My attempt on NoFap and staying away from porn.

Respect man! I hope everything works out the way you want it to. Good luck

 

Being I such a community helps you, stay put

 

Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!


First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button/ Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ About NoFap/ Support NoFap


Here is just some advice:


First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)


Then secondly I just advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.


Theres a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal. Make sure and be grateful for the help you received and give some help after receiving some. Invest in some people's journeys. We could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!


Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal/log (in the appropriate section for you) and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.


Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!

 

Hey there! So glad to have you here. I got so involved in writing my post that I downloaded a word processor to finish composing my thoughts. The challenges of being the partner of a porn addict has really brought out some surprisingly passionate parts of my outlook through these forums. I hope you like a good advice rant!

stay tuned....XD

 

So...I may have gone somewhat off the topic and I might post that part of it later on, but here is my relevant advice!

hope to keep seeing you around and gathering resources to help you tackle this.

[exerpt from huge post I wrote]

Listen to your body, it will always be honest to you. Your body is telling you that it is losing vital sexual energy needed for sexual union with your chosen partner.

As a man, it is your privilege to sexually compliment her energy with yours. If the porn is consuming your otherwise healthy sexual energy, you have an obligation to her to vanquish it like you would any other threats to your relationship. If somebody walked up to her in public and made a critical remark about her body, how would you respond? If you were there and your companion were insulted while the two of you were having
Dinner at a table for two, how would you respond to the situation? Really consider this question in depth, because it might sound like an odd comparison, but in a lot of ways, your relationship to porn is very much like an uninvited guest judging her in an impersonal yet invasive way, because it is intruding on vulnerable personal space she has chosen to allow you exclusively into. Here’s where it can get a little confusing and will test the amount of trust you two have built. She may not be able to see your porn addiction as it’s own entity, and could interpret your bodily PIEDas a psychological aversion to her appearance. Like the uninvited guest is an invisible ventriloquist. When you tell her she is beautiful, it’s summoning her trust in you to conquer her already existing (and potentially reaffirmed by the PIED) body insecurities. She will have to believe you that there is a camouflaged ventriloquist harassing her instead of seeing you as somebody blaming invisible people for her deepest fears appearing to be real.

How much do you know about her self-image issues? You will need to become familiar with that part of her psychology if you end up struggling with this problem more than just a few weeks. It’s going to upheave all those things in her and could get very painful and traumatizing for her ultimately. Your ability to understand how she feels and exactly why will make the difference between empathy and apathy.

 

Congrats man for being here at such a young age. I'm glad to see you're tackling this now before it gets worse into adulthood. Keep coming back, be active, and use the resources you learn here to change your life for the better. This journey will make you a better man in so many great ways.