Record of my triggers

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    Face them and deal with them!
     
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    Trigger 1 being alone
    when I am alone in my dormitory. The urge is ready to move. My soft bed makes me relax , and it often makes me ignore my reboot. then the urge gets enhanced, finally, I'll fail. Now I know how it works . I must do sth. Ennn.. I think I must pay attention to being alone in dormitory. If I wanna go nowhere, then I must to face the urge. I know it is a gentle knife. So I will never show my mercy. First I must take control of my mind. I should concentrate on sth I like, for instance. watching some documentary. But sometimes this may be delay effective. before it works, I must to sth makes me calm down. I tell myself that the porn is not real, what my brain thinks or feels is not reality. And I must accept that my brain wants sex and love, but I also should understand, watching porn will just keeps me and my brain away from that goal. When I thought this, I feel a little sad. I want to complain the world is unfair. But I also have to get that I have the ability to chase my goal and build a happy family. It depends on me. And complaining the world just likes watching porn. its just illusion. and now I should enjoy my documentary or just think about how to find a girlfreind.
     
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    Trigger 2 bad mood
     
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    I hope you get a lot of chances to talk and relate with women, to humanize them after objectifying them, to appreciate them for what they are really like and what makes them happy.

    Reading and watching rebooting material helps me a lot.

    Success to you!
     
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    This always my first challenge, it happens very time I am alone, but actually, I repeat to tell me donot be a cheater who use porn to cheat my brain. Sometimes the urge is so strong, I remind myself, its a consequence for I cheated my brain for a long term. And now its the key point to change. So I promise I will fight back with all my power! I‘ll seem the urge as an enemy, and angry is my weapon. I'll use a strong power to tame it!In past I try to be relent, hope that the urge can help my life. But with many fails I understand, the urge gets something wrong, some virus defiled it. So now whatever happens, I must abandon fantasy and prepare to fight. And I must finish my reboot, after that I may test my urge whether good or not.
     
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    Sometimes, the urge makes me really tough, it likes a burn, which makes me painful. And I will complained that I should not be a man, I'd rather to be an animal, so that I wont be tortured by this feelings. But when I am in rational. I just want say thats wrong, Its not the feeling that make me painful, But something more deep in my mind. If I am an animal, then I will lose my chance to fight back. Being an animal donot means the pain disappear, its just did not show up. And it always keep suffering. Instead, feeling painful is my first step to fight back, and tells me whats going wrong. FEELING THEM, KILLING THEM!
     
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    Trigger 3 tired body
    After I work for a whole day , I will feel exhuasted. and in this time, if the urge comes.My laziness will be its accomplice. Oh my Marx! its just like when you are in diet, but with being hungry for a day,there appears a super high-calorie fried chicken in front of you. It likes a atomic bomb explosion. I almost fail. I began nervous and I am losing my control of my body. likes the shock wave,porn fantasy breaks into my brain. I want to say no. But my tired body just fall into the “tender land”. my hand just lose control. after meaningless struggle, I decide to relapse. Just when I am going to abandon. I just recall a bro told me that once he abandoned just likes this. In that time, he is ambitious first, but suddenly lost control and fail. and he is frustrated. this memory gives me a head-hit. I am awake. but the urge is still strong, my tired body just want comfortable thing. no other way, I control my hand. and then, I fall asleep in 1 sec. in my dream, I am still struggling. I remind my reboot table which I have finished a-week challenge, and in 3 days I will finish my ten-days challenge. But my brain just cant get rid of the urge totally, I want porn, too. Finally , my body cant insist any more. I fainted. After my rest, I feel energetic again.
    though the urge still exist, but now I can easily control it. and after this, I am motivated that in this fight, I almost fail at beginning but finally I make it. though I lost control of my hand for a brief time, but I did not watch porn or do something worse. Its a great step that I win the first time in the head-on confrontation with urge.
     
