Current streak: 437 days no PMO, semen retention The main reason porn is bad is you are mixing a physical activity (sex) with a mental activity(porn) A woman with emotional burden, a psychological trauma, specially related to sex or romantic love and has this memories constantly in her mind can’t enjoy sex. She’s too much in her mind and sex is done with the body, the moment she starts to have sex she will not enjoy it. Women are more delicate in this than us men. With porn the same happens, you are mixing a merely physical activity (sex) with a mental enjoyment. Of course you need feelings, love and respect with your partner for making love, but the act itself is a physical activity. Porn just takes this to the extreme it’s almost like sex goes up to your head completely, that is why your sexuality gets all messed up and you get PIED, weird fetishes and even prefer porn and get more excited with it than real sex. Regular normal sex in men also has a mental component, in many cases you are thinking “look at this girl she’s so hot” “this feels amazing I’m going to come” “she just had an orgasm I’m so good at this” and so forth. This is not as bad as pornography but still I think loses the essence of what sex has to be. See it as if you were an Olympic weightlifter at the Olympics, what are you thinking the moment you are making the lift? The answer is nothing you are simply focus on the lift completely your body and mind are simply 100% in the moment. Tantric sex or non-ejaculatory sex does this very well , in a simplify manner in tantra you are just doing a physical activity while having sex, you are not thinking anything, you’re simply making love, you are not thinking “she’s hot” “ this feels amazing” “ I love her so much” you can do that after sex if you want. You can celebrate your Olympic gold medal after the lift, but not during the lift because if you do you’ll probably fail or get injured if doing so. In tantra you are just having sex, completely focus in the present moment without judgment or thinking anything. This feels 100 times better than regular sex, gives you tons of energy, balance. it’s even simpler than regular sex. Try it. Conclusion: sexuality has to be done with one head (penis) because when you start to use the other head (mind) it can get messy; you lose energy, get sexual dysfunctions and fetishes.
For example by doing these meditations and reading the books I mentioned. You'll have to balance your energy by yourself without a sex partner. You already have femenine and masculine energy inside of you.
No I am not, I thought this thread was the meditation thread. The meditations and bibliography are here https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/478-days-meditations-to-balance-sexual-energy.316000/ Also check my main thread on my signature there are more tantra teachings there