Hey Blueface, First of all, would you maybe consider not writing in all-caps? It makes your posts quite hard to read. And I do want to read them! Second of all, Youtube has its own Restricted Mode, you can activate that when you're logged in by clicking your avatar in the top right corner and choose 'Restricted Mode' from the dropdown menu. Third of all, yes, try to avoid any 'normal' exciting content, because it always trips you up and causes a real relapse later. I have made that mistake countless times. Whenever you are looking at something because it distracts you and you look at it for excitement and dopamine, it's in essence the same as watching porn. And finally, what you describe from the scenes flashing in front of you is also very recognisable. There's not a lot you can do about that now, but know that when you direct your attention to something else, those images will slowly fade from your mind again.
Guys, I would like your advice about my reason to quit NoFap. I have to keep reminding myself of them more often and more persistently. So I wrote it down today: I want to quit NoFap (and pursuing online distractions in general) because it enforces my wrong beliefs that I am worthless and powerless. Now, my question is: do you think this is a valid reason? Is it positive enough? Or should I dig deeper still?
Hey guys it’s my new start , I myself describes a 28 year old educated porn addict and this is day zero but am gonna stick to this one wish me luck Reason for doing this is porn induced erectile dysfunction
I can appreciate Jordan Peterson when he is talking about taking control of your life and your world. However, whenever he starts trash talking feminism and waving that nonsense 'cultural Marxists'-term, he loses me. I'll never understood why empowering some people (in his case, mostly, insecure young-ish men) somehow has to means demeaning others (like women)..
@BLUEFACEop I'd recommend reading books on porn harms because that way you are constantly reminding yourself why you are on nofap. This will help greatly during the first few weeks. Start with Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson - I think it's a must read for those trying to quit pmo.
@BLUEFACEop If you're constantly watching youtube videos, make sure to watch stuff that has no triggers in it - once your are maybe in the 30th day, you'll be in a better position to cut down on other distractions like youtube
Hi All, For accountability I'd like to share the fact that I looked up a sexual term in You Tube to see if there were any 'harmless' clips on that term. Thumbnails came up and about 2 or 3 of them were P, so I shut it down and went no further and felt like shit, like really guilty. I don't personally think this is a relapse, as I did not click in to any of the videos, but the fact that I went and looked in You Tube for a 'harmless' clip was the exact opposite of what we are trying to achieve here. Would one of the more tenured members be able to confirm to me that I am ok to continue on this stretch? I guess I am, but would like someone to help me by confirming. On Day 12 of no MO but on day 47 of no P.
Do whatever you want to do. You're big boy. Find some meaning in your life and just do it regardless the cost. If your meaning is to be harming yourself punani by fapping then feel free to do it. If your meaning is to be a man and stand firm with your beliefs then be that men.
26 days done...now time to meditate, be there for someone else, get some exercise, and then work tonight. I find it easiest when I just simply get out of the way and let recovery do it’s work...let’s get just one more day...keep going, don’t give up
I'm in! If I don't hold up to the challenge, I will pay 100$ to everyone that told me I couldn't do it!
Day 0, i relapsed again. Severe anxiety is my problem. I am extremely stressful about a lot of things lately. Its very bad to try feel better thtough pmo. I felt very bad the last three days because of relapse, like depression and i know i have failed to get back on the track after the first relapse. I understand my problem and i am determined to be very strong by this day. I wish the best to all of you, you try very hard and every day is like a victory versus yours "comfort zone". Keep going!!! One day at a time!!
GLIMPSE OF DAY 5 MISTAKES:- < i activated safesearch on all google domains and i checked that the safesearch is working or not so i seached porn to check and it was blocked on google but it was not blocked on youtube so a kissing videos of pornstars came in front of me and i clicked on them ,,, i regret it the most , i shouldn't had done that <checked the authentication of parental control and searched for explicit videos <didn't studied well today <wasted 1 hr of day in surfing < didn't woke up on time improvements:- < made balance in the dopamine levels of the body didn't overwatch kota factory on youtube PROMISE TO MYSELF:- < i will never ever search for any type of explicit video for any reason < i will wake early tommorow and will do meditation < i will no waste any of the time tommorrow and will fully concentrate on studies tommorrow < i will also read atomic habits tommorrow < will make the ncert hack of the chapter biodiversity < will do the ques of mole concept from pedagogy guys please give me some tips that how i can control the urges as i had almost up to break my streak,,,please give me some tips that how i can control my urges and how can i tackle them for now i have watched the kissing videos of few pornstars so tommorow i willl be facing many urges and i will beat all of them so i nedd help for the preparation for tommorow those who don't know what happend today then read this :-'''''''BIG MISTAKE I ENABLED THE SAFESEACH FOR MY BROWSER AND I GOT TO CHECK THE EXPLICIT CONTENT IS BLOCKED OR NOT , YUP ALL THE FAPPING CONTENT WERE BLOCKED ON GOOGLE DOMAINS BUT WHEN I CHECKED YOUTUBE THEY WENE NOT BLOCKED AND I WATCHED SOME NORMAL KISSING AND ROMANTIC VIDEOS OF PORNSTARS , THEY WERE VERY INSTIGATING , I DID IT UNINTESIONALLY AND NOW LOTS OF BAD THOUGHTS ARE COMING IN MY MIND AND URGES ARE ALSO STRIKING ME , WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW, I AM PROMISING TO MYSELF THAT I WILL NOT CHECK THAT THE PARENTAL CONTROL IS WORKING OR NOT AND WILL NOT SEARCH FOR FAP VIDEOS AGAIN EVER IN ANY CASE... GUYS PLEASE HELP ME THAT WHAT SHOULD I DO KNOW , I AM FEEELING VERY LOW AND SCENES OF THOSE VIDEOS ARE FLASHING IN FRONTR OF ME AGAIN AND AGAIN,,,, ALSO RECOMMEND ME THE PERMANENT SOLUTION TO BLOCK ALLL THE EXPLICIT AND SEXUAL CONTENT ON YOUTUBE ,, PLEASE HELP ME''''
Hey @Merry Terry I think it's really good that you are taking the time to very clearly define your motivation for quitting porn. My one thought with your written reason is that it centers on the negative effects of porn instead of on the positive reality you are going to create. In other words, I think your focus should be on what you ARE going to be and let quitting porn be a side goal. So, for example, your written goal might look something more like this: "I believe at my core that I am a powerful and valuable person. I believe that the choices I make and the actions I take will define the reality I live in for the rest of my life. I believe those choices and actions can produce great worth for myself and for the important people around me and for the world. This is my goal: to be a MAN OF ACTION who brings good into the world for himself and for others. Additionally, I recognize that using pornography is a waste of all that beauty and talent I possess (and a hindrance to producing good), so I'm not going to use it." Ultimately, this helps us stay focused on the vision we want to fulfill and the positive outcome we want to achieve. Let moving TOWARDS the positive always be central and moving AWAY from the negative always be peripheral. Positive = Man of Action (or however you frame it!) Negative = Porn (which is really only negative because it doesn't support our positive goal) Hope this helps!