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    "Consider the popular “urge surfing” technique that some users decide to employ: Instead of running away from your emotions, you can try feeling them. Slow down your breathing. Bring your attention to your emotion. Explore it. Breathe into the emotion, bringing your openness and curiosity to the feeling.
    When you do this, you will find that you create space around the emotion - it’s simply not so important or powerful anymore. You will still feel it, of course, but it is bearable. This may take some time, but with practice it is possible to become completely comfortable with the emotional pain. This is because you are not feeding the emotion with your mental energy by getting caught up in it. Instead, by just letting the emotion be, you will find that not only is the emotion tolerable, but, like an urge not acted upon, it might soon fade away."

    ——qouted from" Getting started with Nofap"
     
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    Changing Your Surroundings
    One of the most common strategies among our members seems to be very simple - change your environment. If you are feeling an urge to slip back into old habits, go somewhere where you are less likely to reset/relapse. Once out of your danger environment, it is easier to think with a more level head, and make the decision that is most in line with your goals. Simply going outside or into company is a great answer; most people don’t use porn in public. Leave all Internet-connected devices behind if you can; if you can’t access porn, you won’t use it.


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    Quick, High-Rep Exercise
    This strategy is very popular. Among the NoFap community, exercise was quickly discovered to be an effective urge-killer.
    When you experience cravings, you can try to stop what you are doing, drop to the floor, and do as many fast push-ups as you can manage. If push-ups aren’t your thing, you can substitute squats or, if you have a pair dumbbells nearby, a quick set of curls. Any exercise will do. The physical activity focuses your brain’s attention on the exercise, and Rebooters report that the cravings often swiftly disappear.

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    Meditation and Mindfulness
    Another popular way to deal with urges is through meditation and/or mindfulness. Urges are often accompanied with sexual imagery. Getting caught up in that sexual imagery, i.e. fantasizing, gives the urges power and makes them much stronger. But if you can prevent yourself from paying attention to that sexual imagery, people report that the urge often dissolves in a matter of seconds.

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    Emotional Rollercoastering
    Rebooting, however, is not a magical pill. You will not suddenly wake up on the morning of your seventh day and discover your brain fog gone, your social confidence through the roof, and potential partners attracted to you like moths to a light bulb. Neither is rebooting a linear process. Overall, the net change usually curves towards more positive changes, but within that curve, there are usually emotional ups and downs.
    You might feel amazing for a month; then a bad day full of urges and frustration will smack you down out of nowhere. Or you might have a week of feeling apathetic, and wake up the next day feeling upbeat. Just keeping pushing forward, and take each day step by step.

    Your friends, family, and coworkers might notice your emotional shifts before you do, complimenting you on your positive attitude or commenting on your moodiness. Whether this feedback is positive or negative, take it as a sign that your reboot is underway.

    ——qouted from" Getting started with Nofap"
     
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    Trigger 4 Wet dream and chasing effect
    Yesterday night I got a wet dream, it's awful and I feel uncomfortable about it. When I was sleepping, it happened without signs. And I waked up at 5 am. I had to change my underwear and sleep again. But I get a little bit tired when I get up at 9 am. What bothers me more is the chaseing effect. I just wanna M, as wet dream gave me sexual arousal. The urge just likes an annoying fly. I really wanna to relapse, but I decided to come to this forum to write down my trigger, which I am doing now. And this makes me calm down and become peaceful. I just recall a saying“the best way to beat panic is to call its name.” so does to urge. I know there is an urge and how it happen, then it become more controllable.
     
