THE 100 DAY SPARTAN CHALLENGE (OPEN)

That was amazing,Thanks for sharing, NOFAP is not going to magically solve all of your problems, NOFAP just gives me three things:
1- High Energy
2- Creativity
3- The ability to focus

 

It's great that you've defined a long term goal. One great goal setting technique from Productive Flourishing is to break down your big goals into 2 or 3 goals for the next quarter, and 3 big goals for next month, 3 important tasks for next week. You get the idea.

Write these down, put them on a page stuck to a wall and DON'T add more goals.

You might have to update them at some point after a few months if you feel a true change in direction... but piling on extra goals and projects unrelated to the main ones is the reason people get stuck 99% of the time (just happened with me this week lol)

 

Day 10

 

73

 

Hey Kratos! Still going strong on Day 5. Drove up to watch Bill Burr in concert last night with my wife and had a great time. Guy really is a comedic master and it was awesome getting to enjoy another experience like that around a bunch of people. I think we desperately need more of that in our lives so that we remember there are greater connections in our lives than strong Wi-Fi ha.


My advice to those in their mid 20s (and most likely to people at all stages of life to be honest) is that you need to adopt two important mentalities if you want to make the most of your time from here on out:

1) You won't get these years back. This is said ad nauseum on all sorts of sites/videos about motivation but it's really true. All of this time that you are wasting by not sitting down, coming up with a plan for your goals in life, and actually executing solutions towards them, you will never be given again. This is important not just in terms of pmo but also when you take things to the next level in life (relationships, career, experiences). You need to sit down and come up with goals for all facets of life and attack each one so that you don't blink and wonder where 5 years of your life went. Believe me, life will fill in all available time gaps in your daily routine and days will get faster every year. Given this truth you might as well do your best to make sure you are moving towards the achievements you want. For example, at 25 I realized I was still living a very adolescent, party boy lifestyle in many regards so I sat down and came up with major goals in life. Off the top of my head I recall some were immediate and others were long term but they included: getting into grad school, earning a 4.0 GPA, buying a house, earning at least $100k annually, and being married or on the path to getting married. I was able to make each of those things happen over that span of 5 years but it was only through intentional decisions and actions. It's important that you don't stop that mentality for long after you achieve those goals. It's fine to take breaks and enjoy your accomplishments but getting too complacent should be avoided as much as possible because it only leads to negative outcomes. I'm now focused on goals of being a good father/husband, growing my business more and making it more efficient, becoming completely debt free, and achieving a net worth of over $1mm by 40. By no means are these the goals anyone else needs to adopt but it's what I chose to go after because it aligns with my overall yearning to be free to enjoy my life how I see fit as I get older. I also want to be a good example for my family hence why I am trying to go even more hardcore with stopping pmo completely and doing this challenge.

2) Nobody is coming to save you. This is sort of an addendum to the first piece of advice but warrants its own section in my opinion. I may take this to more of an extreme being an entrepreneur and self employed but it's a crucial outlook you need to adopt if you want to make the most of your time and talents in life. While it's always great when people do give you a hand and come through for you, you need to not have that expectation so that you take full responsibility for all your outcomes. I still struggle with times of thinking or saying others are to blame for things that went wrong but if you follow things enough levels back it almost always becomes clear that your actions/decisions are the cause of your situation. This applies directly to pmo btw. Blockers, accountability partners, and even this forum are tools that can help but ultimately it is on you to do what you set out to do. Remind yourself every day that no matter what hardship you are facing that you alone need to find a way to overcome it and not fall into traps of self pity or self destruction. As we all know, this is isn't easy. It's even harder if it has been part of your life for decades as it was for me. As an older millennial I was part of the very first wave that was exposed to internet pornography (today's version of crack/cigarettes in my humble opinion). The instant gratification and curiosity of a young man full of hormones combined with the shockingly fast acceptance and normalization of its usage has been a huge detriment to an entire generation and now new ones are suffering as well. There's nothing we can do to change our past but the present and future belong to us entirely if we accept that no one else is going to fix our problems, habits, or addictions for us. Truthfully they shouldn't anyway. Life is about personal growth through overcoming obstacles so even if someone were trying to save us we wouldn't gain as much as if we did it for ourselves. So yeah, nobody is coming to save you and as much as that can sound depressing or scary at first, it's a good thing.

That's really all I've got to offer right now in terms of larger advice and it's probably things everyone here has heard a version of but that doesn't make them any less true. We all need to remind ourselves from time to time to appreciate the time we do have and try to make the most of it. My biggest regret is all the times I fell short and didn't utilize my full potential but I'm doing whatever I can now to try and atone for that. That way I can hold my head high in the twilight of my life knowing I choose to keep fighting for a better version of myself.

Keep going everyone!

 

Day 6
Going strong

 

Day 7 and 8

 

Day 4​

I went for a walk, I did workout after 1 year

I feel really good

 

Day 1...

 

Day 11
Urges have been very strong but my will to keep healing is still stronger. Been able to spend quality time with friends and working to achieve a new balance in my life with the first week of the semester done. God speed Spartans

 

That was an amazing advice, thanks for sharing.

 

Day 22 completed. Life is so fucked. At the lowest point, but its gonna get worse ig. But I will hold on. I will fight. I feel like I'm being choked, surrounded. A bloody battle this is gonna be. And with all this going on, my brain responds by giving me urges from time to time -- as though it's a channel for escape. But I know its not, its far from that. It will only make me weaker. Can't afford weakness now. I need all that little strength from every inch of my being to add up and just gasp for breath and then punch this whole crap in the face! Gosh. Amidst whatever's going on, my goals, exam and all look like a far away horizon covered in dust and ppl trying to crush me. Life turned from pursuing my passion, to working hard to simply function, to fighting to barely survive. But I don't care and I will take it from here. I will accept that this is what is given to me and fight it from here. Every time I fight to make something better, I am beaten down by yet another new thing. But it's alright! I will put my all in this war. No room for weakness. Goal now is to survive and gather strength. Will go step by step. Beat down one opponent after another. I know I am meant to win, this is my life and I will fight! Gosh I am so frustrated, I am losing composure. But you gotta do this girl, just do this, you can do this, because its YOU.

 

Real strength is being able to push on when you got none left

 

Was jammin out to old songs, and this came up in my playlist, reminding me of 2 years ago around November - January when I was walking home from at 4 am after my bicycle tire deflated
Dunno why, but I almost started crying for no damn reason even though I've heard this MJ song before, maybe it was the realization of the lyrics finally striking deep and that I gotta make a change today to move that man in the mirror
During that walk home, the hour and half trudge after standing on my feet for 10 hours felt like 3 minutes and I think that was when I started to slowly evolve and grow, whether I realized it or not cause I'm thinkin I woulda quit PMO regardless if I found nofap or not
Anyway, point I wanted to make is I took a look in that mirror and made that change, and no message coulda been any clearer that PMO isn't the answer
It's still an uphill battle but I'm for once, happy for myself in this short life even though I'm still depressed and lost, and if any of you got time, take a walk around your neighborhood (within safety) at night with earbuds, see if it does something for you

 

The first point is really good, I've long since accepted the years I spent browsing for porn is long gone and there's no use worrying about it
The 2nd point has me thinking about myself, and I have some personal questions where I'm lost and wandering by myself for quite a while and just need a push in the right direction if that's OK

That's that, and this is this