I’m currently in the process of studying a couple of books about how to pick up women and how to talk to them over text and phone. While I’ve been gaining quite a lot of insight, I’ve also felt like my brain has been turned into a pretzel. So...even though I’m interested in a woman, I have to sort of pretend like I’m not interested, because apparently women like to be challenged. Yeah, a challenge, even though they’re pretty content to let us do all the leg work. Humor is generally used to attract them, but if it isn’t done right, you either wind up with a friend instead of a lover, or you wind up with an angry woman. Oh yes, and although they supposedly want a challenge, they have all these secret tests that weed out guys who don’t have enough confidence to pass them. One of the books says to just push forward no matter how much grief she gives you, holding fast to the belief that she really is attracted to you, even if there are no clear signals. I’m trying to understand all this and gather up the courage to put myself out there, but it’s really no surprise to me now why ladies have seemed so mysterious and complicated to me all these years. Attracting them just seems so non-intuitive and ass-backwards. Thoughts?