Post published by StrengthWill

I started with no M for a month and kept watching porn. I sticked to it for 20 days or so, because I thought that P was not so bad. Only then I discovered NoFap, read some threads and decided to quit PM. Then I realised that it is actually harder to stop P than to stop M. I had a hard time.

Then I realised that, since my wife was far away for a period of time, quitting O comes with for free. So I "upgraded" to no PMO and it worked, I must be around 140 days, but only the first 30 and from 50 to 80 were challenging.

I think a progressive transition can be a solution to some. But not for all. I could recommend you to replace your PMO (or whatever you want to quit) by something else that is beneficial for you.

It's harder to stop something and leave a void. So instead of PMO, you could, I don't know, watch a good movie, talk to a friend, pray, learn something, read a book, go for a walk, workout, do stretching, yoga.... replace PMO

Once I reached 40 days, like Jesus in the desert, I would have never allowed to relapse, because losing those 40 days and restarting from 0 would be too much of a loss. When I was around 70, that feeling was even stronger, because I could see the end. At day 90, obviously I continued.

Now, if God wants, my wife will rejoin me in less than a month. We will celebrate Christmas and stay together forever. And we will start our life for real and have kids, so obviously, the O-goal will drop out.

I know, that I will never voluntarily watch Porn or Masturbate again. I'm done and I don't crave for it anymore. Sometimes an old fetish pops up in my head, but never would I let it go. I am very happy, and no longer feel ashamed, no longer have to hide something, it's a relief.

Try to exclude the M phase as the most important goal. Coming back to P is bad, but not as bad as a full relapse. Important to remember, the motion in P videos is the thing arousing the most seduction in male brains. It is best to watch less P videos and think less of P for this reason. Most people I read news from here on NoFap report relapsing problems, from day 14 and later on, of withdrawal.

I just masterbated but stop because I didn't want to lose my semen to P!