that is a major problem for everyone, especially the heavy addicts. it´s really difficult to handle that thing, the best i can say is to continue the reboot. after a while you´ll feel confident again and with no problem in looking people in the eyes. the reason why this is a major issue is because deep down we feel a lot of shame and guilt because of pmo. that´s why is hard to eye contact with people - "i don´t deserve to look at anyone". so the more you´ll stay in nofap the more clean, pure and alive you´ll feel and with no problem in looking or talking to people . just keep going.
brother, you´re in a shallow ground right there. if you don´t change your life the addiction will caught you soon, you´ll feel so bored and uninspired that the brain will present you with the dopamine fix. soon you´ll be saying "fuck this" and you relapse. you got to change your life man, change your day, change your lifestyle. do stuff that you like, live to the fullest. that´s crucial, if you´re not passionate about the reboot, you´ll never make the 90 days, much as well the rest of your life.
of course there is. practice meditation and keep engaged in significant activities. stay busy. the chaser is basically strong urges. but as urges, they need thoughts to keep going. if you don´t feed the sexual thoughts, the fantasy will die and so will the urge.
Date: Jan 25, 2019 Day 137/140 no PM (relapsed day 51, 70, 102) Day 38/90 consecutive no PM Day 140 no alcohol or caffeine Day 106 weight training - feeling much better in the groin area today - off for a romantic breakfast rendevous with the wife now - happy Thursday Y'all
3 days. I always notice a significant chang at 3 days. There is an icky feeling that is always there that really starts disappearing after 3 days or so. I hope I don't relapse again. I hate the feelings I have after I act out.
Relapse on 25th day !! Today's Quote: Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.- Henry Ford
I don`t know. Should I change my PMO Tracker into Meeting Private Goals or Porn Masturbation? Hmm I noticed also something today: I thought I was a loser or got social anxiety. The truth is that I got 4-5 real friends, but not of them visit my school where I am. And I feel very comfortable to do ANYTHING with them. Everythin seems fun with them! And that makes me really happy ^^. I hope in dark times we will protect each other butt. And in my school, I feel very uncomfortable around people who are... well let`s call it "not my type of friends I like". Therefore I just go my own way. I know it will be a long lonely way, but what should I do? NoFap showed me what life is. Therefore I ask you find your reason of your addiction. If you now the reason, you will get it really easier to reboot and to focus on not PMO. You will become successful. Everyday I learn something new about me, about life, everything what I earlier hided with porn. I know it`s easier said than done, but what I learned from my father is: Nothing is easy. It`s easy if you can... (Hope it`s the correct translation from German to English )
Day 20/90. Thank you all guys because when I read your posts, it happens a smile on my face and I feel that I am not alone on this way. I really believe that we can get rid of this addiction all together. By the way I started to learn new programming tools. My purpose is trying to explore what I like to do and what is my interests in my life especially about my job. I thought that If I find a way to join in real life I will be busy and do other watching youtube videos or any movies, tv series etc. All best wishes. Stay strong!! keep fighting