It was a big step in my PMO deliverance strategy; talking to my mum about my PMO Well, I feel more transparent with people I love, But I still have urges and cravings and I still battle them. Was that a good or bad move?
Horrible move. I did that years ago and I regret it. Your parents won't understand and may even tell you that if you don't wanna do it just don't, it's easy. They may even feel disappointed that you're watching "naked people". The sure thing is that they will not be able to help because they don't understand.
They might help pal! When I was battling Weed addiction and Depression I told them but they didn't fully understand. But Well I was just feeling like talking about my little dark secrets to a person I love ! so Well I love my mum and there are lots of stuff I may share with her. I don't wanna have the PMO addiction anymore so I talk for any helpful advice. Discussions with loved ones can help! and I mentioned well it was an addiction since I feel cravings and even talking with you guys on the forum helps me manage the urges and cravings. I just wanna feel freer.
WOW, Bro you are a master of Self-control and impulsion manipulation, 444 days no PMO or POrn or what so ever pal. I respect that congrats you give me the courage I need. Wow, congrats pal that's more than 14 Months of Discipline !!! pal that's great you can use that energy in coding or doing something creative that can yield huge profits in the long run. WOW Pal that's great. I wanna have you kind of milestone! Please can you give me a detailed plan of your Long streak strategy? Your long term method seems Very good if you are honest on the 444 days found on your badge. $$$
Thanks for your kind words man. Actually, I am using that energy for coding anti-porn apps: https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...ve-your-willpower-an-aid-easy-streaks.272658/ I try to keep porn as inaccessible as possible. If porn was one click away, I would have been relapsing every other day. Not a complex strategy but works. Many people think that you have to beat the urges using your willpower and that if a blocker stopped you then it doesn't count. The truth is that it doesn't matter how you did it. It still counts even if you didn't fight. The only thing that happened when I told them is that my image was ruined. That's it. Telling your parents is different from posting on Nofap because we understand your problem.
Being vulnerable can help you heal. I think if your parents are supportive, it’s not a bad idea to tell them depending on if you have that kind of open relationship with them.
Well, I even never had a good image in the family, I was always considered a Pothead, and a guy not to be trusted in doing business or submitting responsibilities. I'm seen as a bad guy so my image is not a very cool one I can guarantee especially with my cousins!
yes, that's why I decided to speak with'em about the addiction especially my Mum. My dad is kind of an asshole lol!
WOW, Brother, I read your posts and the Block porn tutorial strategy, You are Genius. smarty Pant !! Good, I see why your mind can distort the internet reality we are living in!
Thanks a lot man! If you like those, you'll love the ones that maybe added soon. That's what I am talking about, judging you because you have some problems. Here, we believe in you man. I believe you could do it and beat that addiction. Peace
I think it's a smart move. One of the aspects of this addiction is secrecy, so busting that open is ballsy and shrewd move.
but it didn't calm my urges and cravings. I still feel it and my mornings are terrible since I stopped I feel so damn tired each time I wake up very late. I oversleep and Coffee doesn't pump my energy that much. I used to do coffee + PMO in the morning for years, and the combination was kinda awesome now PMO is kinda absent and coffee is boring! I feel depressed in the morning and very excited in the afternoon!
It was a great move dude. Talking about your addiction is sooooo healing! You need to speak out, say it loud, hearing yourself sayin it. Im an addidcted to porn.. You know there's a verse in the Bible that says: while I did not speak my body became sick... this is because the mind and the body are so connected that our emotions can make us sick... so talking, confessing, admitting our addiction helps us heal... it's a therapeutic process! So yeah, proud of you! Keep on!
It depends of parents. People are't all same. In my case my parents would't can to understand and I wouldn't feel comode to say them or another person. You are strong then when you can to have confidence just in yourself, because if you think the society or close friends, or even family will help you with everything, it's mistake. Yea ussualy,close friends and family can help you, but not with everything. Even they too will judge you about some decision. So that, some stuffs it's better to know just your about yourself.
That will give you an enormous benefit as long as you become %100 accountable to this behavior. Let's explain what I tried to say from my life. I confessed my addiction to my parents in three years ago. That year this attitude made me become sober from PMO for almost 200 days. However; then I broke my principle of accountable to my parents next year, and I could barely have 1-2 months of streak during the next 2 years. I mean I wasn't informing them about my emotions, my recovery process and my relapses. I kept isolated when the difficulties hit me so hard. That's why I couldn't go further. Now I'm sober more than 9 months because I always avoid being isolated, I am more open to my parents about my recovery and my emotions. I have also been taking counselling for 7 months. My point is that seeking help is one of the best solution unless you stop being accountable to the people around you.
Did it, and it has helped a lot. At first I told them often about it, then bi-monthly and just recently about making it to 100 days. So, I concur, that if the parent is supportive, it’s a good move. They’ll also push you to seek out the next big goal, to really move on from all this lol.
No need to feel depressed . Just move forward with your recovery and get support from your parents. Identify your triggers and plan your routines . This will also give you a great power on your recovery.