Mixed feelings...

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by nadox, Oct 21, 2018.

  1. You are being mean. Was I rushing to defend the OP's action? No I was not.

    Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.

    I see no grace in what you say. Are you trying to destroy the OP?
     
  2. "I see no grace in what you say ...I've been a fool and I've been blind"
    Am I trying to destroy the OP? No, he's done that already.
    I am, however, sick of this forum now doubling up as a place for people to come looking for pity from other men. What he did was wrong, and the wrong is compounded by shifting blame onto the woman he cheated with. There also seem to be a lot of 'men' on this forum who blame women for everything, and consider themselves to be helpless little lambs, poor victims of the big bad woman who made them sad.
    No. Spare us the egotism. The only person to feel sorry for here is the wife who married a traitor.
     
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  3. primaljade

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    This is why I practice polyamory.
     
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  4. Zamyou

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    I'm gonna look the other way and stick to reasoning and put aside the fact that you betrayed your wife and family...

    I know you cannot help your feelings, but you made a commitment to your wife and there is no more room for messing around... ur coworker broke your heart, marriage, streak(?) and almost made you lose your job... and you still love your wife... in any case, you will lose one person you love.... but improve your marriage and most of all, yourself ! Marriage takes effort just like noFap.. it will take a while before you can put aside your affair but every day, think about what you would lose !

    You can do this man! And i guess we all make mistakes sometimes... that is how you learn!
     
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  5. nadox

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    No ones rushing to my defense. They just simply stated that your comments, however true, are not constructive. Which is the point of all of us being here. To share without fear of persecution or judgement since all of Sin stems from the same place. Weather your sin is lust, adultery, or pharisee or whatever.

    Your quick to judge me, though you don’t know that I’ve been standing by my wife for almost 10 year, many hospital visits because she has health issues coupled with mental health issues and a nasty habit of not staying on her meds. YEAH I FUCKED UP. Your presumption additutude of “ I better let this guy know he’s a piece of shit” is your sin, your affair, your issue. Like I didn’t already grieve and remorse about my actions in the last 6 months. Of course I have. But you, who are quick to judge, didn’t take the time to think out your comments, you are quick to spit vile on others and proclaim your righteousness before you have even weighed the situation or the thought.

    Thanks for your feedback bit you can’t take your self-righteous bullshit somewhere else.
     
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  6. nadox

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    Thank you. Those are the exact thoughts I’m focusing on and trying to implement in my life and marriage.
     
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  7. nadox

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    Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

    Everyone who has PMO’d has committed adultry in one form or the other. I’m simply sharing mine and being transparent.
     
  8. C_m

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    I wish you well on your path to recovery. Your post title says it all. As long as you have mixed emotions, that will be the challenge to your healing. Make up your mind and get your mind right.
     
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  9. nadox

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    Thanks you. I’m trying to get my head in order, I just needed a place to vent to say it all “out loud” so to speak. Feel me? If I bottle up everything I will fucking explode.
     
  10. Zamyou

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    I completely understand people here are mad, but its totally unhelpful.. OP is asking for help to change the error of his ways... instead of complaining, help the fella...
    He's not asking us for forgiveness (that's up to his wife) but rather how to change himself so it will never happen again..
     
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  11. If I see a donkey and say "hey, look! It's a donkey", I'm not judging it. If I hrar a guy cheated on his wife and then hraded to an anti-porn forum to complain that the woman he betrayed his wife for exploited the situation, I'm not judging him when I say "hey, look! It's a donkey!"
    Getting sympathy here for what you have done is lame. It's not a church. And only your wife can forgive you.
     

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