Hi there, I recently reached 90 days (2days ago) but I’m really struggling in life. Nothing is really that wrong but I just feel awful. I exercise regularly, meditate and eat well but I keep feeling down and anxious. I’m happy I reached 90 days as it’s my first time which is really good however I feel unhappy. I guess maybe nofap is forcing me to deal with anxiety but I’m not sure. Any advice would be much appreciated. Also i havent been able to see my girlfriend because of coronavirus which may have negatively impacted my mental health. Any support / advice would really help. My urges aren’t even strong right now so nofap isnt really the issue either.
First - congrats on reaching 90 days. It was a goal you struggled with, persevered and accomplished. I felt similarly a week ago. It’s a cue to set up what’s the next big goal, and dealing more with your anxiety may be a part of it or figuring out how to see your girlfriend as I don’t think it’s a “maybe”. I think it would negatively impact your mental health.
Thanks for the reply, yeah definitely that’s a good point. Maybe making it a priority would be a positive step. Thanks though, I’m feeling quite isolated even though im seeing friends so it helps to hear positive words. Is there anything else you’ve done to help you mentally?
I rewarded myself for my accomplishment, you want to make completing your goal a joyous occasion to transition for what’s to come. take walks and acknowledging when I need rest. Meditation also helps, I can’t stand silence so I don’t do it often, but it did help to clear my mind the few times I did it.
And do you think that pmo can cure ur depresion? Nope belive me it will make it worse !!! My sugestion is separate the nofap streak with ur life problem, its non relevant,,, ur doing good at nofap so nofap is not ut life problem anynore,,, time to fix or working on ur another problem
It's time to deal with that thing that is always at the back of your mind but you decide to ignore, I believe that's what's making you anxious. Mine is my career and love life.
It sounds like you're in a flatline. I am on my 4th flatline (have had this one for 72 hours). I know it's brutal, just do the best you can. I try to think, "If all I accomplish today is stay PMO free, I won"
Nofap is not a miracle cure. We're in the middle of a global pandemic with many countries now entering their 2nd lockdown. It's getting colder and darker outside. It's perfectly okay not to feel okay now, even as a perfectly functional human being. Nofap just takes away the "medicine" (coping mechanism).
Thanks mate, it’s nice to hear these words of reassurance. I appreciate the support as it is very hard to be kind to ourselves at times.
Thats a great mindest to have tbf, how long into your streak are you. I find that posts on nofap are either long term success stories or people struggling in the short term, with few posts talking abt struggling in the long term.
I am on day 101 and still flatlining. Haven’t had a good day for 6 weeks. Really tough. Hopefully it will end soon. If not, this can teach valuable lessons even though it’s suffering. I have a feeling it will be very worth it in the end. Not sure yet