SR for over 9 months now - now what?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Yes I Can Man, Oct 5, 2022.

  1. Yes I Can Man

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    How do I know if I was a porn addict? I am a 44 year old male.

    I use to watch porn for about 2-4x a week and also ejaculating about 2-4x a week. Was this considered a porn addict? Considering I also suffer from OCD and anxiety.

    Stumbled upon NoFap and SR on YT.

    This is my first and only attempt at no porn and no masturbation including SR.

    I did have a honeymoon phase after couple weeks and still have retained the same benefits like:

    Less anxiety.

    Calm situation in social interaction.

    More upbeat mood.

    Helps with depression.

    Attention from women (few incidents that I have noticed).

    More energy in gym.

    Improved muscle mass.

    Younger and clearer looking skin.

    Is there a plateau after a certain time? What happens after a year of SR? 2 years? Etc.
     
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  2. OhWhenThe

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    It doesn't sound like you were addicted, if you were then it was only very mild. How is your libido?

    As for what to do now, well carry on I'd say and channel your energy into something worthwhile.
     
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  3. Yes I Can Man

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    So some porn is safe to watch for our health? Very high libido.
     
  4. Is your sex desire still strong at age 44?

    I worry when I will have to start taking erection medication. do you know around what age a man starts to not be able to have any erection anymore?
     
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  5. Yuri.

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    In good health and shape most are able to easily have have an erection at age 60 pal.
     
  6. Yes I Can Man

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    Yes it is although my OCD/Anxiety does slow it down a little. Men get can get hard at 90 too.
     
  7. Yes I Can Man

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    90 too.
     
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  8. Okay, cool. Thank you so much
     
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  9. That is great news about 90 years old… thank you so much…
     
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  10. Yes I Can Man

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    Sorry I meant my libido does slow down a little. I use to ejaculate further before medication.
     
  11. Yuri.

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    It's possible, not the majority though hahaha. Even in age 70 in good health and shape my guess is ED start to appear in more than half of males
     
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  12. Yes I Can Man

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    Depends on diet, exercise and sleep. There are supplements to help.
     
  13. Yes I Can Man

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    How long should I retain?
     
  14. Warrior4Freedom

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    My answer to this is that it's probably subjective -- but if I were to ask the same question as you, on here, I would probably not truly be ready to stop retaining, i.e. have intercourse. I think one needs to have a hell of a lot of work done before feeling right to have sex again. One needs to be emotionally, physically, psychologically and spiritually healed during and at the end of the SR journey. Only then you'll know if to stop retaining, or make SR a part of your life going forward as some sort of celibate person channeling the energy into something more beneficial to oneself and the Earth. I'm over 6 months on SR and don't think I'm quite there yet, i.e. being ready. My energies are still reconciling and it is an extremely arduous, excruciating process. Slowly I see my true mindful and conscious nature being revealed. Best wishes and hopes to you. Keep progressing.
     
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  15. Yes I Can Man

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    The overall benefits are too good so in my mind I don’t see this as a excruciating task. I also suffer from OCD/Anxiety too.

    Should I reward my self by ejaculating every time I accomplish something big?
     
  16. Yuri.

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    Without heart conditions drugs that get you hard are fine sometimes, without too much frequency
     
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  17. Kierann

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    Depends on you how you set your rules of engagements and potential rewards but if I were you, I would be looking into different ways how you can reward yourself.

    But being here on nofap forum I'd say you already know that deep down. What nofap means is basically no PMO.

    Best of luck to you.
     
  18. I am 37. Addiction porn grew by seeing call girls since i was 13 i think.
    I dont even mAake SR passed day 14.
    I feel i have a release and i cant keep it in.
     
  19. Yes I Can Man

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    You can watch porn without MO.
     
  20. Yes I Can Man

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    What kind of condition?