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WANTING to quit badly enough

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by brightsidealien, Aug 6, 2017.

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  1. Aug 6, 2017 #1
    brightsidealien

    brightsidealien Fapstronaut

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    Hey people!

    I'm here looking for some feedback on an issue I'm facing at the moment, that is surely killing all my small, yet hard to come by, progress when it comes to my latest challenges.

    I wanna know what you all did or how you all got fully convinced and fully behind the quitting PMO goal. I keep telling myself I should quit and that nothing good ever came from my porn habit, from M and so on. I keep telling myself I want all the benefits of sobriety and I want to be strong and face my urges without them ever breaking my will, I keep telling myself my sexuality in general always came with a huge price tag and that controlling my attitude and my life with a well executed challenge, would be amazingly satisfying and would constitute a huge accomplishment.

    All that is fine and good BUT, then I start getting soft on the habit demon, I start making excuses for doing it again. I worry about semen retention being bad for my health, I tell myself I don't really have a P or M habit to break, I chalk it all up to something everyone in the world almost, does and enjoys. ETC.

    So yeah, it's like I don't really WANT IT bad enough cause I'm not willing to exert the huge effort it would take to resist. I am soft and weak willed and I don't know how to change that.

    Any tips to finally WANT THIS, to finally want to leave PMO behind? Cause I realize if I don't think I have a problem, I will never feel the constant urge to quit and then any challenge I enter into or any attempt at full, lifelong sobriety, is just useless.

    Thanks for any advice or feedback guys. I appreciate it.
     
    brightsidealien, Aug 6, 2017
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  2. Aug 9, 2017 #2
    plant goodness

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    Um, honesty. Truth. Science.

    I'd hate to see you post something after hitting a rock bottom.

    Some people won't quit until they start discovering what their own unique bottom is.
     
    plant goodness, Aug 9, 2017
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  3. Aug 9, 2017 #3
    Ashin_kusher

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    Im trying to quit because I don't want to be dependent on anything anymore. I want to be completely independent from desires And addictions. I still want to be able to have a good time and have fun, but I don't want to have to depend on something for that.

    As far as everyone enjoying it, everyone would love heroin if they all tried it, but it definitely isn't good for you, it just feels good. It all boils down to being stronger than people who are giving in to that good feeling. That's just my opinion though.
     
    Ashin_kusher, Aug 9, 2017
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  4. Aug 9, 2017 #4
    jmavblitz

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    After my last relapse of 90+ days I wrote down how I felt at that time to deal with the frustration. It's basically a short paragraph of a recovered version of myself yelling at my brain to stop playing tricks on me. I then illustrated the definite reasons to give up the habit for good in order to remind myself.

    Concrete reasons to stop:

    • Fix perceptions on life
    • Fix energy levels (stop fatigue)
    • Develop an energy advantage over every average person who still PMO's and hasn't discovered NoFap
    • Develop self-discipline and master the urges my brain tries to hold over me
     
    jmavblitz, Aug 9, 2017
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  5. Aug 9, 2017 #5
    brightsidealien

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    This is so true, it feels good but it kills at the same time. That's what I can't seem to get through my thick skull. Thanks man.

    Heh, look at that, all of us fapstronauts have almost the exact same reasons to quit. These four reasons are good enough to keep trying, thank you!
     
    brightsidealien, Aug 9, 2017
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