Questions About Reboot

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by maiiKy, Jun 6, 2020.

  1. maiiKy

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    Hi guys,

    first of all sorry if there is already thread like this.
    I’m 22 years old guy. I had only one sex one year ago. I had blowjob a lot of times but sex only once. My problem is that I’m experiencing erectile dysfunction because of porn. I was watching porn and jerking almost every day, sometimes more that once per day. This was here with me for about 6 years. Last year I met one girl and when we wanted to have sex, I was not able to be hard down there. I was like ok, maybe I’m just tired or nervous. One week again, same thing happened. I broke up with that girl because I was not feeling like a man. Some months ago I met one girl, from beginning it was only about sex. Again, I was not able to do it because my dick was not hard. Then I founded this that I can be addicted to porn. It have to be true, because I am able to get hard on porn, but it have to be something “more” than just regular sex.
    Now, I’m still relapsing every week or every second week. But now I need to fight with it. I have a girl, she is great, I love her. Today we wanted to have our first sex. I was a little bit nervous but it was ok, I want to make it perfect because that will be her first sex ever. I was able to be hard when we were kissing and when she used her hand, but when she stopped jerking me for 30 seconds my dick was soft. I was not able to put my dick inside her, I was feeling like nobody. She was like dost worry, next time but I’m scared that this will be same again.
    I need to talk to her, I will tell her that I have this problem on we need to wait with our sex at least for 90 days. But I want to ask you guys. When we are kissing, my dick is wet. I mean, is this ok? Because I will not cum for 90 days, but when my dick is wet is that ok? Because when we are kissing or I’m using my fingers, I like that in horny and my dick is wet, but soft :(
    I need to stop watching porn and masturbate, I know it. She is worth it. but when I want to be on PMO - is that wet dick ok?

    Thank you all for your replies, I hope this topic is ok and I did not write nothing wrong.
     
  2. _most.high_

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    yeah mane , any human interaction is better than porn, just try not to orgasm, also try not to focus on that 90 day streak , sometimes it takes as long as a year to be fully rebooted, the 90 days just means youll go back to your same binging habits after that and youll have the same problems
     
  3. maiiKy

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    I will try. For me there is only one thing I need to achieve and that is normal sex life. I hope she will understand and not leave me.
     
  4. maiiKy

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    Hi again,
    I want to ask one thing. I don’t know if i have PIED or it is only in my head. I’m getting morning wood, also random erections trought day, i was hard from kissing with my girl. What if i have problém with my head, because i’m not experienced, I had sex only once. So maybe problem is with my head overthinking.. what do you think?
     
  5. _most.high_

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    it could be anxiety, it also could be pied. if you could achieve and maintain an erection with your girl long enough to have sex, youre probably fine and its anxiety , unless you have delayed or premature ejaculation which is porn induced. anxiety shouldnt stop you from achieving an erection tho . but its your body i cant tell you the answer . i guess the only real way to find out is risk failure by having sex with your partner. in anycase quitting porn as a whole is benneficial either way.
     
  6. Daxos

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    Welcome to the club bro. Sounds like classical PIED to me. I've been in your situation too. Tried having sex with 3 different girls and having ED issues with all 3 of them. I was like: "what the actual fuck is happening to me". Then I found this forum and after 2 years I finally made a streak go beyond 60 days, and started getting some really great results. I was getting back to where I was prior to my 3 failures with the 3 fore-mentioned girls. At day 96 I believe I had my first awesome erection again during sex with a girl that I invited over and I classed myself as cured. It did take some more weeks until everything was fully healed, but that weekend around day 96 was the turning point for me.

    Do NoFap for at least 90 days and you will fix it all. After reading your post I can only conclude PIED. There is not a single part in it where it makes me think some other cause might be behind it. Although I don't understand the 'wet' part.
     
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  7. maiiKy

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    Thank you guys for all replies.
    Ok I will try to.. no, I will nofap for 90days and also I will cut porn from my Life, but what with my girl? We are together for 1 week and I don’t want to break up or something, shoud I tell her that we need to wait 3 months at least to have sex? And can I lick or finger her but She can’t do anyiting to me, because Im doing no PMO? wet part was About precum or how its called. My dick is wet when im kissing her or licking or anyithing with her.. :)
    I was trying to have sex with her last time but I was not able to get it up.
     
  8. Daxos

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    Ah ok, its clear now. Yeah I had precum too. Nothing to worry about.
    I have no experience with doing this while being with a girl, so I will refrain from giving advice about that before I break shit up xd
     
  9. maiiKy

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    It’s fresh with her, so I don’t know if I want to say it to her. Shes 10/10 so I don’t want to lost her. She is a virgin and damn shes horny :D this will be hard
     
  10. maiiKy

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    Hi guys,
    I want to ask do you have dome experience with drugs for erection? this weekend I will be with my girl in my house and I’m feeling great, I think I will be able to fuck her, I can feel that. But If i’m wrong, I would like to have prepared pills for erection. Is that good idea?
     
  11. UnitedWeStand

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  12. UnitedWeStand

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    I haven't take any drugs so i can't tell anything about this. Listen, you really need to tell your gf about your addiction and everything, i did that twice and i got the proper support for this. I recovered in a relationship so you can too
     
  13. maiiKy

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    Yes I know, I have to tell her. I will tommorow when she will be with me.. i hope she will accept that.
     
  14. UnitedWeStand

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    Good job mate. Tell me how did your girlfriend respond?
     
  15. maiiKy

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    Today I told her. She was like: “if it’s fixable, together we can fix that’. Then we tried to have sex, it eas hard to hold him up, but somehow I managed to have erection and we had sex. It was like 30 seconds but worth it :D
     
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  16. UnitedWeStand

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    This is the news i expected! So glad about you
     
  17. maiiKy

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    Ok but what now? What if I will fail next time? I already cutted off porn from my Life, not watching that for long time. I relapsed today while we had sex.
     
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  19. maiiKy

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    We had sex and I cummed. I relapsed from sex.
     
  20. UnitedWeStand

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    No dude sex doesn't count as a relapse. You can have all the sex in the world. Sex is allowed and it actually helps rewiring and fasten reboot process.
    Just give yourself some time between orgasms in order not to flatline or get a strong chaser effect.
    Sex is natural and its good!
     

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