard and it was in the fleshlight, I lasted like 10 seconds because of the sensation. (I wasn't even close to cum before putting it in.)

    So... Yeah, I'm very anxious about that I keep telling myself that when I'll do it with a woman, I'll last 10-20s max.
    I know sex isn't the same thing as masturbation, but is the struggle of insering your penis inside your girl's vagina is real and if the fact that having sex with another person can make last longer?
     
  2. A nu start

    A nu start Fapstronaut

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    Everyone is different. The only way of truly knowing is by actually having sex. You can theorize all you like but you won't know for sure.

    The first few times I had sex I struggled to maintain an erection, mostly due to nerves.. After about the 5th time I have never had that problem again, this is going back 10 years.

    Just go nofap, no porn, and go out and meet some girls. That's the only thing you can do.
     
  3. lick958

    lick958 New Fapstronaut

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    Well just that is making me little less anxious already.

    Well I'm with a girl atm and it's going pretty well, that's why I'm anxious, I don't want to be a let down
     
  4. A nu start

    A nu start Fapstronaut

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    Don't over think it friend. I know that is easier said than done but it is 100% true. Even if you can't rise to the occassion initially, make her feel good. You can use other parts to do that - fingers, mouth.. In the meantime you might get that erection, but just try focusing on her pleasure and don't even worry about yourself. You'll get more comfortable and confident when you see her responding well to you.
    Just make sure you're on nofap/not using porn when the opportunity does arise as it gives you a much better chance at getting hard. Make it a priority to be on at least a 10 day streak before trying to get intimate with her (the longer the streak, the better).
    Good luck!
     
  5. mack56

    mack56 Fapstronaut

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    For me, getting an orgasm with fleshlight would come very fast compare to real intercourse. Its probably because doing it for real makes you more concerned with pleasing the woman instead of concentrating on your pleasure only. The real deal is more satisfying. The loving feeling beats any device.
     
  6. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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  7. Clarke

    Clarke Fapstronaut

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    Fleshlights feel better than a pussy imo. Super tight and always ready when you are. If you're worried about lasting, just abstain from any kind of sexual stimulation and just fuck your girl twice.
     
  8. bken

    bken Fapstronaut

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    Although the feeling is very close, you can't compare a fleshlight to an actual vagina. Inserting into a flehslight can be an ordeal, especially if you're not using enough lubrication. You don't have these problems with a real woman.

    Also I just don't get why some guys are so afraid of having sex with women instead of being glad. What I'm afraid of is not having sex with women lol.
     
  9. lif3

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    They are afraid to fuck up prior to the sex. That creates tension which leads to anxiety during intercourse. Anxiety is a boner-killer. I had that in my younger days.
     
  10. ReclaimedLife

    ReclaimedLife Fapstronaut

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    I haven't tried the fleshlight, but i heard is supposed to be super tight. And whether you like that is very depending on how big you D is and how sensitive your nerves are.
    All girls are different. Just like all guys are different in size, girls are as well.
    Focus on figuring out if there is a difference and use positions that make up for it. If you are a bit bigger, opening her legs usually is better, if you dont feel so much, try positions where you can close or even cross her legs.

    But all of this comes after you guys started connecting and just enjoying the time with each other. A connection is worth MUCH more then just plain sex. Kissing, touching, teasing, cuddling... make yourself a good time first and become comfortable.
    If you want to have beautfiul sex, that is the way to go.
    It depends on what you want for yourself. But in my experience, having sex with someone i really have a (deep) connection with and i am 100% comfortable with is totally different to "just fucking" a girl.
    I would go for the first variant every single time.
     
  11. lick958

    lick958 New Fapstronaut

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    Oh well thanks it helps a lot :emoji_thumbsup:

    Yea that what I thought, they're indeed super tight
     

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