There a lot of info that talks about the damaging effects of porn....but whats been your biggest issue related to P addiction?
It controlled my life i.e. I was a slave to it and couldn't stop. I enjoyed it but couldnt control the urge. When I first started nofap I could control not orasming, but I still looked at porn. Nofap opened my eyes to the addictive nature of porn that gets kids at a young age and captivates them for life. I first saw it at 11 not even looking for it. Really fucked up glad I finally kicked the habit today is day 86 of hardcore no PMO and never felt better never going back to porn.
Yeah its shocking how young boys are exposed to hard core cr@py material ... i liked a you tube video called the "demise of guys" , talks about the effect of porn/internet addictions on the new generations making them fail in almost every aspects of their lifes. ....Glad to hear that you are making good progress , keep going
Along with distorting my view of women while growing up, I am also struggling with the fact that I still live at home at age 26. Video games and drugs were also contributing factors. Porn was just another vice that inhibited my potential from developing earlier in life.
The most negative impact porn had made on me was objectiving women. During intensive chronic maturbation to porn i used to look on women like object, whenever i saw some beatiful women i got INSTANTLY aroused, that means boner. I had boner everytime, i coudnt stop it, its like my brain was programmed to instant sexual thoughts. You can imagine that with that mindset you cant talk with women, its impossible. Sexual frustration, that it is. Even if i liked girl i coudnt talk to her becauuse i wa embarassed of my boner, that is pathethic. Fortunately for me it is slowly changing, Im truly now intrested in starting converation with women because i dont see them anymore as sexual objects, but I belive i still need more time. Btw i am on 25 days abstinence, hardmode from porn/masturbation and all erotic movies, images, social media etc.
Yeah definitely porn distort your vision of women, there are times that you just feel and act ackward around them causing them to distance ,and when you feel alone and rejected .... Guess what ..You get more and more of it
It teared away my confidence in every aspect of life, objectifying women rather respecting proved a big huge harm, it actually brought me into fantasy world, solution to every problem was Pmo, physical harms r even worse
Having a cloudy mind. A mental barrier that does not make you think straight. I used to do really well in school as I could memorize and understand concepts in an instant. Now, I just feel stupid and my brain processes information really slow. This is why I joined NoFap. It's getting better though as I am abstaining from Porn.
It destroyed my relationship and intimacy with my wife plus I got PIED on top of it! It has been over 2 months now since my reboot and I feel better on a personal level and slowly working on reconnecting with my beautiful wife. Taking it real slow with the PIED issue, don't want to force it and let things get back to normal on their own although I see improvement. Take it one day at a time and find positive things to do with your life. You do that and everything will fall into place.
@spartanroma2800 @BenBozonian Glad to know that you guys are making progress, keep going , taking one day at a time its the key
I got catfished and blackmailed online. That could have been avoided if I listened to my actual brain instead of my penis brain. Overwhelming sexual desire such that it clouds your judgement is unhealthy. I've learned the hard way about that.
My biggest issue was getting the toxic idea that my dick was too small. I became convinced of that in my esrly teens, and that led to confidence and self esteem issues. I passed up many opportunities for relationships because of fear of rejection over dick size. This, of course, merely pushed me more into the porn cycle. Now, my penis cant really be described as "big", but its fine. It took me many years to fully realize that this was a problem entirely in my own mind, and porn had to go. Not only do I have the confidence that was lacking for so long, but my physica/sexual function is back to where it should me. Best of all, I have the best girlfriend I could have ever hoped for. FU, porn!
Yep, I know of a friend in the exact same boat. He had low self esteem because of he believed he was small, so he was very shy and withdrawn. As a result, he also got addicted to PMO. When he finally got into a relationship, his girlfriend made him get a second circumcision because he has some extra foreskin and wasn't full exposed, which was another blow to his esteem. Nonetheless, they conceived a child. After the two of them married, the wench had an affair and left him for another. My buddy was in despair again to his size and planned to never date again, and I reminded him it appeared to have worked fine. He later found out the b**** was a serial monogamous wench, with a total of three children before she met the new guy. He is unfortunately back to PMO. I care about him and hope that I can help him beat that addiction.
Wow @Burner1 , you really lost a job because of porn. @ax345 I'm glad that you realised it was a problem on your mind. I have been studying anatomy lately (seriously) and the vagina has the ability to adapt to the penis size, so size doesn't really matters. You penis only need to be hard enough to avoid folding, or bend. As for my own experience, I had a compulsion for porn AND games since I was very young. And once I dismissed a beautiful girl to play FreeCiv. The poor girl tried several times, even she came to my room to play with me and I thought that she made me nervous and hindered my gameplay. Just let me tell ya, she was gorgeous, the moment she left I closed the game and thought: "what the fuck have I just done?"
Thanks for your thoughts, @Burner1 and @Frühlingstimme. I have spent some time on forums for men who have - or think they have - a penis that is too small. It is a very bleak existence for many men. Some truly are so small that intercourse is very difficult or even futile, but many, many men are like I was. We are in the normal size range, but smaller than what you see in most porn, and get a skewed idea of what is normal.
@ax345 glad to hear that you took that toxic thoughts out of your head ...that is a very comon issue , porn distort perception of reality causing us to feel frustated and insecure.
Definetly porn take out your Energy and motivitation causing us to isolate in our own Selfish world ....
The positive side is that you realize how porn was affecting your personal life and you made changes ..by the way ,i think that one big step to a free porn life or any kind of addction,its just getting away from toxic and negative people that just reinforce negative patterns