Why is it so hard to even go beyond 2 days. Am I broken?

FIST:
Talk to your GF about your PMO addiction, there is no better motivation than from someone you love. And if she doesn't understand you, well, then your relationship ain't worth a thing.

SECOND.
Block all the porn and images. Stop alcohol drugs sugars and coffee. Do 4x per week a heavy workout routine with just the weight of your body. Start to meditate 20 minutes a day before you go to sleep. Wear super tight underwear. Quit social media, news and tv, and preferred movies and series too. Start to read books about PMO addiction and how the mind works, this will help you to understand your body and how it works. This has proven to many of us as a good method. Ans last: TALK, and socialise!

 

There is light at the end of the tunnel, my friend. And you're guaranteed to get there as along as you never give up. NEVER GIVE UP; If I would have given up the zillions of times that I could only make it a few days without porn I would never be on the streak that I'm now. That's the one thought that kept me going; That I can't give up, cause when you give up... That's when you really lose. At the point your at right now, you just haven't succeeded yet. Have faith in yourself; think more highly of yourself. Don't beat yourself up. As Jordan Peterson says: "Treat yourself like someone you're responsible for helping"

Don't break down. Realize that habit and dopamine withdraw are the two things keeping you in this position. You're USED to jacking off (releases dopamine) and your USED to watching porn (releases a lot of dopamine). To get out of your current position you just have to find a way to make an uncompromising decision to never do it again. You just have to figure it out. Because trust me, it gets easier over time, until after a while, when you've washed those desires to watch porn out of your brain, you don't even think of it the same way. You'll think of it like "Why did I ever do that?" and then you'll chuckle to yourself and laugh when you see some clickbaity title like "INSERT LEWD PORN TITLE HERE" and you'll feel immense joy at knowing YOU DIDNT GIVE UP. You faced your problem like a man, took the suffering it required to get out of it (The boredom, the desire, the pain, the sleeplessness), and you made it through


So keep your chin up soldier. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for you and it's spectacular.

Btw: If you block porn on your browser you're not solving that actual problem you're just treating yourself like a child. You should be able to do this without having to put a kiddy blocker on your computer... You'll take longer to succeed if you mask your success in weak measures like 'installing a porn-blocker'


A final note: My brother in law once said to me: "You encourage the thoughts that you feed" - That's always stuck with me. I think what he meant is that you kill thoughts and desires that you don't give any consequence or oxygen to.

 

Here's my personal view on this: It's irritating for me personally talking about the end of the tunnel when I'm not even sure where the tunnel goes, add too many wrong strategies to navigate the recovery tunnel on top of that.... but lots of people recover anyway.

Maybe this one might help you because this has helped many others... at least from what I know from the source book, Allen Carr's Easy Method.

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Yup; for you or me or many guys it's substance abuse or pornography addiction. For most women it's a food addiction or something of the sort but everyone has to deal with this. We live in a time when access to what used to be the necessities of survival and procreation is so abundant that we have to train ourselves to restrict them How funny is that?

I'm 28 now but one of the things that made me think about PMO differently is when I heard the story of a 60 year old man who had been struggling with PMO his whole life. I said to myself "errrrr. Wow this PMO thing is hard to beat but I SURE DON'T WANT TO BE THAT GUY" Lol - Just find your motivation man. You're in a life saving struggle with yourself right now - it's the difference between a wasted life and a meaningful and kickass life.

Another thing that helped me is to think about it in terms of computer science:
If you write a computer program and the program keeps having reoccurring errors, why wouldn't you fix the errors once and for all? That's how it is with the brain. Flag those reoccurring errors and fix them so you can move on to bigger and more important problems in your life (or programs .


Like my posts if you like what I have to say I'm trying to improve my like-ratio - I know it sounds silly

 

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/the-rebooting-toolbox-tips-and-tricks.236156/

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/root-cause-to-get-rid-of-porn-addiction.295369/
These might help you.

 

Your mental is state weak. Only the strong survive

 

It’s only the first 7days that are the Hardest
After it you will go into a full Flatline that can last 1year which you’ll feel Numb

 

Not everybody it lasts for year it can be short as a month or 3 months. No body chemistry is same..if you were smoking that good you wouldn't have that problem

 

I think it depends on people.
To me the first 3 days are the hardest.

 

Give yourself time bro. Breaking 14 years of bad habit is a true challenge, it may take even the rest of your life. But it doesn't matter if you take NoFap as way of living and not like a magic pill. Even if you didn't make it to 90 days, I'm you had some progress. Second by second, minute by minute, you'll beat it.

 

Lol dude. Chill out will all the self-hate man. Everything is going to be okay. Do you hear me? Trust me that it will. What you need to do now is some serious thinking. Relax. Loosen your shoulders. close your eyes. Let go of all the preconceptions and time-worn thoughts and approach your problem with the mindset and perspective of someone else. Treat your own self like somebody you're responsible for helping.

I want to see you beat this.

 

It took me years to go beyond two-three days. But I did it.

 

Oh it is so recognizable to read about the feelings of regret and pain after a new relapse, because I feel exactly the same. For me it is during the evening most of the time.. my wife is upstairs (she needs more sleep than I do) and I'm sitting alone downstairs. Bored. Then it is SO hard to stay strong. So unbelievable hard... I relapse over and over again, and every time that regret when switching off the lights in the living room with the feeling 'I failed again... again'. Every time again.. Let's try a new strike... Hopefully I can do it this time..

 

yeah she knows about the struggle and she helps me with the challenge which I of course really appreciate!

 

No one is strong enough. It’s not a matter of will power or brute force or masculinity. It’s all about surrender. It’s about turning your self over to a higher power day after day after day. What that means is different person to person. Honestly I’d get a copy of the SAA green book and start reading it and soaking in what the 12 steps are all about. Those steps have helped millions of people around the world achieve sobriety from chemical and process addictions. I wish I had more advice or a magic pill. But I have leaned the hard way over and over again that sobriety is only achieved with continuous surrender.