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    Last time, I was too angry to write down my post. And this time, I want write down annother event in my life to make me feel better. Last night I was hurted by my friend. We were playing online game, but my network signal was not very good, and my operation is also poor. What I wanted to do is just playing with my friend, and try my best to do something for my team. But my friend cant stand my bad operation. and finally he rebuked me angrily, I was shocked and this makes me really sad. I guess maybe I should not play with him in this game for my bad operation. I am angry and frustrated. And I just wanna to break my reboot, because I think I am just nothing. I feel painful in my heart. But when I remind what I have done for my reboot, I just cant allow that happen. I think of my family who support me, this makes feel better. then I felt angry with my friend, I just dont want to talk to him, and I deleted my game. I sweared that I would never play that game with him(hahhhhh).Now when I am in peace, I just think it's fine, it's just a small arguement. But from this event I just understand what he is thinking in playing game. Hahhhh, I think it's really hard to him to stand a noob for a long time, otherwise, he would not be that angry. As I dont want to train too much in game, so the best choice maybe abandon the game. Maybe that time I was angry then deleted the game. But now it seems this wont make him angry again. But still, for myself, I must change a way to connect with my friend, Emmm,but I dont have a good idea yet. Maybe time will give me answer.
     
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    Triger 5 achievement, I mean slack
    when I come to my first small goal ——day 10. I think maybe I could relapse now. When I get some success in my life. I may think, relapse can be a reward. Everytime I want to relax, I think of relapse. Emmmm..., now I write this down. It can easily understand how porn has influenced my brain——it makes my brain think relapse should be a reward or relax.Oh my Marx! I just cant stand this! It's just ridiculous! It just likes I work hard to paint a nice picture, and I say"Oh, I have a nice picture now, I should tear it up or burn it." I just wanna say F**k! F**k the thought of "relapse is a reward and relax"! It's just destroying my life! Why my brain can be so stupid to believe that?I must kick it out of my mind! Rubbish!
     
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    So what should be a really reward? I guess a new plan is OK, as I finished something which means I enter a new statue. Just like I get taller and a new beautiful suit can be excellent. A new plan which suit me more is icing on the cake. Or maybe I finished something that makes me a little tired, so I need a rest. What's the perfect rest? I think sleeping, the traditional way, can be good. Or exercise, music(oh yeah, it sounds good), a tasty meal, date?(I want to find a girlfriend!!!!!), etc.
    Fine, this is the life I want!
     
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    Trigger 6 Meaningless
    Today I just talked about too much, makes me a little tired, but this is an important trigger. So I now just write a part of my thought:
    If there is a hollow, fill it up!
    If there is a spark,Make it gorgeous!
     
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    Trigger 7 wake up ,I mean lai bed
    Today I wake up with urge, and I really want to relapse, In bed, I feel warm and comfortable, I just want to set myself free. Slack! then Relapse! Damn! the urge is everywhere. I must keep my original aspiration in mind!——To persuit a better life, I must finish reboot to rectify my urge and my brain. If I relapse, it mean most of my hard work is in vain. And the bad feel and the spiral of awful life will come back.

    Now I just bear urge, which feel better than meaningless and weak, isn't it?
     
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    Something special 1 peacefulness
    Though from beginning in the ninety challenge, I have to fight against my urge for a long time every day. But actually I have got something special, maybe it's a flatline. I just feel peaceful that I hardly experrience in past. all the urge has gone, even though I see pretty girls, I may think she looks beautiful, and just that, while in past I may think of something about porn. Without fantasy about sex. I can easily concentrate on my work, the peaceful mind set me free and relieved me. In that time I won't feel that I am fettered by the urge. The noise has gone, and I can feel the true world.
     
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    Trigger 8 hot girls
    So it's easy to understand this trigger. And it is the most common trigger which is inevitable in life especially in summer. Oh My Marx! So how can I deal with this? Escaping is not my style! actually the only way I come up with is accept. I have to recognize that hot girls trigger my urge, which is the nature of men. BUT! It's wrong to use relapse to relieve urge. Actually relapse will just hurt me for it will reduce my affection for girls, while my connection with girls is important and necessary for my brain and body to lead a happy life. Relapse will just cut it off, when I lose connection with others, then it comes to meanningless which is fatally cause depression and self-harm thought. So bearing it maybe a little uncomfortable, But I think it's better than depression or something worse. And the urge which triggered by girls is what the urge should be, and it's a perfect condiment for life.
     
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