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Post published by Klzfire
I am 24 y/o, married with 2 kids. I am still very attracted to my spouse and love her very much. I recently was able to quit 2 other addictions, smoking cigarettes and drinking alcohol. However for some infuriating reason I cannot stop myself from watching porn. I have even adopted a system of informing my spouse everytime I do the deed which makes me feel ashamed. It helps for a little bit but then the urge to watch takes over and the fact that i will be shamefully telling my spouse I did it again goes to the back of my mind. I usually would never let my personal feelings or problems out into the open for others to know however I have no idea what else to do and hope this approach brings some promise. My end goal is to quit watching porn for good. Today is day 1 for me. I hope this thread can help me. Thanks.
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frogs2345
Try talking to her when you are tempted. She is there as your helper. Just talk to her and keep eye contact with her. You bond with a woman by having contact with her in various ways. Learn to love her more than porn. Learn to love God more than porn.
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Looking4Freedom
It is important to treasure your wife and make her feel secure as best as possible. God is our ultimate security and treasure but a husband's love ought to mirror that of Christ for his church - as Jesus laid down his life for his bride (Ephesians 5:25-33). Since you are one, porn taking a toll on your life will on hers as well. Protect your precious wife in the power of the LordWhy do you return to porn? what other steps are you taking to fight back? where is Jesus in your fight? God bless.
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Looking4Freedom
@Klzfire you'll find guys who are supportive here, will ask you good questions to help you move forward, and will pray for you. At the end of the day, I suppose we have to ask ourselves as frog2345 put it similarly, will we love porn more or God and our precious wives and families given to us? standing together and pressing forward each moment, day by day...
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Craig Values
You're at the most difficult stage (IMHO), for me it's the first couple weeks; the feelings definitely do not disappear but are more quickly dismissed. From an older guy: As the head of the family keep your eyes, and their eyes, focused on Jesus. You can do this! Stay the course
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Nuhope
porn addiction is like drug addicion, it needs a long and hard fight. But it is worth it! It is better to fight against the evil than to surrender. Believe me! I never give up. That is very import in this fight.
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