This. If you carry around all the negative and dirty thoughts associated with masturbating to porn. You are going to project that shit to the world. This may seem crazy but your thoughts eventually do become reality. If you're feeling good and postive, thinking healthy thoughts, most people want to be around you. Some days I go around making a conscious effort to think about things that will make me happy. And I'll feel like a fucking God.
Like others have said, it's just a self-esteem thing. I notice when a guy is confident and comfortable in his own skin. And that's what attracts me to them. During this challenge, you're testing your own self-discipline and strength. Most people gain some sort of confidence as they stop submitting to their struggles. It's not like an Axe commercial where girls flock to you the second you start NoFap, as some here make it to be
Its half and half. I'm actually a very good looking guy in real life, no joke. Even on pmo, I still get attention from girls but its like a weird iffy type of attention that turns me off rather then something I welcome. Somedays I get attention, somedays I dont. On nofap however, the attraction is much stronger and more welcoming. Girls are just more receptive. So is it placebo? I believe it is and isn't based on my experience with NoFap and pmo of 8 years. Ive also stated befor, I do believe there is an invisible aura around a person that a person can feel and detect. So nofap isnt going to land you a girl in your laps just because you did nofap. Life is like a painting canvas and with pmo you are painting with your fingers but with nofap you are painting with a well made brush. Also, if you think you are the shit, people will treat you like it. AS long as you truly believe and not just faking it. Nofap will give you that confidence.
I make eye contact more, today at the gas station the cashier and I held it for about 5 seconds that's has never happened before till I started this 20 days ago.
please elaborate on what you mean by "confidence", and why girls find it so attractive? I never understood that. I feel that its somewhat vague when girls say they find confidence attractive in men, confident in what exactly? Thanks for sharing that with me but it would be nice to hear an assessment from a not so good looking guy, but apparently it doesn't matter how you look its more about how confident you are and thats what gets the girls dripping wet. ooooh Bobyousgotit. I'm surprised the whole gas station didn't blow up cause things were getting WAY to hot in there. smoove man smoove.
@Ryuk200 Dude it's not like axe commercial where girl gonna chase u But it's definitely improve your confidence & self esteem even your appearance
Yes exactly right but don't think that every girl is go fall into your lap but by you making eye contact with her showing that you're making some progress.
It's the thought you have in your mind when you're talking to someone - whether it's power or weakness. I was the with some friends at pizza but, everything felt regular until I went to the toilet, looked in the mirror and noticed my beard and face a bit I was like yeah not bad. Went back outside and my friends picked up on my beard and started asking me questions intently with a lot of attention. As if id changed that very moment...
I would say its how you perceive your appearance that matters! Working out really really helps with that, feeling good means you command yourself more
I think when you stop objectifying women, they find that attractive, and normal man-woman interaction is resumed. This man-woman interaction is based on healthy sexual attraction, so therefore this becomes stronger. When you objectify women in a way, on some level they have to reciprocate by judging you, when that barrier is gone, real interaction can begin. Confidence is when you have removed all the barriers of fear, shame, guilt etc. and women like men who have broken free of those chains because it indicates they have got their lives together and this is a foundation that can be built on.
I am a man who can admit when he was wrong, I was partially wrong for the most part, it seems that I was checked out 4 times today and all 4 females smiled at me and some even stared, I didn't even smile back. Well basically I made it a habit to do my groceries online to save time wasted on going to the supermarket and getting side tracked by things I should or shouldn't buy instead of sticking the the essential list, but today I said fuck it lets walk there instead, I wasn't even thinking about this thread so as I got there half way this lady smiled at me for no reason what so ever, then it occurred to me that I should probably keep tallies on every moment so I could put this myth to rest....... then when I got to the supermarket I picked up my basket and went to the fruit section to pick up some bannans and this other girl who was picking up gave me a look and lopped sided smile moved aside, I was like okay, up till then I was telling myself that its just causal kindness and courtesy but when I got everything I wanted and self checked out my groceries, I took the different route home and walked down the the walking path next a highway, then what happens? 2 pretty hot women both check me out in their car at the same time, what was funny is out the other chick in passenger seat next to the driver, she was on the other side and she stuck her neck out just to look. I caught them awkwardly staring for a long period of time, if it pheromones then how are they able to smell it while inside their car? I admit I was fully skeptical, I normally get a decent amount of attention while I pmo or practiced NoFap but this was weird considered how much I criticised it on reddit. I think think its wise to take pictures of my face and body (clothed and topless) before you fapped so you can compared to how you look now the same why they monitor progress in the fitness community. but then again Jae said that its 100% confidence that females find attraction and not infact the looks....... maybe perhaps now that I am fully aware that I may look weaker and miserable when I fapped maybe theres a way to voluntarily to exhibit those behaviours anytime, Im using nofap to cure my fetishism and porn addiction Im not here to cut it out of my life for good.
That's exactly what I was thinking stop objectifying women be yourself and you'll be fine and also try to show a little confidence as well girls like that about men. Women don't want fake men they want real men what the feminists are trying to do is to basically make anything and everything as rape or sexist.
See this is what I want to avoid looking like...the one occasion I got a look from a female it we both noticeably caught each other.. What do you think about all this stuff?
