Trauma and sexual preferences

preferences keep on changing and you develop them.they are not set in stone

 

This is a good question, @Freedom_from_PMO - one that gets asked in a wide range of ways. For me, any inquiry around preferences is best left until one has achieved some measure of sobriety from addictive sexual behaviour, especially pornography.

As we all know, addiction in general and porn specifically distorts our perception. How many times, after all, has someone written here: 'Porn lead me into places I'd never imagined'? In order to see our preferences clearly, we need to be relatively free of this distorting influence.

Best of luck. Let's keep trying to do the next right thing...

 

I did experience a number of traumatic events that tied into self-esteem issues and sexual preferences that I would describe as degrading.

Since I’ve been PMO free and started working on these issues, I feel like everything is fading but may take a few years to really sort out.

It would definitely be appropriate to give yourself some time. Good luck my friend!

 

I find this to be very true for me too. I’ve been suffering from post traumatic stress for 16 years; waking up in shock and terror and having horrible recurring dreams. I got into the femdom stuff as a dark side of sex escalated into more degrading crap. I think it was an escape to just surrender. But through a lot of counselling and processing the grief plus making changes in my life, I’m not waking up in shock anymore. I’ve stopped watching porn for a while which has helped massively. ( Plus saves me a bit on smashing up lap tops and phones once I’ve o’ed) I don’t feel the need for any of that stuff. ( Something I was losing hope of recovering from) I’m still getting the withdrawal effects a bit but no pull to that which is amazing. I’ve still got keep my guard up. But this break I’ve been given is a god send My opinion we need to address the underline issues rather than just abstain from o for as long as we can.

 

No , or maybe my body was traumatic for me because i did watch some fendom stuff(just light because some things i couldnt watch they where so painfull that immediatly my dick started hurting and sorrying for what he was watching) when i was a skiny lazy kid , since i started lifting , and fighting im much more dominant and my body type doesnt match a submisse guy because im not submissive !!!! Im Queek Headtakker the mightiest the best the most deadly!!!!! Yesyesyes

So my suggestion is start doing manly things and change your mindset , that worked for me! (Altough i didnt beat porn yet but im on my way to!)