I don't think one can overcome addiction always talking about it. I think struggle is dellusion. I think this community, full of good people, is unhealthy because we learn to depend on people who have the same obsession than us. Actually, we spend our time here thinking about porn, masturbation, sex. I think THIS is the new addiction. I think the only moment I feel free from urges is when I'm not on this site, always talking about my dick, my cum, my fantasies, my will, my obsessions. I think you're all very brave and committed to the struggle, but I don't think one can win against libido. I think the only way to defeat it is not embrace our sexual desires without letting them killing us. We should be flexible about it. I feel like most people here are too preachy about the way they want to handle abstinence, as if it should be a straight line. This "from now on I'm clean", every psychologists, every member of anonymous addiction group has hear that one thousand times. I just don't believe in it. I haven't jerk off for 5 days now and you know what? I DON'T WANT TO CARE about how many fucking days? Isn't this crazy that we're supposed to be free from something and we're counting days? We overthink it. It's not healty. I don't feel the need to jerk off right now, I feel fine and if tomorrow I want to do it, I will, or perhaps in a week or more, when it will come to me. I don't have to think about it and talk to other guys about how many days they haven't jerked and cum.... I'd rather get out, see friends, read, work, watch a movie.... I had the same kind of problem, with food. I did 100 diets. One day, I decided I would never do a diet anymore. I lost weight. I eat when I am hungry. And I feel fine now. I hope some of you will follow that path because I think it's the best thing to do. For those who totally disagree with me, I wish them luck and happiness. Goodbye!