Day 31/60 So women like to talk about problems,but don't necessarily want solutions to their problems. This is the mistake us men make.We are good at trying to fix things and also give trust to women by saying it's nothing,don't worry etc but that is not what they want and it often aggravates the situation.They want us to listen and try to understand their feelings.This is number 2 for women,understanding. Men want acceptance so when a woman tries to change a guy,this doesn't go down well. If on the other hand she touches his arm and smiles saying"Have you been working out a little?" or asks him for help to carry something and complemented him on his strength ,that is going to make him hit the gym,because she complemented him about his muscles. Communication in relationships is paramount.Without communication we often get the wrong idea.However,guys don't like to discuss problems and try to deal with them on their own.Asking for help is a weakness for a guy where as for women,asking for help makes total sense. The next time your wife or girlfriend asks you to ask someone where something is in public, just say I can do it,but I guess we don't have much time so your way makes sense right now.This way you don't feel less of a man and she is happy because you understood her feelings and helped her! Good luck all!
93 days. Healing is continuing. The longer I stay away from P, the more distance I want from it. We know the negative cycle of PMO is self-reinforcing - however, thankfully the positive cycle of nofap seems to be too - but in the opposite direction. The early days, weeks can be so challenging, but then a kind of momentum builds up and it does seem to get easier in a way.
For some reason I've just been reminded of an old golf saying: Q. What's the most important shot in golf? A. The next shot. So then: Q. What's the most important day in nofap? A. The next day. Just something to think about. I know that seeing that "0" can be discouraging, we all know that feeling. But don't worry about that. Don't worry about "daycounts". For today, all you have to focus on is changing that "0" to a "1".