What I Learned About Myself Through Porn

Sabertoothwilly

Sabertoothwilly

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Let me just begin by saying that denial is a huge part of porn addiction, considering I told myself that for years I was just “helping myself go to sleep” by masturbating before bed. In reality, I was loading my brain with the fabricated/tampered reality that I was banging multiple 10s every night, therefore making it difficult to maintain an erection when I would have sex with a REAL girl.

This has only gotten worse lately as I have gotten older. When I was younger I could have sex multiple times and still be ready to go, but now that’s not so true. Since my last 3 sexual partners, I’ve found it hard to get off with them. This started to worry me and my dick would just become a source of disappointment. I knew about Nofap and thought about it but brushed it off as total bullshit;

“Watching porn causes me to not perform well? Yeah right, it gives me pointers on how to perform better! Besides, it helps me sleep.”

And that is where i was wrong. That was the denial of not accepting my REAL problem: porn. Porn is bad for the brain and is causing my libido to be low and make real women just seem, well, average. Average is good though, because they are only “average” to me because I’m so used to having sex with 10s in my head all the time. Porn also just makes Us subconsciously look at women in a different way, mainly as sex objects instead of potential mates. Overall, porn does more bad for us than we know.

As I’ve discovered this problem I’ve decided with the new year I’m going to try Nofap and quit porn FOR GOOD. I want to create this thread to have new members such as myself to talk about it and give updates. Be honest, open, and ready to beat pornography and recognize it for the absolute evil it is.

Let’s do this.
 
Welcome to NoFap, man!

@Sabertoothwilly , the most important thing is that you realized in time.

Porn completely distorts what real sex is in our minds. Pornography is sexual science fiction, man. It's not how people are supposed to be having sex in the first place. One more thing: sex is more about touching than looking. While sex has a more tactile nature, porn is purely visual. If you condition yourself to get off with visual experiences, your brain won't know how to handle the tactile nature of actual sex.

Make sure you look around the forums to learn more about NoFap. Learn about how porn addiction can affect you and also read more about the rebooting process. Join a challenge (I'm currently doing the 7 days challenge here).

Also, make sure you start a journal and have a look at other members' journals, so you can learn from their mistakes and successes.

I wish you the best luck in your journey.

Stay strong.
 
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
 
D . J . said:
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
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So far it is just abstaining from pornography and masturbation. I meditate or do something else productive to get my mind off of it. I just remind myself that porn is bad and what the pay off will be later. I also just try to have the mindset of "it won't be that bad, you got it." This has lasted me until today, day 3. Hopefully after a week the hardest part is over.
 
Sabertoothwilly said:
So far it is just abstaining from pornography and masturbation. I meditate or do something else productive to get my mind off of it. I just remind myself that porn is bad and what the pay off will be later. I also just try to have the mindset of "it won't be that bad, you got it." This has lasted me until today, day 3. Hopefully after a week the hardest part is over.
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Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.
 
Hi Willy,
Glad you are here. And very welcome to join us in our journey to a healthy, fulfilling life without any self harming habits.

It's a safe place here. We all are in the same boat, so there is no single space for judgement here.
Maybe it's a good idea to keep a journal. Sharing your struggles, thoughts and feelings may help you to understand the underlying issues.

Keep coming back and get the most effort out of nofap!
You don't need to do it alone!

Let's go to work!
 
So far it's been good getting away from porn, that is the biggest struggle and what I believe to be the worst for me. I already feel better and am beginning to look at women with actual feeling instead of just wanting to bang them, pretty nice.
 
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