would anyone try escort?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by lingcanada, Jul 15, 2019.

  1. Veritech

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    Instead of imagining using a human being as an object; actually doing it.

    A very expensive habit that leads you to similar symptoms as porn does.
     
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  2. Shy_1990

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    Ive tried it years ago when I was single.
    I wouldnt reccommend it because of the p and fapping addiction you wont be able to get hard and it will be a waste of money.
    Many people here have different views on seeing escorts depending on their religion or morals. Ignore all of that because its irrelevant, religion is a private choice.
    Just don't waste your hard earned cash at least until youve come out the other side of flatline.

    Also be safe, where i live its legal and the workers need a health check every few weeks. The govt organisation that monitors it says that because of the rules its prob safer than a random woman from a nightclub. But if you dont have that kind of security where you live then its prob not worth it. You dont want herpes or s something worst.

    But what I will say is this, after youve been on nofap for a while and youve been through a flatline theres every chance your new confidence will lead you to find a nice real natural woman to spend time with. In which case the matter of an escort becomes irrelevant.
    So basically, just concentrate on nofap.

    So basically either way. G
     
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  3. Ghost79

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    Sex with an escort is not enjoyable and you will surely regret doing it. Stay away from them for your health, mental wellbeing and wallet. This is coming from someone that has been addicted to escorts for almost a decade already.
    And if you think you are safe with a condom, think again. You can catch HPV from these pleasure women, that causes genital warts by even just touching or a kiss. The warts may go away but that virus will be forever in your body.
     
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  4. CJ_UNDERDAWG23

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    Same it isn't worth it. You might possibly get addicted, and like the other person said it is like cocaine. Quality wont matter eventually and you be smashing ugly hoes you could get for free. I'm suffering with the same issue now but working at resolving it. It been 5 years for me on and off and it hasn't been worth it honestly.
     
  5. userSCP

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    I was about to drop $200 last night.

    The money stopped me, not the morality... i’ve got some ways to go in my reboot.
     
  6. superninjared

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    I lost my virginity to an escort years ago i honestly did not see any other way for it to happen. I had such a powerful mental block it was unbelievable. I even went to therapy prior to it and my therapist was trying to convince me that i did not need to use escorts... Well all that talk did nothing for me its all well and good telling someone in a small room that they should be able to get laid. But as soon as you leave that room its like nothing has changed the girls still ignore you and you feel invisible... I also caved twice this month and had sex with escorts... However i had different reasons and circumstances i am also actively dating too. I cant speak for other people on here but both my experiences were positive. Orgasm both times and no ED!

    Like i said in another thread. I don’t see escorts as a relapse it’s more a less sex with a real girl the only difference is it’s a paid service. It’s not porn, it’s not masturbation because you are not on your own. And the orgasm is natural with a real person.
     
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  7. bken

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    Porn made me go there as well.
    Pics were fake and she turned out to be a lot older and not as nice to put it that way but stupid me went on with it anyway. Again goes to show porn addiction is a slippery slope. I'd never do it again. Feels like a big waste of money. Not a good experience at all and one I'd undo if I could.
     
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  8. userSCP

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    Yeah, this happens a lot, unfortunately. It's par for the course though. But sometimes the opposite happens, and somebody way cuter/younger than their photo walks through the door.

    You should go to brothels, where you can see and choose, or somewhere where you can choose the girl without much pressure. Find out where they are legal to frequent, or become an elite politician with a friend like Jeffery Epstein.
     
  9. superninjared

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    They airbrush the photos to make some of the girls look younger and hotter. The place i have been using also has some airbrushed photos but luckily there are also reviews and for the most part they actually live up to their looks or exceed it.
     
  10. harris37

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    Right here's my take on it... and I am someone who has slept with probably over 100 escorts in the last 2 years (not something I'm proud of) but now I have stopped. I came out of rehab nearly 2 years ago, I'm 36 and spent of my adult life on cocaine. All those years I spent not in relationships or around women building my confidence so as you can imagine I had trouble with erections and trouble even approaching a woman due to being out of my nut on drugs and watching too much porn. I also believed that my penis was small which it isnt at all its average. After leaving rehab I thought the best way to build confidence was to sleep with escorts... this way I can sleep with women, with no fear of rejection, up my chat up game and improve confidence all at the same time. But I tell you this... yes I did become more comfortable being naked and more confident talking to them but I was never happy for more than a day afterward. It turned into a massive addiction, spending way too much money and most important of all it never built my confidence up with women or helped with the fear of rejection like it would of if you did it for real with a normal girl your not paying for sex, the only way you get better at it is going out in the real world and doing it that way. Not only will rejection be easy... you'll be able to deflect it like it's nothing. Your game will get better. In my opinion stay well away. There's nothing real about and it will become an addiction
     
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  11. bken

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    I later discovered the picture was one of a pornstar... It was a completely different person. I will always regret it.
     
