Porn ruined sex life, but cured ED and DE by giving it up.

TW: mention of porn and sex. Idk if that’s a trigger but I guess

Hey, new here. Had a girlfriend for about a year. Started being active together about 7/8 months ago. Only one previous encounter where I was very drunk in a European city so the little man didn’t show up, marginally traumatising bc my mate was a couple beds along. Anyway, got my current girlfriend and started having sex. The first few times it didn’t work at all, so stopped having like tactical ones before hand and trying to relax and still did not work. I was sure I was gay at this point because that was all that could explain it but I’d never wanted to be with a guy so it was a confusing time. Lots of self loathing that almost made me end the relationship.

Gave up porn as a last resort bc it made me guilty I could with these plastic virtual girls, but not with the gorgeous real life ones. To my surprise, after a few false starts I was raring to go. Still had problemsejaculating (only one specific position could do it) but that became easierand now I can ejaculate during sex in almost any position. I’m not sure if it was porn but I just feel like havingdiscovered this community since it must’ve been a significant driver. I’d been watching progressively morehardcore since about 13 and wasn’t 18 before I realised sex is not like that.

I still fap tho and I wanna stop bc Ifeel like I’ve unwittingly done half of the NoFap journey off my own backbut I can’t do the last hurdle. I still occasionally have trouble finishing and it’s weird. Anyone got any words of advice for how I should go about this or what they think of my journey so far?