New Challenge who will win! until the end of May! challenge (̶i̶̶m̶)possible :)

You are exactly correct! The less time you spend living, the less progress you will actually make!

 

Hi D.J. I can see on your counter that you've gone 500+ days without PMO. Does that mean you haven't had any sex at all in that time? and what would you say your benefits are and do you plan on having sex again when you think it's time or are you abstaining for life?

 

I have not had sex during this time period. I am abstaining for life but not everyone will be called to do this. I have been celibate for about 4 years. With my sobriety, it has given me the understanding that I do not allow the outside influence the inside. I have become stronger in my faith and am more willing to do with I know is right and best for when regardless of what with world or friends are doing.
You look at people as they should be seen and not as objects to please you. If you choose not to abstain for life, it allows you to know you can abstain from sex until the right person comes along because you would have seen how easy sex can change how you see someone and can tint your decisions.

 

Yeah I'm basically doing no PMO for 180 days then waiting for the right girl but abstaining from PM for life because I believe porn has corrupted my view on women and don't like how I've been using them for sex. I'm a firm believer in love and marriage though so I couldn't have the strength to stop myself from being with the right person, I think it would mostly make me feel lonely and can't stand loneliness.

 

Thats cool! I not had sex for over a year and a half. I choose to be celibate. I am also a Christian and the faith has made a factor for this. Yes you look to people that should be seen as not as objects to please you.

 

Don't Forget about me ;-)

 

No bro don't do this. You have to take control of this. From tomorrow only 83 days to go.

 

Don't do it!! after I relapsed I just felt like shit!! and now I have to wait another 3 days to catch up, ain't worth it to be honest. Be strong bro!

 

Definitely but that's just your brain saying you need it, you become a stronger version of yourself by not giving in to desire and addiction. Don't let PMO control you and destroy your life bro.

 

keep the spirit high anyone.

 

How about this? As opposed to thinking you couldn't do it because you loneliness, how about trying to do it and see instead. Wouldn't it be better to try it and realize what you assumed was true than to assume something or think something would happen not knowing you were wrong?
If your faith or belief leads you to purity or abstaining until marriage, try it and find out. At least you can say that you tried.

 

What you want and miss (PMO) is causing you harm but what you need sobriety is giving you life. What's more important to you a temporary high which is causing you harm or frustration which will give you a better life?

 

I don't really want to abstain for good though, doing it for the 180 days in hopes that I'll stop viewing women as sex objects then I will wait for a girl that I really wanna be with before I have sex. I'm not a religious person so don't believe in waiting until marriage but I do believe I should wait for the right girl. As far as masturbation goes, I don't really wanna be the guy who sits at his computer fapping all the time, if I recorded myself doing that I'd be disgusted so definitely trying to quit PM for life. Would rather spend that time becoming smart and achieving success.

 

Does anyone else barely sleep? It's not urges causing it, I just seem to have more energy and struggle falling sleep, feel like I'd rather be working out or something but I know I need sleep cause I have uni tomorrow.

 

Hi guys,

I'm now on day 2, after I relapsed on day 11. I would like to continue this till the end of April and then take up the May challenge.

In the past few days I've learned not to exaggerate the harm of the sexual urge as it will only get bigger. I've learned to pick up the mental thoughts that trigger those urges and then drop my attention to the physical sensations of those urges and ride them out using 'urge surfing'. It seems that those mental thoughts that trigger those urges are appearing for less longer than before. Anyways it's a life long challenge and I'm happy to start again.

I hope to last till the end of May because then I'll move to another town which may help me even more to reboot my mind through the change in environment and new experience.

Maybe now I can take the opportunity to make a written promise. "I promise I will quit PMO till the end of April and continue on through the May Challenge until I fly off to another place and continue the 90 day reboot."

kind regards

 

Relapsed this morning. Throwing myself back into the arena, of course. Next milestone: 7 days.