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  12. superninjared

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    It sucks that we even have to consider escorts as an option. The real thing is so much better we should not have to pay for sex...
     
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  13. Ghost79

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    The best option is still actually not having sex with escorts because we're losing our energy in them at the expense of our motivation of searching for a true partner
     
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  14. superninjared

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    True i suppose. I have been using escorts to fill in that gap because nothing has been happening with my dating life in terms of outcomes that go beyond a first date and lead to sex... However i am hopeful that is going to change soon. I had one opportunity but unfortunately nothing came of it... I really suck when it comes to doing approaches. But for some reason i have almost perfected the art of online dating. Almost 50 phone numbers and counting... And a dozen potential dates there are not enough days in a month... I have had a few ask me out already but finding the time is not always easy...

    Even though my last two experiences with escorts were positive and i'm not going to lie i have thought about seeing the last one again... The experience was exactly how it should be with a girlfriend... I would prefer to get something meaningful out of these dates so that my energy goes to someone who is truly interested instead of a paid experience. Because it was not cheap and i have bills to pay...
     
  15. harris37

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    Sounds just like me, online dating I can get numbers so easy and also get dates but none with the girls I actually want. I think it's best to focus on yourself but also not put pressure on yourself to approach girls with a perfect chat up. Set yourself small goals like just saying hi to start and maybe a smile, good eye contact as well. Once you've done that up your next goal... Hi how's your day been or what you up to the weekend shit like that just normal shit. I'm just like you my approach has been shit but now I'm setting small goals and just get better at it.
     
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  16. superninjared

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    Nice to meet someone else who understands this whole online dating thing. Yes i believe it deep down i know i can approach i mean i have done it many times before. It is another one of my annoying mental blocks... This belief that i cant pick up a phone number when i'm talking to girls in real life. Such irrational thinking. I have done it during speed dating events before that sort of counts. My problem is anxiety that causes self doubt... And the fact that i got so good at picking up phone numbers online has made me lazy. Because i just think to myself i don't need to go out there and do approaches look at how many phone numbers i'm picking up through these apps.

    Eventually i will get back out there though i have to overcome this doubt its not healthy. However i am grateful for all these phone numbers i am picking up. It still counts in a way and i am guaranteed to get real dates and meet real girls. I can say that i do want some of these girls and not just because of the pictures. But because of the conversations we are having. A few of them are quite attractive too which also helps a lot!
     
  17. harris37

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    Exactly the same as what I've been doing, my online dating game was getting so good that I could get 3 dates in one week at times, but it never helped with my approach anxiety and game. It was a lazy way for me to get numbers hiding beh8nd a screen, ive now deleted all dating apps 1 month ago now, I suggest if your still on them to do the same, but that's entirely up to you, the only way we'll get better is by approaching and facing it head on... with the help of NoFap of course. And not to be hard on ourselves and over analyse our every word after talking to girls, just be proud that we are trying and actually approaching even if it's just a few words at the beginning. I think we should both make ourselves a pact... for the first week we have to say hi to ten girls and well up it each week to something more and go from there. If your up for it let me know, we can do a journal but we'll still remember that the NoFap is the most important goal... talking to girls is to make us better at it and more confident.
     
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  18. superninjared

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    Yes i am totally up for doing that and i would be more open to it if i had no dating apps and no numbers at the moment but thats not the case. The approaches might actually work and i'm sure i would meet people and get dates but heres the thing. I already have far too many numbers and girls to talk to. I'm over capacity a few of the girls have joked that we are like pen pals because we have not met yet... So my priority is to go on dates with all these girls i'm talking to if something happens then great i succeeded. If not then i'm still getting a ton of practice and talking to girls face to face in real life. Which is what would happen if i was doing approaches.

    I even had two other girls on dating apps ask me out on a date and i don't even have their numbers yet...
     
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  19. harris37

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    Do what works for you mate, maybe you can build that confidence through dating but as far me goes it hasn't worked so I'll focus on me, my approach game and just being confident talking to all people in general
     
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  20. superninjared

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    Debatable to say how well it is really working for me at the moment. What i have realised is that some people have become spoilt and lazy because they have an infinite choice of people who they can date... So they just have a lacklustre attitude and can't really be bothered to put in the effort to meet or even start a relationship. I have talked to a few girls and they said that they are single because they believe that all guys just want to mess around and have sex. So they would prefer to complain and stay alone instead of meeting people... Okay...

    This month has just been so weird... I keep meeting girls who have health issues which is stopping them from going on dates. Or they had a bad break-up not long ago and they are not ready to meet new people. Or they have a lot of stuff going on like work and travel and they are too busy to meet at the moment. My last date was pretty good but then she said that she is happy with her life and does not really need a relationship right now or something. Okay i don't know why she is on a dating app then? Getting into a relationship is not as easy as it used to... Everyone is so busy and they just don't want to stop for anything.
     
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