18 months of flatline.

I honestly think what Angel said is spot on. You have to pick your lifestyle apart and really consider what could be positively and negatively affecting your recovery. How long have you been recovering for? Are you having wet dreams? Are you peeking? Do you workout regularly? Literally the whole 9. And if you do it properly, you will begin to notice patterns and opportunities to improve.

My current issue is also around libido and lack of feeling/mood still. The best advice I was given (and can give) is to spend as much time as you can socialising and with others. What makes it difficult to do this is that 90% of the time you don't feel to, but if you want to get out of that state do your best to socialise. There is a specific reason why socialising speeds up a reboot.

 

I have definitely been trying to stay active and I have been socializing a lot. Just feels like ehh. I use to work out hardcore for 13yrs and lost the drive when I went into flatline 6 months ago.

 

For now just keep going, I would say you're further ahead than most. You're not relapsing regularly and struggling to get a streak going. You're dead set on a route, you just need to keep on rebooting and have your wits about you. You're doing good work.

 

Relapsing is only done because I have a gf. So that’s been the struggle unfortunately.

 

Yeah I totally understand that. How have you navigated through having a girlfriend while rebooting? Have you been able to talk to her about NoFap and rebooting at all?

 

My gf is definitely aware what’s going on. The thing is also I can’t hold off sex. It’s hard to break up because we have been together for you two years and the past 12yrs we’ve been on and off. I know her since I was 14 and now I’m 32. Like I had planned marriage and kids with her.

 

Day 4 check in

 

When you say she knows what's going on, do you mean she is aware you need to reboot and can't have sex for now? I don't mean to pry and no worries if you don't feel to answer.

 

Yeah she’s aware of the reboot and no sex. I don’t blame her man. We all have our needs. So it can definitely be frustrating. Idk. This definitely feels like a forever thing at times. Definitely feels like like I gotta delay plans and curtain things.

 

I’ll be honest, I hear your situation and honestly think you are in the best position you can be to recover, (or at least it sounds that way!) Get on that rewiring as much as you can and surely you’ll heal.

 

I have the same problems. I am desperate need of help. It has only been 2 months with nofap. The first month my erection was hard and sex drive high. But now I can't hardly get it up, and it is a pain in the ass and honestly embarrising when I am trying to have sex with my girl. Considering doing 20 min of yoga everyday that strenghten the pelvic floor. There is no point in doing this unless I get all the benefits AND is able to satisfy partner(s).

 

Day 5 we got this guys!

 

I will give it to you straight:

You cannot do both. You cannot have sex with your girlfriend and have a clean/easy reboot. Unfortunately it is not possible. Each time you Orgasm, you will likely drop back into a flatline. You need the flatline to recover, there isn’t a way around it I am sad to say.

A lot of rebooters will spend months trying to find a method or way to get around going through the flatline so they dont have to tell their other half what they are going through. This wastes valuable rebooting time. Tell your girlfriend about your reboot or continue to hide it from her and attempting to avoid sex. Yes I know it is a hard road, but these are the rules of recovery.

A) tell her about your reboot, rewire gradually
B) avoid telling her, continue as you are

 

Thanks man, I hope so. I definitely feel that I can do this but get discouraged reading about four year flatlines. On another forum some guy said he’s been in flatline for 10years.

 

Ok