Words of warning

Greetings,

I've known about nofap for about 6 months and have abstained from porn and masturbation throughout the majority of this time. Like alot of members, i heard about the amazing benefits and thought that this was the secret to turning my life around. Firstly, I did see the benefits that others experience like increased motivation for self-improvement (through working-out and diet), aswell as an increased drive and focus towards my hobbies (skateboarding). My longest streak was around 2-months, and in this time i can remember becoming very consistent with my workouts, and i saw alot of progression in my skating. I really enjoyed the process too, and felt very rewarded for my efforts.

However, during my time of abstinence, I became increasingly desperate to get laid. To me, this felt healthy and felt like a positive side effect that would force me to get out there and find a girl. However, the longer i abstained the more desperate i became, and the lower my standards were. I was willing to compromise for just about anything. I also would convince myself that certain girls were into me over the most minuscule of things (i think this is where the attraction myth comes from).

So, the other night i was fortunate enough to break my dry-spell with a female. She sucked my dick for about 10 seconds, then i flipped her over to begin sex and in the process, i came. We then spent the next 15 minutes trying to get my dick hard again before eventually giving up. Yeh... i know.

Before starting this journey, i wish someone had warned me about this. When you nofap, your penis wont be primed to go multiple rounds and you will be left feeling useless. Back when i used to fap daily i could always rely on my dick to probably still cum early (lmao), but then be up and ready for a second round performance which gave everyone their money's worth. I remember when i lost my virginity, i went 3 back-to-back rounds before calling it quits. This was because i think masturbation primes your dick to be ready for action. Ever noticed how the day after relapsing, you feel like fapping again and your dick will get hard for no reason throughout the day? I feel like this is a healthy state for a young person to be in. When you abstain from masturbating for a long time, you're good for one nut but no more than that.

Nowadays im back to masturbating every day (WITHOUT PORN), and i think my sex life has improved. I can get hard on command and i feel my sex drive has also increased (i want to have sex/fap everyday, and when i meet girls im not a one-pump-chump that leaves them disappointed.) I dont fully dis-credit nofap- however, i just think it can leave you in an awkward state. You become obsessed about improving yourself, but i dont believe it makes you better with women. I think it gives you motivation to seek women- but i feel like it can make men come off as desperate and obsessive. BTW, women can smell desperation on men, and it is a total turn off.

Feel free to ask any questions or share your tips. Let me know if you have had similar experiences and what you did to fix it. If you think im full of shit and you want call me an asshole- do it.

Cheers guys