Thanks good advice. Love the Tolstoy quote, he's in my top 5. I know what I've done, I know who I am and I know what I need to do. I need to forgive her for any and all, because that's what I want from her. However I also can't be the only one to move towards healing... Her own words and actions suggest therapy is going to be more focused on ending things in an amicable way. She came home at 6, and wouldn't make eye contact with me. Instinct is telling me she is definitely not willing to work with me, she's busy finding someone else, and may have just spent the night in the arms of someone else. Overthinking isn't healthy. My heart is breaking and my family falling apart, but I'm not going to let this push me into a dark place.