Dear friends, I wanted to share my experience to add another success story to the database. Why? Because reading the success stories helped me tremendously while I was on my recovery path not to indulge my desires and wank Sorry for the long post here is a potato? In short, I'm 28 yo gay male, and ever since my first sexual experience at 16, I had never been able to orgasm during sex. I have had many partners but eventually, I accepted this as the way I am, never questioning that this is actually an easily fixable issue. Now, unlike many here, I did not consider myself a porn addict (but maybe I should still?), I would use porn once or twice a week for me most part, but since sex was not a way to reach orgasm for me, I would usually reach it with porn. I should also say that I grew up with porn as I started masturbating around the early 2000s I guess. Now I realize that it was the sporadic use of porn that prevented me to enjoy sex for many years. What a silly man I was! I never had problems with getting hard or maintaining the erection, but usually, I would kind of feel numb in the penis while having sex, being more or less fully without sensation let's say. That no sensation feeling made me "perform sex" rather than being in the moment and just enjoying the body of my partners. That made sex not super interesting for me and I was therefore confused for years about being asexual and whatnot! Although I knew of NoFap for some years, it has not been until 3 weeks ago that I actually gave it a go (don't ask me why!! ). I stopped masturbating and using porn altogether. After a week I was feeling super horny so I went out and met with a guy, again no problem maintaining an erection, but without any real sensation down there while I was penetrating him. Fast forward another 2 weeks of no wanking until today, I have decided to meet with another guy since I really was fantasizing about sex almost every day, and my friends, the sex was amazing!! My penis was super sensitive, in fact, I lasted only about 5 minutes, and I decided to be super selfish and allow myself to cum since I was never able to do it before in this way Even the blowjob felt heavenly. I was totally prepared to be without orgasms for months, and this was the best possible surprise I ever received! Feeling super grateful and confident. I do not plan on getting back to porn use, and I have not really missed porn during these 3 weeks at all. I would like to thank many others who posted their stories that helped me to not masturbate for the last 3 weeks and I hope my story will inspire others to do the same. Let's stop being silly porn users and enjoy life more! I will definitely be more open and talk to my friends about this, who knows if I was not the only one with this little dumb secret.
Hi 28cured! It’s truly an inspiration for others when you’re able to share a success story such as this. I think so many people on here don’t realize how much P has created such an unrealistic view of what the experience of sex should be. Maybe in those moments when they are confronted with a conflicting view such as “P is bad!” it creates a sort of dissonance between themselves and what others are saying. But despite this, even being 3 weeks off P helped you tremendously and it is my opinion that others should focus more on that compared to hitting a specific number such as 300 days without PMO. I see it kind of like working out, everyone has different goals in mind that are personal to them. It just comes down to realizing that a goal needs to be set. Thanks for sharing and inspiring others, like me.
Thanks for the response JZ022, I realized that some days after quitting P and M my mind started fantasizing about sex, but not as an imitation of porn, rather fantasies with real people that I hooked up in the past. And the fantasies were becoming more and more creative and free with time. This could have been of great help too as I was breaking some "wrong" maybe porn-installed ideas in my mind!
