What is O?

Personally, I don't see how completely avoiding actual sex could possibly benefit anything.

 

Unless sex is a potential trigger for a reset/relapse, I would think sex and O (orgasm) is perfectly acceptable. I suppose you would have to self-assess how entrenched your PM habit is and whether it will make it more difficult to kick the habit if you have sex. If the aim of all of this PM abstention is to have a healthy sex-life, why give up healthy sex?

 

Hey @Olly91 so for my partner, he stopped PMOing, but the only time he O's is with sex with me. He doesn't masturbate. I think that orgasming, because it releases the bonding hormone, is fine when having sex with your gf because you are bonding to her. You're rewiring your brain to bond to a human rather than a screen. In my opinion that is a good thing. Also, it's a very nice feeling to know that your guy has waited in a sense, and when you are together you can connect during sex with pleasure (both emotional and physical) and if both of you orgasm than that is very nice. I know my partner doesn't O every time because sometimes he just wants to give me pleasure, and vice versa, but it's nice to know that we wait for each other because it builds anticipation sometimes, which can be very sexy and romantic in a way.

I know that for us at one point we got stuck in the mindset of orgasm is the goal of sex, but now when we have sex we just try to give each other pleasure and if we orgasm, cool, if we don't then we still bonded and enoyed sex together.

So orgasming, in my opinion, should be a good thing when having sex with your girlfriend because the bonding hormone that is released will make you feel closer to your gf, and her to you. I think it can bring you guys closer, as long as it's adding to the already emotional intimacy.

That's my thoughts on this.